DEI events

[Anonymous]

If you don’t go, how does that convey belonging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I love that schools, especially many of the primarily white private schools in the area, have these. I have a question though. We're at a new school that has a family DEIB (diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging) event coming up. The communications for the event say that it is open to all school families and it's about making sure all families are in a welcoming environment. In reality, what do these events look like? As a white family should we skip as it's not our place, or are they truly about bringing the entire school together? Since we're still so new, I'm trying to attend as many events as our schedule will allow. However, I do not want to step outside of my lane and intrude on anyone's safe space.

Is it an event with a speaker? or a picnic?

Speaker: anyone should attend
Picnic: The white families are not the target, but the school will not let the organizers hold a school sponsored event where "everyone" isn't welcome.

Ours is a Welcome Back Meet and Greet event held by the DEI office (not a parent affinity group event) - it says all are welcome. I'd assume that means white families too and I plan to go. FWIW - DEI covers not just race and ethnicity but also gender, identity, socioeconomic status, and physical differences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I love that schools, especially many of the primarily white private schools in the area, have these. I have a question though. We're at a new school that has a family DEIB (diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging) event coming up. The communications for the event say that it is open to all school families and it's about making sure all families are in a welcoming environment. In reality, what do these events look like? As a white family should we skip as it's not our place, or are they truly about bringing the entire school together? Since we're still so new, I'm trying to attend as many events as our schedule will allow. However, I do not want to step outside of my lane and intrude on anyone's safe space.

Is it an event with a speaker? or a picnic?

Speaker: anyone should attend
Picnic: The white families are not the target, but the school will not let the organizers hold a school sponsored event where "everyone" isn't welcome.

Ours is a Welcome Back Meet and Greet event held by the DEI office (not a parent affinity group event) - it says all are welcome. I'd assume that means white families too and I plan to go. FWIW - DEI covers not just race and ethnicity but also gender, identity, socioeconomic status, and physical differences.

This is so true. Too often we forget that DEI is supposed to cover all marginalized populations. As someone who works in the disability space, which is often forgotten about in DEI, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I love that schools, especially many of the primarily white private schools in the area, have these. I have a question though. We're at a new school that has a family DEIB (diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging) event coming up. The communications for the event say that it is open to all school families and it's about making sure all families are in a welcoming environment. In reality, what do these events look like? As a white family should we skip as it's not our place, or are they truly about bringing the entire school together? Since we're still so new, I'm trying to attend as many events as our schedule will allow. However, I do not want to step outside of my lane and intrude on anyone's safe space.

Is it an event with a speaker? or a picnic?

Speaker: anyone should attend
Picnic: The white families are not the target, but the school will not let the organizers hold a school sponsored event where "everyone" isn't welcome.

Ours is a Welcome Back Meet and Greet event held by the DEI office (not a parent affinity group event) - it says all are welcome. I'd assume that means white families too and I plan to go. FWIW - DEI covers not just race and ethnicity but also gender, identity, socioeconomic status, and physical differences.

This is so true. Too often we forget that DEI is supposed to cover all marginalized populations. As someone who works in the disability space, which is often forgotten about in DEI, thank you.

When you add all those groups up they are probably the majority. Which makes these sort of events pointless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I love that schools, especially many of the primarily white private schools in the area, have these. I have a question though. We're at a new school that has a family DEIB (diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging) event coming up. The communications for the event say that it is open to all school families and it's about making sure all families are in a welcoming environment. In reality, what do these events look like? As a white family should we skip as it's not our place, or are they truly about bringing the entire school together? Since we're still so new, I'm trying to attend as many events as our schedule will allow. However, I do not want to step outside of my lane and intrude on anyone's safe space.

Is it an event with a speaker? or a picnic?

Speaker: anyone should attend
Picnic: The white families are not the target, but the school will not let the organizers hold a school sponsored event where "everyone" isn't welcome.

Ours is a Welcome Back Meet and Greet event held by the DEI office (not a parent affinity group event) - it says all are welcome. I'd assume that means white families too and I plan to go. FWIW - DEI covers not just race and ethnicity but also gender, identity, socioeconomic status, and physical differences.

This is so true. Too often we forget that DEI is supposed to cover all marginalized populations. As someone who works in the disability space, which is often forgotten about in DEI, thank you.

When you add all those groups up they are probably the majority. Which makes these sort of events pointless.

Then, you are missing the point. Having open discussions about DEI is what makes everyone see that it can affect almost everyone....it's not about carving out differences....it's about understanding and embracing the.

[Anonymous]

them..(not the.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m another white liberal parent at a private school, I’ve attended a few diversity events at our school and enjoyed them. I’ve been disappointed to see that the families who otherwise attend everything at our school don’t make it to the diversity events. Our school must be 75% white but these events are mostly attended by minority families. I have felt welcome by the families of color there, I just wish they had more allies.

They are used to not having allies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m another white liberal parent at a private school, I’ve attended a few diversity events at our school and enjoyed them. I’ve been disappointed to see that the families who otherwise attend everything at our school don’t make it to the diversity events. Our school must be 75% white but these events are mostly attended by minority families. I have felt welcome by the families of color there, I just wish they had more allies.

They are used to not having allies.

