Where did you find your affair partner?

[Anonymous]

Divorce. It will be so worth it.

[Anonymous]

STDs here you come.
Seriously. Stop. You have a kid.
Work on your marriage with all your effort. Go to counseling. Make a chore list and divide up chores evenly. Each of you pickn1 until you’ve divided them all up.
You PROMISED to be faithful

[Anonymous]

I just saw the documentary on Ashley Madison. Seems like there must be a replacement, no?

[Anonymous]

Girl grow up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 45 and freshly divorced. I don't need the blue pill (yet lol). I am tall and handsome. I would be the ideal guy for you.

I went on a date with a mid 40s man who was severely beaten up by the husband of woman he dated. She hidden her marital status. Aren't enough mid 30s single never married women out there? Or women your age who are good looking? Men are really looking for trouble on their a...s for a p...y!

[Anonymous]

OP - you only have one child! You should finish your grad degree while still married on two income household and then divorce. You will be a young divorcee/empty nester and will find someone nice soon

DO NOT GET PREGNANT AGAIN!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:STDs here you come.
Seriously. Stop. You have a kid.
Work on your marriage with all your effort. Go to counseling. Make a chore list and divide up chores evenly. Each of you pickn1 until you’ve divided them all up.
You PROMISED to be faithful

A chore list is not fixing a guy who is this checked out of marriage and parenting. She can continue having a terrible marriage and not cheat, she can cheat, or she can divorce. You can't work on your marriage alone with someone who does not care.

[Anonymous]

Why did you pick such a loser, OP?

[Anonymous]

AshleyMadison is your friend. You don't need to post photos and aren't expected to. Put in your profile exactly what you want and your deal killers. You will have plenty of willing men to sort through in the first week and it's freee for you so no credit card exposure. Create a new google email you can use and get a burner phone or a google phone number and don't use your real name even when setting up a meeting. Again, it's not expected. Good luck to you.

[Anonymous]

I think regular dating apps would work for a woman trying to do this. Just set your location to another city and use invisible mode. Pick men who seem available and interested in travel. Many won't be interested in helping a cheater but some won't mind.

I get "likes" from women who seem like they might be trying to do something like this. However, these women usually aren't very direct and I can't always figure out what's going on. Plus, I'm not great at getting conversations going with women who live hundreds or thousands of miles away. I'm sure others make it happen.

You can do this but divorce is probably a better option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. Having lots of sex and vacations with my own 54-year old husband. Empty nest and loving life. The last thing either wants is an entanglement with someone with young kids and drama.

Helpful post.

NP

It’s a subtle hint that OP should be focusing on creating a long and happy marriage in any way she can. Looking outside the marriage and focusing only on the negatives in a marriage instead of communicating, and doing things to nurture the relationship so you can be in the same position in empty nest …I’ve seen too many like her blow up marriages in their 30s, 40s and 50s because life got a little stale, not realizing marriages have ups and downs and low and high times.

She needs to just divorce if she wants to bang other people. Hard stop.

If you end up having a happy “empty nest” with someone as checked out as OP’s husband you are nothing but a huge sucker.

Of course he has a happily ever after without having put in any effort!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who had to tell their kids they are getting a divorce today becausemy DH cheated, don't do it. Not worth destroying your family.

Bloom where you are planted OP, or offer your DH a clean and honest break. You can find fulfillment without being unethical.

Such a misogynistic attitude.

Why did not you bloom where your cheating spouse planted you?

[Anonymous]

55?! Why do you need an old fart? OP, you need to love yourself.

[Anonymous]

Wow, on paper I’m exactly what you’re looking for OP, but you seem too young to be looking for me!

[Anonymous]

Hy husband is probably just what you’re looking for. He’s a little high maintenance, but attractive, fit and definitely dating! He’s on tinder and enjoys reading and travel.

I’d like him off my hands, but won’t divorce because i don’t want to give up any custody either. Looks like a win-win if you can keep him occupied but without pushing him to divorce.