Men, if you cheated in the past and got caught?

[Anonymous]

Married sex 2-3x a week. Assumed my AP was having sex with his wife even though he said he was not. Turns out he was hooking up 2-3x a year with a long term partner I didn't know about. As the AP I was fine with him having sex with his wife - continuing with the 3rd person really broke my heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married sex 2-3x a week. Assumed my AP was having sex with his wife even though he said he was not. Turns out he was hooking up 2-3x a year with a long term partner I didn't know about. As the AP I was fine with him having sex with his wife - continuing with the 3rd person really broke my heart.

You are so fkkkkd up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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No DB at home
Yes, lied about it

Did the AP know you were having sex with your wife too?

APs do not really care, I always assume a married person is having sex with their spouse also. It’s silly to think a cheater is not lying or being “faithful” to you.

That is so weird and messed up. I guess that is why they are side pieces. I would not tolerate a sexual partner having sex with anyone else if we were regulars. If I found out they were it would be over, which is why I’d never bang a married guy in the first place among other reasons like morals, honesty, character and empathy for the spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text message
No DB at home
Yes, lied about it

Did the AP know you were having sex with your wife too?

APs do not really care, I always assume a married person is having sex with their spouse also. It’s silly to think a cheater is not lying or being “faithful” to you.

That is so weird and messed up. I guess that is why they are side pieces. I would not tolerate a sexual partner having sex with anyone else if we were regulars. If I found out they were it would be over, which is why I’d never bang a married guy in the first place among other reasons like morals, honesty, character and empathy for the spouse.

That’s great for you. I am not looking for AP to leave their spouse or be exclusive with me. We provide each other with something we feel is missing but we are not each other’s everything.

[Anonymous]

She asked and I spilled my guts. Told her everything. 🤷‍♂️

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She asked and I spilled my guts. Told her everything. 🤷‍♂️

Why? You wanted to come clean?

How’d that work out for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text message
No DB at home
Yes, lied about it

Did the AP know you were having sex with your wife too?

APs do not really care, I always assume a married person is having sex with their spouse also. It’s silly to think a cheater is not lying or being “faithful” to you.

That is so weird and messed up. I guess that is why they are side pieces. I would not tolerate a sexual partner having sex with anyone else if we were regulars. If I found out they were it would be over, which is why I’d never bang a married guy in the first place among other reasons like morals, honesty, character and empathy for the spouse.

That’s great for you. I am not looking for AP to leave their spouse or be exclusive with me. We provide each other with something we feel is missing but we are not each other’s everything.

Yet you were jealous of the other biannual side chick…

[Anonymous]

Nope that was someone else and yes admittedly it’s messed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text message
No DB at home
Yes, lied about it

Did the AP know you were having sex with your wife too?

APs do not really care, I always assume a married person is having sex with their spouse also. It’s silly to think a cheater is not lying or being “faithful” to you.

APs are more bothered about seeing evidence of luxe vacations on social media and the photos of your wife showing off her new anniversary necklace than conjugal relations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not a man and no cheating in my marriage (now divorced) but dead bedrooms are real. We had separate bedrooms from when I was 35-42 when we divorced. We had sex once in that entire timeframe.

He would have been telling the truth if there was cheating. I know 3 other marriages like mine was.

I think this is the most common cause of cheating. Most people are not narcissistic serial cheaters.

And curious your situation now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She asked and I spilled my guts. Told her everything. 🤷‍♂️

Why? You wanted to come clean?

How’d that work out for you?

I got caught so rather than lie any further, I fessed up. Got divorced. Anything else you want to know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married sex 2-3x a week. Assumed my AP was having sex with his wife even though he said he was not. Turns out he was hooking up 2-3x a year with a long term partner I didn't know about. As the AP I was fine with him having sex with his wife - continuing with the 3rd person really broke my heart.

A cheater cheated on you. I think that's called karma.

[Anonymous]

Yep - shocking when I realized my lying cheating “boyfriend” was cheating on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She asked and I spilled my guts. Told her everything. 🤷‍♂️

Why? You wanted to come clean?

How’d that work out for you?

I got caught so rather than lie any further, I fessed up. Got divorced. Anything else you want to know?

Nope.

Lost my AP after we got caught.
Just wanted to get the male perspective on the aftermath.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Married sex 2-3x a week. Assumed my AP was having sex with his wife even though he said he was not. Turns out he was hooking up 2-3x a year with a long term partner I didn't know about. As the AP I was fine with him having sex with his wife - continuing with the 3rd person really broke my heart.

A cheater cheated on you. I think that's called karma.

Karma --- sort of nice to know it's real.