White people who describe themselves as “allies” immediately make me cringe and internally eye roll. -Black woman

Enjoy your silly DEI event!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I love that schools, especially many of the primarily white private schools in the area, have these. I have a question though. We're at a new school that has a family DEIB (diversity, equity, inclusion, and belonging) event coming up. The communications for the event say that it is open to all school families and it's about making sure all families are in a welcoming environment. In reality, what do these events look like? As a white family should we skip as it's not our place, or are they truly about bringing the entire school together? Since we're still so new, I'm trying to attend as many events as our schedule will allow. However, I do not want to step outside of my lane and intrude on anyone's safe space.

Is it an event with a speaker? or a picnic?

Speaker: anyone should attend
Picnic: The white families are not the target, but the school will not let the organizers hold a school sponsored event where "everyone" isn't welcome.

Ours is a Welcome Back Meet and Greet event held by the DEI office (not a parent affinity group event) - it says all are welcome. I'd assume that means white families too and I plan to go. FWIW - DEI covers not just race and ethnicity but also gender, identity, socioeconomic status, and physical differences.

This is so true. Too often we forget that DEI is supposed to cover all marginalized populations. As someone who works in the disability space, which is often forgotten about in DEI, thank you.

When you add all those groups up they are probably the majority. Which makes these sort of events pointless.

Then, you are missing the point. Having open discussions about DEI is what makes everyone see that it can affect almost everyone....it's not about carving out differences....it's about understanding and embracing the.

No one needs a specialized event to do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m another white liberal parent at a private school, I’ve attended a few diversity events at our school and enjoyed them. I’ve been disappointed to see that the families who otherwise attend everything at our school don’t make it to the diversity events. Our school must be 75% white but these events are mostly attended by minority families. I have felt welcome by the families of color there, I just wish they had more allies.

They are used to not having allies.

White people who describe themselves as “allies” immediately make me cringe and internally eye roll. -Black woman

Enjoy your silly DEI event!

What is a better way to phrase the PP’s sentiment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m another white liberal parent at a private school, I’ve attended a few diversity events at our school and enjoyed them. I’ve been disappointed to see that the families who otherwise attend everything at our school don’t make it to the diversity events. Our school must be 75% white but these events are mostly attended by minority families. I have felt welcome by the families of color there, I just wish they had more allies.

They are used to not having allies.

White people who describe themselves as “allies” immediately make me cringe and internally eye roll. -Black woman

Enjoy your silly DEI event!

That's so rude. -Another Black woman

I associate the term more with the LGBTQ community, but it wouldn't make me cringe if someone used it... it'd just make me pause for a second. It's just a term and I would know the intent behind it. But there's really no need for a term imo. If you're a friend, you're a friend. If you support, show your support. Don't hide or be afraid to show up.

To the PP who first used the term, "more support" works perfectly.

[Anonymous]

Our DEIB event is great! I wish more people came- it's about sharing commonalities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our DEIB event is great! I wish more people came- it's about sharing commonalities.

What actually happens at the event that focuses on “commonalities”? Do tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m another white liberal parent at a private school, I’ve attended a few diversity events at our school and enjoyed them. I’ve been disappointed to see that the families who otherwise attend everything at our school don’t make it to the diversity events. Our school must be 75% white but these events are mostly attended by minority families. I have felt welcome by the families of color there, I just wish they had more allies.

They are used to not having allies.

White people who describe themselves as “allies” immediately make me cringe and internally eye roll. -Black woman

Enjoy your silly DEI event!

That's so rude. -Another Black woman

I associate the term more with the LGBTQ community, but it wouldn't make me cringe if someone used it... it'd just make me pause for a second. It's just a term and I would know the intent behind it. But there's really no need for a term imo. If you're a friend, you're a friend. If you support, show your support. Don't hide or be afraid to show up.

To the PP who first used the term, "more support" works perfectly.

Yes, everyone in the DEI category needs “more support.” They are so weak and in need of “more support” everywhere they go. They cannot function without “more support.” If you see someone who is other than a white cis hetero man, the first thing that pops into your mind is that this person needs “more support.” So patronizing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m another white liberal parent at a private school, I’ve attended a few diversity events at our school and enjoyed them. I’ve been disappointed to see that the families who otherwise attend everything at our school don’t make it to the diversity events. Our school must be 75% white but these events are mostly attended by minority families. I have felt welcome by the families of color there, I just wish they had more allies.

They are used to not having allies.

White people who describe themselves as “allies” immediately make me cringe and internally eye roll. -Black woman

Enjoy your silly DEI event!

That's so rude. -Another Black woman

I associate the term more with the LGBTQ community, but it wouldn't make me cringe if someone used it... it'd just make me pause for a second. It's just a term and I would know the intent behind it. But there's really no need for a term imo. If you're a friend, you're a friend. If you support, show your support. Don't hide or be afraid to show up.

To the PP who first used the term, "more support" works perfectly.

Yes, everyone in the DEI category needs “more support.” They are so weak and in need of “more support” everywhere they go. They cannot function without “more support.” If you see someone who is other than a white cis hetero man, the first thing that pops into your mind is that this person needs “more support.” So patronizing.

That response is eye roll worthy. Get over yourself. If you don't like it, Just. Don't. Go. Duuuhhhh.

Scout's honor, you won't be missed.