50/50 in practice doesn't work for the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your question?

OP. My question is how do people who can't afford to live in the same school district generally managed a 50/50 schedule?

If my ex insisted on 50-50 I would figure out a way to live in close proximity.

[Anonymous]

That sounds tough OP. This is the exact reason I’m sticking it out until the kids are in college or least the youngest can drive. I know that’s not feasible for everyone but it’s a huge sacrifice on my part for the sake of the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your question?

OP. My question is how do people who can't afford to live in the same school district generally managed a 50/50 schedule?

If my ex insisted on 50-50 I would figure out a way to live in close proximity.

What if you don't like the area they moved to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your question?

OP. My question is how do people who can't afford to live in the same school district generally managed a 50/50 schedule?

Only one parent needs to be in the school district, you only need one eligible address to keep your kids in the same school.

We are divorcing and selling our single family house in the suburbs. We will then move into one townhome and one condo/apartment in the same area. The kids will stay in the same schools, we will live within a 5 min drive/15 min walk from each other. We discovered that in our little part of NoVa, school boundaries are very specifically drawn, our elem school has no apartments that are zoned to the school for instance. So the one of us who wants a condo/apartment for personal reasons wont live in the school district but will still be very close.

Our custody agreement is 50/50 but I imagine it will end up closer to at least 60/40 in reality. Even with living so close.

I would rather have a very tight budget and live as close as possible to my kids than live 25 mins from them. Im sorry your ex wife had to make that decision.

[Anonymous]

I found that the older our only child gets, the more we listen to their wishes. Because I live close to school, sports, and friends and have a better homework set-up, and I'm better at scheduling things, my house is the school-night house, but it ends up at Dad's every other weekend, plus typically an extra weeknight. It has nothing to do with favorite parent—Dad is the favorite because he is more lenient.

[Anonymous]

So, what's the problem? Why can't the kid live with just one of you. My kid hasn't stayed over the last ten years. They do go to school based on my address though.
Ex hasn't paid the minim child support that was supposed to go to 529, and never paid the required health insurance.
The kid is fine. What is decided in courts doesn't always work out. We didn't want to go back to court as they move so slowly. Your kid is old enough to say where they want to be. Not sure why the other parent wouldn't listen to them. I let the kid stay in dad's bigger house even when all told me if I don't make the kid come to my house, I don't love my kid. I don't see it like that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is your question?

OP. My question is how do people who can't afford to live in the same school district generally managed a 50/50 schedule?

1. They both move to the school district they can afford and / or rearrange their schedules

2. The primary parent stays at the family residence, the primary earner moves to something very small within a reasonable distance, and spends his time with the kids mostly at the house where the ex resides

3. It ends up not being 50/50 de facto

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been divorced for 1 year and my son (14) said he can't do the back and forth anymore. We tried so many schedules last year and our kids spent a lot of time travelling. My ex wife couldn't afford to leave nearby. There are no room rents in our area. There are few apartments to rent and the cost is prohibitive. My ex lives at least 25 minutes away. Her work schedule makes it almost impossible sometimes for her to pick up the kids during the week for drop off/ pick up. This year the kids re going to be with me Monday to Thursday and Friday to Sunday they will be with their mom. But if their mom has plans some weekends they can stay with me this way.

Why is her economic position so different from yours following the divorce? Typically, in a divorce, you split assets 50/50, and child support/alimony gets incomes closer to equal.

OP here. Our economic situation is not that much different. We did split everything 50/50. Neither of us requires alimony or child support. Our salary are not that far off. We sold the house and split the proceeds. We are both renting, but as I said earlier it's prohibitive to rent here and the supply is very limited. In fact I am spending far more of my income towards rent than her, but at least our kids remain in the same school district. Our divorce agreement does not have any clause (nor did we want it) that says we must live close to one another say within 10 mins or so.

A lot of words but still unclear as to why your ex works long hours, but per your own op, can’t afford to live anywhere nearby where you can afford to live and yet is not entitled to any child support.

[Anonymous]

She's probably doing the smart thing and saving while he's clinging to a trendier area so he can get laid

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you move closer to your ex instead of blaming her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don’t you move closer to your ex instead of blaming her?

Lol. She most likely divorce him so now he has to move close to her lmao. How about she gets a higher paying job she can move closer to him.

[Anonymous]

And yet men continue to think that divorce financially benefits women. Your DW can't afford to live near you. WTF. Why don't you start there and help her out since you two got into this mess together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And yet men continue to think that divorce financially benefits women. Your DW can't afford to live near you. WTF. Why don't you start there and help her out since you two got into this mess together?

No he shouldn't f**g help her because she is most likely file for divorce. Do you think women will be helping their ex DHs in this case lol. Women are vengeful creature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And yet men continue to think that divorce financially benefits women. Your DW can't afford to live near you. WTF. Why don't you start there and help her out since you two got into this mess together?

He already said,

“Our economic situation is not that much different. We did split everything 50/50. Neither of us requires alimony or child support. Our salary are not that far off. We sold the house and split the proceeds.”

Therefore divorce didn’t benefit either of them financially, nitwit. He can’t help her, nor should he, as they’ve already agreed to an equitable split.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your question?

OP. My question is how do people who can't afford to live in the same school district generally managed a 50/50 schedule?

If my ex insisted on 50-50 I would figure out a way to live in close proximity.

What if you don't like the area they moved to?

I’m actually facing this. I’ll suck it up because it’s about my kid.