Do you ever think of how much STUFF you are leaving for your family to deal with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was watching 3body problem and one of the 30 year old people on the show died unexpectedly and his friends came over to clean out his stash of “extra personal” effects in his bedroom before his family got there

Dildos? Tell me it was dildos!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine died unexpectedly last year, divorced with no family. I had to clean out her house. It has made me start to get rid of things at my house, whittle it down to the bare minimum and stop buying anything that will just accumulate. My weak spot is entertaining, and I keep too many platters, glasses, etc, but I want my kids to know they can give it all away when I'm gone!

That's not bad at all, thats a rented mini-van and a trip to goodwill.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the note OP.

Any tips for getting rid of stuff if you’re a keeper of “too much” stuff? I especially struggle with old work papers. I’m kinda stuck. When I’m on a flight and turbulence hits; I think heaven forbid I leave my kids to dispose of stupid boxes full of work papers from a job from 15 years ago!! All tips welcome.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I've been decluttering for a while. No more keeping things in case they ever come in handy.
Also, our lifestyle has changed from a few decades ago. We don't need a service for 12, etc. No furniture to hand down to the kids (we don't have any valuable antiques) I want to do this sooner rather than later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the note OP.

Any tips for getting rid of stuff if you’re a keeper of “too much” stuff? I especially struggle with old work papers. I’m kinda stuck. When I’m on a flight and turbulence hits; I think heaven forbid I leave my kids to dispose of stupid boxes full of work papers from a job from 15 years ago!! All tips welcome.

Do you need those papers?
If so, have someone scan them for you. Toss the rest.

[Anonymous]

I don't have stuff. I will be living abroad and slowly giving money away to my kids. I'm a minimalist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you care?

I’m helping my cousins deal with their mother’s house. My aunt’s passing was very sad, but what’s even sadder is how much work my cousins have to do—amid their grief and all the legal ramifications—to deal with the stuff, stuff, stuff, STUFF.

Do older adults ever even consider how much stuff their adult kids/families will have to deal with? Do you care? Do you get that your family will have to deal with your STUFF after your death, or when you transition to assisted living or a nursing home, *while they are also dealing with their own homes, families, jobs, etc.?*

boomers don't care

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the reasons we will in a small house is so that we don’t accumulate a lot of stuff. I’m always giving away stuff and do a whole house purge every fall and spring.

What do you purge twice a year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the note OP.

Any tips for getting rid of stuff if you’re a keeper of “too much” stuff? I especially struggle with old work papers. I’m kinda stuck. When I’m on a flight and turbulence hits; I think heaven forbid I leave my kids to dispose of stupid boxes full of work papers from a job from 15 years ago!! All tips welcome.

Do you need those papers?
If so, have someone scan them for you. Toss the rest.

What a waste of scanning time and effort. JUST TAKE THEM TO A SHREDDING SERVICE.

[Anonymous]

My dad proudly talks about he doesn't throw anything away. He's still got all my childhood toys and stuffed animals in the garage, every magazine he's ever gotten, etc. It's going to be awful when he dies. Whenever I'm in their house, I go home and give or throw away something.

[Anonymous]

I dealt with my mom’s stuff a few years ago. She was an Only child, same house 5 years etc. fortunately she is still alive. We purged before she moved to assisted living. I am sooooo happy I do t have to deal with it when she passes. My dad has tons of crsp but I’m Assuming his wife won’t even let us in the house after he goes so not my problem.

[Anonymous]

Should be same house *50 years*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: They know she didn’t want it all to go to Goodwill or what have you…

Too bad, so sad. If she wanted it to go someplace in particular, she should have done so while she was alive!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the note OP.

Any tips for getting rid of stuff if you’re a keeper of “too much” stuff? I especially struggle with old work papers. I’m kinda stuck. When I’m on a flight and turbulence hits; I think heaven forbid I leave my kids to dispose of stupid boxes full of work papers from a job from 15 years ago!! All tips welcome.

Scan or take a photo of the document(s), then shred the hard copy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can’t you call a junk removal company and have it all hauled away?

I’m a DP. We have had several visits from a removal company but there is just so much. Plus, my sibling is a hoarder so my parents left me with an awful situation.