If you live in an accepting community, does the intolerance in other areas scare you?

[Anonymous]

If you live in a state like CA , NY or MD surrounded by a very accepting demographic and laws that protect your rights does what is going on in places like Florida scare you or do you feel safely, insulated?

I believe DS is gay and we live a very progressive area. Both kids have gay and straight friends in their close group. We have married gay relatives. It’s always been viewed as perfectly normal in our house. I wonder though how the rhetoric and obsession with attacking lgbtq people in other areas affects young people.

[Anonymous]

Yes it does. In the long run, my LGBTQ adult child can't afford to live here. It's hard to find places where they can re-locate. If they are affordable, they are unaccepting or discriminating. The best places for them to live are the most expensive.

[Anonymous]

I'm worried but not outright scared. It limits where I'm willing to travel to but that's not really a big deal. There's plenty of places in blue states that I'd like to visit.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my husband for nearly 25 years. We are rich and white. We have incredible privilege and power. We live in DC.

We’ve considered moving to Boston, San Francisco or San Diego. We own a house in rehoboth. Those are safe places.

I would literally never consider moving to Virginia. And definitely not Florida. It’s unsafe for my family and everyone know it. I don’t want our kids growing up in that environment and I don’t want to live in that environment. So I don’t. That is what power and privilege gets you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my husband for nearly 25 years. We are rich and white. We have incredible privilege and power. We live in DC.

We’ve considered moving to Boston, San Francisco or San Diego. We own a house in rehoboth. Those are safe places.

I would literally never consider moving to Virginia. And definitely not Florida. It’s unsafe for my family and everyone know it. I don’t want our kids growing up in that environment and I don’t want to live in that environment. So I don’t. That is what power and privilege gets you.

The entire state?! Sorry but statements like this seem so ignorant. It’s like you’re brainwashed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my husband for nearly 25 years. We are rich and white. We have incredible privilege and power. We live in DC.

We’ve considered moving to Boston, San Francisco or San Diego. We own a house in rehoboth. Those are safe places.

I would literally never consider moving to Virginia. And definitely not Florida. It’s unsafe for my family and everyone know it. I don’t want our kids growing up in that environment and I don’t want to live in that environment. So I don’t. That is what power and privilege gets you.

The entire state?! Sorry but statements like this seem so ignorant. It’s like you’re brainwashed.

16:30 here, not the pp you replied to. People always act like you can divorce the blue parts of Florida from the rest of the state. Just because some parts of FL are blue or LGBT friendly doesn't mean that people will feel safe visiting those parts. If that pp does feel safe visiting the blue parts of the state, he and his husband may not want to anyway because it's supporting the state.

Anecdotally, I've been reading stories about even many of the blue areas becoming more hostile but again, that's not a necessity for someone to choose to avoid spending money there.

[Anonymous]

It just drains me. Just the comment of Florida man throwing out the terms "ignorant" and "brainwashed". There's no arguing with these people. I'm firmly beyond reasoning and now just avoiding. Sorry entire (awful) states. Your fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It just drains me. Just the comment of Florida man throwing out the terms "ignorant" and "brainwashed". There's no arguing with these people. I'm firmly beyond reasoning and now just avoiding. Sorry entire (awful) states. Your fault.

Florida, trying to make LGBTQ people welcome: https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-news/visit-florida-tourism-site-removes-lgbtq-travel-section-rcna167177

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my husband for nearly 25 years. We are rich and white. We have incredible privilege and power. We live in DC.

We’ve considered moving to Boston, San Francisco or San Diego. We own a house in rehoboth. Those are safe places.

I would literally never consider moving to Virginia. And definitely not Florida. It’s unsafe for my family and everyone know it. I don’t want our kids growing up in that environment and I don’t want to live in that environment. So I don’t. That is what power and privilege gets you.

Virginia lesbian here and I have no idea what you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

I guess power and privilege also get you really out of touch with reality.

Step outside of your bubble a little bit and try actually getting to know some of these people.

I live in a very moderate middle class neighborhood in one of the “never” states you mentioned. While I can imagine my neighbors not feeling they have much in common with a rich fancy gay male (I assume?) couple, they would not be intolerant.

In the rich areas where I live, you’d be desired guests at parties.

[Anonymous]

People deserve to be fully accepted for who they are, not just “tolerated.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess power and privilege also get you really out of touch with reality.

Step outside of your bubble a little bit and try actually getting to know some of these people.

I live in a very moderate middle class neighborhood in one of the “never” states you mentioned. While I can imagine my neighbors not feeling they have much in common with a rich fancy gay male (I assume?) couple, they would not be intolerant.

In the rich areas where I live, you’d be desired guests at parties.

So you believe that gay men would be desired guests at parties thrown by the wealthy. What about lesbians? What about transgender people? Is your state restricting transgender healthcare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my husband for nearly 25 years. We are rich and white. We have incredible privilege and power. We live in DC.

We’ve considered moving to Boston, San Francisco or San Diego. We own a house in rehoboth. Those are safe places.

I would literally never consider moving to Virginia. And definitely not Florida. It’s unsafe for my family and everyone know it. I don’t want our kids growing up in that environment and I don’t want to live in that environment. So I don’t. That is what power and privilege gets you.

The entire state?! Sorry but statements like this seem so ignorant. It’s like you’re brainwashed.

Do you think state laws don't apply in Miami Beach?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been with my husband for nearly 25 years. We are rich and white. We have incredible privilege and power. We live in DC.

We’ve considered moving to Boston, San Francisco or San Diego. We own a house in rehoboth. Those are safe places.

I would literally never consider moving to Virginia. And definitely not Florida. It’s unsafe for my family and everyone know it. I don’t want our kids growing up in that environment and I don’t want to live in that environment. So I don’t. That is what power and privilege gets you.

Virginia lesbian here and I have no idea what you are talking about.

You must be new to VA. The VA GOP is batsht. It has only in recent years that they’ve been held in check. But they are there still trying to push their anti-LGBTQ policies on the entire state.

Same-sex marriage protection was only codified in VA this year:
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2024/03/anti-lgbtq-governor-signs-bill-codifying-same-sex-marriage-in-virginia/

[Anonymous]

^DP