Falling in love with someone unattractive

[Anonymous]

Unless you are the sister or secretly attracted to him, why care? So intereting to know, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:worst thing for an unattractive daughter is a gorgeous mom, she should dump him

She should think of the children they are going to have before pursuing a long term relationship with that man.

I know it sounds cruel but it would be more cruel to be gifted with beauty and good genetics and waste that gift by having kids with an ugly man.

These days women have more choice than men. Never settle for less.

Seriously?

[Anonymous]

But is he rich tho

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll

Yup more lame troll posts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:worst thing for an unattractive daughter is a gorgeous mom, she should dump him

She should think of the children they are going to have before pursuing a long term relationship with that man.

I know it sounds cruel but it would be more cruel to be gifted with beauty and good genetics and waste that gift by having kids with an ugly man.

These days women have more choice than men. Never settle for less.

Seriously?

Serious as a troll Sock puppet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:worst thing for an unattractive daughter is a gorgeous mom, she should dump him

She should think of the children they are going to have before pursuing a long term relationship with that man.

I know it sounds cruel but it would be more cruel to be gifted with beauty and good genetics and waste that gift by having kids with an ugly man.

These days women have more choice than men. Never settle for less.

Seriously? Since about age ~20, looks have not mattered to me. I have always cared about a healthy lifestyle, fitness, straight teeth, and clear eyes, but otherwise, physical appearance doesn't factor into who turns me on.

Sounds like you are describing a pet. Clear eyes?? Although you have dropped "cute nose" and "sexy lips" from your list, you do indeed still care about physical appearance,

[Anonymous]

If it is this big of a deal to her, this will not last. For multiple reasons. All of them her fault.

[Anonymous]

Your sister shouldn't be dating if she values her family's judgement so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh for crying out loud. Your sister is unworthy of this guy. Not even worth a response.

It doesn't make the sister "unworthy" for her to know her own family well enough to know they are shallow and possibly cruel in comments and judgement. You're assuming the sister herself is ashamed of the guy, when from what OP has written, the case could be that the sister knows her family won't see him as she sees him, and she wants to protect his feelings and, yes, her own. We can't know all the sister's feelings and motivations here, so your knee-jerk "She's unworthy" makes harsh assumptions.

Time to cut off a family like this.

[Anonymous]

It's not a big deal unless she makes it a big deal. She should introduce him to more people and hopefully realize that no one is saying anything or judging, and they'll get to know him and know that he's a good guy and she's happy.

I'm in my 40s and I don't think at this stage of life that I've ever heard a friend comment on how attractive or unattractive someone's spouse is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:worst thing for an unattractive daughter is a gorgeous mom, she should dump him

She should think of the children they are going to have before pursuing a long term relationship with that man.

I know it sounds cruel but it would be more cruel to be gifted with beauty and good genetics and waste that gift by having kids with an ugly man.

These days women have more choice than men. Never settle for less.

Do us all a favor and don't reproduce.

[Anonymous]

I'm a guy in this type of marriage which is fine with me, even when people comment how the kids are lucky they have their mother's looks 😁 DW had major anxiety about introducing me to her family but I understood as soon as it happened. Lots of female mental illness in that family calling each other fat, pointing out each other's real or perceived physical flaws, etc etc. Can't imagine that kind of childhood. If my wife were embarrassed to introduce me to her friends or others then that would have been a different story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a guy in this type of marriage which is fine with me, even when people comment how the kids are lucky they have their mother's looks 😁 DW had major anxiety about introducing me to her family but I understood as soon as it happened. Lots of female mental illness in that family calling each other fat, pointing out each other's real or perceived physical flaws, etc etc. Can't imagine that kind of childhood. If my wife were embarrassed to introduce me to her friends or others then that would have been a different story.

This is a very good perspective and I hope OP saw this post and considers it. OP, is your sister hesitant only about introductions to certain relatives? But she's fine introducing him to her friends and others in her life? Re-read the post above and ask her if she's concerned about the reactions of certain specific relatives or if she's this hesitant about everyone in her life meeting him.

[Anonymous]

My DH is not what most people would call very handsome (though I love him) yet I might be considered conventionally attractive. He is short and overweight. I know people sometimes think we look odd together (and occasionally people say rude things to him about a looks mismatch), but he is always kind to me and takes care of me and our children are beautiful so who cares what anyone says.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:worst thing for an unattractive daughter is a gorgeous mom, she should dump him

She should think of the children they are going to have before pursuing a long term relationship with that man.

I know it sounds cruel but it would be more cruel to be gifted with beauty and good genetics and waste that gift by having kids with an ugly man.

These days women have more choice than men. Never settle for less.

What even is this response?

My husband is super model gorgeous. When we met more than a decade ago he had an eight pack, total gorgeousness but also smart and kind. He had dated and had relationships as we both did but with a few famous or well known people.

I on the other hand am fine looking but in no way beautiful. I had medical issues as a kid so had to have surgeries including plastic surgery which helped a ton but I still hate my nose.

When we started dating people would look, it was very obvious, but we didn’t care. He thought I was beautiful and smart and the best person ever and I thought that about him. His mom even made comments.

We have been married more than 10 years and he’s gained a bit of weight and looks older now, but we love each other and find each other attractive.

If your sister is embarrassed by him she should unpack that and possible let him go. My now husband (says) he was never embarrassed of me. I met his family right away, go to work events, met his friends, attended weddings, etc. I know people who purposely don’t bring their partner to events and that to me is a red flag (unless they are introverted and don’t want to go).

Also to PP we have kids and I will say our kids are very attractive. People comment which I don’t like but they clearly got the good looks lottery.

Looks can fade. You can have an accident (like I did as a kid) and not get those looks back. You’re stuck with the person.