If you live in an accepting community, does the intolerance in other areas scare you?

[Anonymous]

I don't feel safe taking my trans kids to Florida. They made it illegal for her to use the bathroom.
I don't hate everybody in Florida or think that she's going to enter Florid and immediately be arrested. But it doesn't make me feel like she is safe there.

[Anonymous]

That is kid....not kids. Just one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my husband for nearly 25 years. We are rich and white. We have incredible privilege and power. We live in DC.

We’ve considered moving to Boston, San Francisco or San Diego. We own a house in rehoboth. Those are safe places.

I would literally never consider moving to Virginia. And definitely not Florida. It’s unsafe for my family and everyone know it. I don’t want our kids growing up in that environment and I don’t want to live in that environment. So I don’t. That is what power and privilege gets you.

Virginia lesbian here and I have no idea what you are talking about.

You must be new to VA. The VA GOP is batsht. It has only in recent years that they’ve been held in check. But they are there still trying to push their anti-LGBTQ policies on the entire state.

Same-sex marriage protection was only codified in VA this year:
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2024/03/anti-lgbtq-governor-signs-bill-codifying-same-sex-marriage-in-virginia/

OK, can someone explain to me why I should be scared?

2024 Virginia is so much better than 1994 was pretty much anywhere.

[Anonymous]

You have clearly never been to Key West. Florida is very welcoming to LGBTQIA.

The highest paid law enforcement officer in the Florida college system is the law enforcement supervisor at a Division I college in Florida.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't feel safe taking my trans kids to Florida. They made it illegal for her to use the bathroom.
I don't hate everybody in Florida or think that she's going to enter Florid and immediately be arrested. But it doesn't make me feel like she is safe there.

Your kid would be welcome at any church in Florida and every town hangs the rainbow flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't feel safe taking my trans kids to Florida. They made it illegal for her to use the bathroom.
I don't hate everybody in Florida or think that she's going to enter Florid and immediately be arrested. But it doesn't make me feel like she is safe there.

Your kid would be welcome at any church in Florida and every town hangs the rainbow flag.

This is such a lie. Not only would her child not be welcome everywhere, they’ve made it so trans people can’t visit and use a bathroom in an area, rest stop, or other public building.

On top of that, for actual Florida residents that are transgender, they’re basically making it illegal to exist. The state is highly transphobic and I personally know a trans woman that is in the process of selling her house next month and moving up here. I’m trying to talk her into DC or MD but she’s looking at PA. Between the drivers license changes and the changes to disallow nurse practitioners from prescribing HRT to trans people (but still to cis people) the state is the worst in the country.

No one that cares about any trans person should support that hate state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People deserve to be fully accepted for who they are, not just “tolerated.”

When you live in one of those hated states the standard changes.

[Anonymous]

If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?

https://api.time.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/white-nationalist-rally-charlottesville-violence-16.jpg?resize=1200,800

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?

https://api.time.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/white-nationalist-rally-charlottesville-violence-16.jpg?resize=1200,800

Talk about cherry-picking.
What happened there has had absolutely no impact on the day-to-day lives of the vast majority of Virginians, queer or straight.

The likelihood of being a victim of violent crime is quite lower as a queer person living in suburban NoVa than for any person living in NYC. Like, magnitudes lower. I don’t understand people thinking NYC or SF are so much better for gays when they are really less safe for just about everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?

https://api.time.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/white-nationalist-rally-charlottesville-violence-16.jpg?resize=1200,800

Talk about cherry-picking.
What happened there has had absolutely no impact on the day-to-day lives of the vast majority of Virginians, queer or straight.

The likelihood of being a victim of violent crime is quite lower as a queer person living in suburban NoVa than for any person living in NYC. Like, magnitudes lower. I don’t understand people thinking NYC or SF are so much better for gays when they are really less safe for just about everyone.

What about the whole trans thing in schools?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?

https://api.time.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/white-nationalist-rally-charlottesville-violence-16.jpg?resize=1200,800

Talk about cherry-picking.
What happened there has had absolutely no impact on the day-to-day lives of the vast majority of Virginians, queer or straight.

The likelihood of being a victim of violent crime is quite lower as a queer person living in suburban NoVa than for any person living in NYC. Like, magnitudes lower. I don’t understand people thinking NYC or SF are so much better for gays when they are really less safe for just about everyone.

But the likelihood of being a victim of a crime BECAUSE you are gay is many times higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?

https://api.time.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/white-nationalist-rally-charlottesville-violence-16.jpg?resize=1200,800

Talk about cherry-picking.
What happened there has had absolutely no impact on the day-to-day lives of the vast majority of Virginians, queer or straight.

The likelihood of being a victim of violent crime is quite lower as a queer person living in suburban NoVa than for any person living in NYC. Like, magnitudes lower. I don’t understand people thinking NYC or SF are so much better for gays when they are really less safe for just about everyone.

But the likelihood of being a victim of a crime BECAUSE you are gay is many times higher.

1. Those crimes happen in your pure blue gayborhoods too. How many gay hate crimes in Fairfax County in the last decade?

https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-news/nyc-stabbing-investigated-anti-gay-hate-crime-rcna78494

2. Not sure why a higher chance of being a random victim of a violent crime is better than the relatively smaller chance of being the victim of a hate crime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If that is your standard I can see why you wouldn’t be scared. In 1994 gays lived in gay ghettos because they were pretty much the only areas to be safe. It was criminal in most states to have gay sex and states occasionally prosecuted those laws with real jail time. Gay killings were still a thing. Gay bashing was common. The gay panic defense was mainstream. Housing was regularly denied to gay people. Employers fired people for being gay. Gay people who were outed were discharged from the military. There were no gay members of Congress or governors. Most actors who were gay hid their sexual Orientation because it was career ending.

You do you, but I’m not going back into any damn closet.

Have you actually been to Virginia in the last 10 years?

https://api.time.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/white-nationalist-rally-charlottesville-violence-16.jpg?resize=1200,800

Talk about cherry-picking.
What happened there has had absolutely no impact on the day-to-day lives of the vast majority of Virginians, queer or straight.

The likelihood of being a victim of violent crime is quite lower as a queer person living in suburban NoVa than for any person living in NYC. Like, magnitudes lower. I don’t understand people thinking NYC or SF are so much better for gays when they are really less safe for just about everyone.

What about the whole trans thing in schools?

Virginia has landed in a moderate position on this issue.