I agree with Dr Laura.

[Anonymous]

So did we post this up here for the sole purpose of pissing people off? Did you really think that it wasn't going to? Seriously? Whether you agree or not, when in a multicultural area like this, it's really best to keep these opinions to ourselves.

[Anonymous]

Here's what you seem to be saying, OP:

African Americans as a group all act the same way. That is to say, they are all hyper-sensitive. They all "self-segregate." Not all A.A.'s like this, but there is a black "establishment," according to you, that tries to keep people divided.

In addition, you point out that CNN constantly runs its documentary "Black in America," which you apparently resent.

You also point to an example of a female AA lawyer you know who despite her personal wealth and lifestyle makes reference to being "oppressed." You consider her wealth to place her in the top "1% of people on this planet" so you don't understand her statement.

OP, you've pointed out a few observations you have about the black community or about a single black individual. Even without responding to these observations, I don't see, however, how any of this is relevant to the backlash against Dr. Laura. I just don't see the connection. Do you even know what the controversy is about?

[Anonymous]

Several recent postings respond to "you" without specifying which of the earlier postings they are referring to. Consequently I cannot make sense of their comment, since I am not sure what they are agreeing or disagreeing with. Perhaps posters like 15:05 and 15:07 could use time stamps, as I just did, or else quotes, as I did in my 14:56 comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Several recent postings respond to "you" without specifying which of the earlier postings they are referring to. Consequently I cannot make sense of their comment, since I am not sure what they are agreeing or disagreeing with. Perhaps posters like 15:05 and 15:07 could use time stamps, as I just did, or else quotes, as I did in my 14:56 comment.

OK, 15:07 would like to point out, that you, PP, have trouble understanding the social context of words and phrases. That might explain why you, PP and OP, do not understand that it is inappropriate for white people to use the N word.

[Anonymous]

Ha, I am 15:05 and not 15:07. This time stamp thing is so stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Acutally the reason for all the typos was because I was typing on my smartphone that uses suretype and mixes up the words.

So the metric for determining a racist is: if they question a double standard? Really?

I don't think you're a racist so much as overly absorbed in self pity.

[Anonymous]

If you're a white person and you're offended that you have to say "the n word" rather than the word itself, you're racist. No one who is not racist wants to say that word. It ought to sicken you.

Signed,
White southerner

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A. Many blacks are offended by the word, and they don't want anyone black or white to use it. So you can side with them.

B. It is common for groups that face discrimination to co-opt derogatory terms in order to neutralize them. This is why some gays use the term "Queer" and yet you should definitely not. It says "You can't make me feel bad about who I am by using a slur, and I am proving it by using the word as a point of pride". The problem for you is, you can't use it in this way. You are of the other persuasion, so you can only use it in its original meaning.


Neither A. nor B. is above your level of intelligence. Either you are being argumentative just to have fun, or you really don't understand.

If you really don't understand, you need to take a hard look at yourself. Seriously. You have a blind spot when it comes to discrimination.[/quote

Yet you can use the word queer without being stoned out of town. We cant even type the word on this very thread discussing it.

[Anonymous]

Look, I had two gay neighbors who would call each other fags (or maybe one would call the other a fag). I would doubt that they would find it funny if I called them fags.

I have a friend who went through drug rehab. She said that they routinely called each other wino, junkie, crack head, crack mama, and pot head. She pointed out that if anyone else did so, they would be in some trouble.

Heck, I even call my kids idiots (rarely), but if someone else does so, we are done with them.

I would suggest that we all stay away from these offensive terms. But if you can't resist, do so only with people you know very very well. Even then, you will find out how well you know them only after you use the term.

[Anonymous]

I think the general point that is being made is that when it comes to African Americans in our society, everyone of a different race has to walk on egg shells around them so as not to offend them in ANY way because even if the intention has nothing to do with race it will almost always be seen as racist. That's how our society has become

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the general point that is being made is that when it comes to African Americans in our society, everyone of a different race has to walk on egg shells around them so as not to offend them in ANY way because even if the intention has nothing to do with race it will almost always be seen as racist. That's how our society has become

you can say the same thing about Jews, gays, and so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the general point that is being made is that when it comes to African Americans in our society, everyone of a different race has to walk on egg shells around them so as not to offend them in ANY way because even if the intention has nothing to do with race it will almost always be seen as racist. That's how our society has become

You have a valid general point. At the same time, saying "N-gg-r, n-gg-r, n-gg-r" to a black person is hardly 'walking on eggshells," now is it? It's probably the most racist and insulting term you can use. So how is that being forced to walk on eggshells?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the general point that is being made is that when it comes to African Americans in our society, everyone of a different race has to walk on egg shells around them so as not to offend them in ANY way because even if the intention has nothing to do with race it will almost always be seen as racist. That's how our society has become

What you're basically saying is, "We can't be as openly racist as we'd like anymore, and that annoys me."

[aprilmayjune]

I don't understand what the point of this conversation even is. It's stupid. Anything that might come across with even the slightest potential insult shouldn't be said. Is it really that hard to control ourselves? Should it be that difficult to censor ourselves from saying things that we really shouldn't be saying to begin with? Why would you be interested in saying things that would be hurtful to anyone else..

[Anonymous]

OP, as an African American, I must say that I am not surprised by you comments. I have always known that there is so much that others would love to say about me or to me.
But keep in mind, there are many things that I hold back on too. These are things that aren't even insults, but observations that I think many others would find offensive. Things having to do with white family structure, and so on (won't elaborate).
Importantly, even though on the outside, I appear to be the model black woman, you really wouldn't guess what I go through. I am thin, pretty, make 300K a year, well educated, parents well educated, and even married to a white man! I speak foreign languages, traveled and so on. That should do the trick, shouldn't it? But I hope that you understand that I often ask myself things like why the white women I work with get more relaxed schedules when they have babies, and why they make 50K more than I do. (BTW, before you get into that bell curve nonsense, my SAT scores were over 1400 in the days that no one "studied" for them, so were my 4 sisters'). In the end, the stress is unbearable at times.
For the record, I would never let Dr. Laura into my home because she is crass, and that was before these comments. Also, my husband does not hang out with low classed people like the ones that caller identified as her husband's "friends".