miss being ‘fat and happy’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being fat is not happy

For you. Some of us are fine being overweight. Society as a whole does not support that position and does its best to make people feel bad about an overweight BMI.

Society as a whole comments on people’s weight going in both directions. The best way to handle this is to just ignore it. That’s the path to happiness, at least as it relates to that part of life.

[Anonymous]

Your labs were okay but now you're on semaglutides and less happy and it triggered something else? Why are you staying on it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being fat is not happy

For you. Some of us are fine being overweight. Society as a whole does not support that position and does its best to make people feel bad about an overweight BMI.

It's disgusting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being fat is not happy

For you. Some of us are fine being overweight. Society as a whole does not support that position and does its best to make people feel bad about an overweight BMI.

It's disgusting

You. You are disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hear you! I gave up sugar about 15 years ago. I don’t crave it but I miss that feeling of desiring it. I think it is adjustment that you are going through.

Me too. I just don't crave sugar anymore, but I miss the desire for it. I also stopped most carbs about 15 years ago. I just don't crave them, but I watch other people go crazy for it. Again, I miss the desire for it.

??? You miss being at high risk for diabetes???

PPs, seriously, you're saving your lives. Please be happy and proud of what you're doing.

DP. It's not rational. No need to be a scold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being fat is not happy

For you. Some of us are fine being overweight. Society as a whole does not support that position and does its best to make people feel bad about an overweight BMI.

DP
Please. You might resign yourself to be alright with your weight. But no one WANTS to be overweight. There is nothing good or fun about it. Not in a tight airplane seat. Not in a dressing room. Not when you can’t reach down and tie your own shoe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being fat is not happy

For you. Some of us are fine being overweight. Society as a whole does not support that position and does its best to make people feel bad about an overweight BMI.

That’s so sad. But also I doubt it’s actually true.

[Anonymous]

The reality is being slightly overweight is very healthy.

People who are constantly trying to be at the bottom of their BMI are not healthy. They are neither healthy emotionally, mentally, or physically.

Obviously, Do not become obese But you definitely need to learn how to enjoy food in a healthy way.

Don’t be skinny don’t be obese, but come back slightly overweight because we are the happiest, healthiest and well adjusted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:40 year old female who has had an overweight bmi for most of my adult life, with several periods of dramatic weight loss brought on by a recurring ED. when I was my lowest weight (still a normal bmi) I was exercising compulsively and my period stopped for years. flash forward to now and I have been on a low dose of a semaglutide which triggered the ED again. I also stopped drinking 6 months ago (I loved wine). I’ve lost a bunch of weight of course but am mostly miserable. despite being overweight my labs were always good and I was relatively healthy. I miss enjoying food, having a glass or two of wine at night, and accepting my body. that’s all.

Well, the excessive wine consumption is bad for your health separately from your health. So maybe that's a good thing for you.

[Anonymous]

Op, although I don't have an eating disorder, I do get what you're saying. I'm on Wegovy, and have had good success, losing 40 pounds and my cholesterol going back down to normal range from really high.
However, I definitely feel way less joy around food and cooking than I used to. For example, I didn't even bother making Christmas cookies this past year. Before, I would like think for days about what cookies I was going to make and The recipes I needed and then make them and
share them and try them all. This past year I just
wasn't interested.

I'm staying on the wegovy, because I'm definitely much healthier in my case. But it's definitely a feeling to get used to.

[Anonymous]

It will wane with time. 1 year? 2 years? My analog is smoking cigarettes. It’s gross! It smells horrible! How could anyone enjoy smoking or being fat?

Except when you quit smoking, it’s like a romantic breakup. Suddenly you see happy smokers / happy couples everywhere seemingly flaunting their happiness at you. There are wistful thoughts about “the good times” and physical habits to break like texting him or the extra walk around the block before you come back from lunch. Even when the most visceral cravings are gone, the memory of it pops in your mind at the oddest times. I thought I’d never stop thinking about smoking - but eventually I did. By 1 year, I’d have a fleeting thought once a week? Every few weeks? By 2 years, it was every few months. 12 years now and I don’t think about cigarettes unless I catch a whiff of smoke and even then it’s like glancing at a photo of an ex boyfriend and feeling nothing - like “oh hey, remember that!” and moving on.

