I weigh 12 pounds more

[Anonymous]

OP,
Sending empathy. I (may) understand.

I've been the "fat" one in my house my whole life. I'm not fat. But my mom makes comments about "liking food" (when she sees us) and "are you chubby?" (talking on the phone) or how she wishes she "had a little padding like you" and how "sturdy" I am. Yeah, I'm not a wisp of a thing, but I am a normal weight.

When I was a kid and we played Nancy Drew I always had to be "Bess" who was "Pleasantly plump" ... it sticks with you and it makes you feel bad and it warps your sense of self. You internalize it.

I'm trying hard not to pass that along to my kids. But the suggestions above are good ones. Seriously, go strong, don't run 8 miles a day. You can't do that forever. It catches up with you.

OP, learn to love yourself, find the exercise you love, and be the best you. NOT the best you compared to your sister, the best you compared to you.

[Anonymous]

Op here - I weighed 125 pounds when I got married 13 years ago. I have since had 3 kids and gained 60 pounds each pregnancy. Lost most of the weigh with baby 1 and 2 and weighed 135 pounds.

Since having baby 3 at age 36 I have not ever been able to get below 145 pounds.

Since I started lifting weights I went from 145 to 150. I stopped running as well.

I walk 15,000 steps a day give or take and lift 3 times a week. I have already had knee surgery as a teen and I think my other once good knee has quadricep tendinitis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - I have no idea. What should it be for a woman at 40?

[/b]My sister said she did a measurement the other day and she was 19% body fat[b]. But she isn’t sure if that scale was correct. Mine definitely is not that.

Your sister is lying. She’s probably lying about her weight too. 19% body fat is super low for a female over the age of 15.

Stop comparing. Or just give her a bs weight if it makes you feel better.

This is a bizarre competition you’ve got going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op - I have no idea. What should it be for a woman at 40?

[/b]My sister said she did a measurement the other day and she was 19% body fat[b]. But she isn’t sure if that scale was correct. Mine definitely is not that.

Your sister is lying. She’s probably lying about her weight too. 19% body fat is super low for a female over the age of 15.

Stop comparing. Or just give her a bs weight if it makes you feel better.

This is a bizarre competition you’ve got going.

Op - it’s hard not to compare. We are twins. We see each other all the time and share clothes. When one of you can’t fit into each others clothes you notice.

She did think 19% seemed low. She runs around 50 miles a week and lifts weights 2 times a week.

[Anonymous]

OP, my mother is in her mid-70s. When I visited her this spring, she kept talking about her weight relative to her sisters' weights (one was losing and that was a worry/problem, the other was eating less than my mom and gaining). She was so, so focused on what she was eating and how it would/would not affect her weight. She's not overweight and none of her sisters are, either.

I guess I'm saying - I hope this is not your future. Try to let go of the competition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op - I have no idea. What should it be for a woman at 40?

[/b]My sister said she did a measurement the other day and she was 19% body fat[b]. But she isn’t sure if that scale was correct. Mine definitely is not that.

Your sister is lying. She’s probably lying about her weight too. 19% body fat is super low for a female over the age of 15.

Stop comparing. Or just give her a bs weight if it makes you feel better.

This is a bizarre competition you’ve got going.

Op - it’s hard not to compare. We are twins. We see each other all the time and share clothes. When one of you can’t fit into each others clothes you notice.

She did think 19% seemed low. She runs around 50 miles a week and lifts weights 2 times a week.

I understand twins have a particularly strong attachment. However, you're 40 and perhaps it's time to loosen that cord - start by stopping the sharing of clothes. Find your own fashion identity and get your own of whatever of each other's wardrobe you must have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here - I weighed 125 pounds when I got married 13 years ago. I have since had 3 kids and gained 60 pounds each pregnancy. Lost most of the weigh with baby 1 and 2 and weighed 135 pounds.

Since having baby 3 at age 36 I have not ever been able to get below 145 pounds.

Since I started lifting weights I went from 145 to 150. I stopped running as well.

I walk 15,000 steps a day give or take and lift 3 times a week. I have already had knee surgery as a teen and I think my other once good knee has quadricep tendinitis.

OP, you are perfectly fine! I am guessing that if I saw you and your twin next to each other, I'd find you healthier looking and her unappealingly thin. My husband would likely comment about your sister: eat a hamburger once in a while.

145 - 150 from weight lifting is what you should WANT. It's muscle.
You're holding steady weight. There is no weight or physical fitness problem here. You should be proud of that physical condition after 3 babies!

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think you should accept that you weigh more than your sister. It doesn't sound like you are fat, not sure why you are framing it like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op - I have no idea. What should it be for a woman at 40?

My sister said she did a measurement the other day and she was 19% body fat. But she isn’t sure if that scale was correct. Mine definitely is not that.

Are you a troll? Or maybe 12? Why are you spending time comparing yourself to your sister? Grow up, already.

[Anonymous]

Stop comparing. You are a middle aged woman- let the sibling rivalry die already.

You are at a heathy weight. Clearly you get exercise in and I’m presuming eat reasonably well. Stop fretting that your sister weighs fewer pounds than you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op - I have no idea. What should it be for a woman at 40?

My sister said she did a measurement the other day and she was 19% body fat. But she isn’t sure if that scale was correct. Mine definitely is not that.

Are you a troll? Or maybe 12? Why are you spending time comparing yourself to your sister? Grow up, already.

For real. You and your sister are talking about the exact pounds you weigh and body fat percentages and comparing? Bizarre or troll

[Anonymous]

My sister and I have traded the "thinner sister" label back and forth for 4 decades now. We joke about it. I've been the thinner one for a long time because I actually work at it, running and going to the gym. She always has been and always will be the prettier sister. She is also the one with way better boobs, so I think we are both doing just fine.

[Anonymous]

Change your diet. Food is what makes the scale move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here - I weighed 125 pounds when I got married 13 years ago. I have since had 3 kids and gained 60 pounds each pregnancy. Lost most of the weigh with baby 1 and 2 and weighed 135 pounds.

Since having baby 3 at age 36 I have not ever been able to get below 145 pounds.

Since I started lifting weights I went from 145 to 150. I stopped running as well.

I walk 15,000 steps a day give or take and lift 3 times a week. I have already had knee surgery as a teen and I think my other once good knee has quadricep tendinitis.

OP, you are perfectly fine! I am guessing that if I saw you and your twin next to each other, I'd find you healthier looking and her unappealingly thin. My husband would likely comment about your sister: eat a hamburger once in a while.

145 - 150 from weight lifting is what you should WANT. It's muscle.
You're holding steady weight. There is no weight or physical fitness problem here. You should be proud of that physical condition after 3 babies!

+1 - I bet you look fit and healthy!

[Anonymous]

Lots of stress and upset about twelve pounds. Do you think when you're 75, those 12 pounds will matter a lot to you?