I went on a strict diet years ago and I remember missing eating a really big meal once in a while - not the feeling of being stuffed. More the feeling of not counting or weighing anything and just being in the moment and eating what I wanted. It was similar to that wistful feeling when I had quit smoking and was over the initial jitters, but it was still fresh in my memory.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being fat is not happy

For you. Some of us are fine being overweight. Society as a whole does not support that position and does its best to make people feel bad about an overweight BMI.

DP
Please. You might resign yourself to be alright with your weight. But no one WANTS to be overweight. There is nothing good or fun about it. Not in a tight airplane seat. Not in a dressing room. Not when you can’t reach down and tie your own shoe.

You have to be pretty dang overweight to not fit in an airplane seat or tie your shoe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being fat is not happy

For you. Some of us are fine being overweight. Society as a whole does not support that position and does its best to make people feel bad about an overweight BMI.

DP
Please. You might resign yourself to be alright with your weight. But no one WANTS to be overweight. There is nothing good or fun about it. Not in a tight airplane seat. Not in a dressing room. Not when you can’t reach down and tie your own shoe.

I'm overweight, and my airplane seat is not tight, I'm perfectly fine in a dressing room, tie my own shoes, even exercise on a regular basis. The majority of Americans are overweight. Not obese, but overweight, and are perfectly happy.

You know when I'm not happy? When I'm counting calories and sticking to a diet plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It will wane with time. 1 year? 2 years? My analog is smoking cigarettes. It’s gross! It smells horrible! How could anyone enjoy smoking or being fat?

Except when you quit smoking, it’s like a romantic breakup. Suddenly you see happy smokers / happy couples everywhere seemingly flaunting their happiness at you. There are wistful thoughts about “the good times” and physical habits to break like texting him or the extra walk around the block before you come back from lunch. Even when the most visceral cravings are gone, the memory of it pops in your mind at the oddest times. I thought I’d never stop thinking about smoking - but eventually I did. By 1 year, I’d have a fleeting thought once a week? Every few weeks? By 2 years, it was every few months. 12 years now and I don’t think about cigarettes unless I catch a whiff of smoke and even then it’s like glancing at a photo of an ex boyfriend and feeling nothing - like “oh hey, remember that!” and moving on.

I went on a strict diet years ago and I remember missing eating a really big meal once in a while - not the feeling of being stuffed. More the feeling of not counting or weighing anything and just being in the moment and eating what I wanted. It was similar to that wistful feeling when I had quit smoking and was over the initial jitters, but it was still fresh in my memory.

Before the scolds come at me, I want to add that I get what you are saying OP. Besides my experiences dieting and quitting smoking, I’ve also taken several different ADHD meds, been pumped full of hormones for fertility treatments, and been pregnant and nursed twice. All of those things mess with your head and your appetite in weird unconscious ways. It wasn’t until I quit smoking and it was so pronounced that I understood and then I noticed it all the time. Even when you are on guard for cravings that are not actual hunger, or you know your mind will play tricks on you to get the addictive substance - it is hard to notice it and control it in the moment.
It’s the same way insects can get brain controlling viruses or that one disease makes mice unafraid of cats. The meds you are on mess with your head. Having a history of an eating disorder messes with your head. What you are feeling can be both incorrect / not logical and also very, very real to you. With patience you should adjust and settle into your new normal.

[Anonymous]

So….let yourself enjoy food.

I was a strict eater for years, but at some point I realized I was miserable. So I let myself eat. You do have to be careful, as I started to gain more each year. Now I eat healthy for the most part, but allow some fun food.

You just need to find the right balance for you. Why worry about what anyone says as long as you are healthy.