Why are so many men suddenly approaching me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear, please believe this IS NOT a humble brag, even though it sounds like one! I DO NOT appreciate this weird attention and don’t know what to do about it. I’m here because I want to know how to STOP it!

All of a sudden I’m noticing tons of unsolicited male attention, like out in public from strangers. They’ll get my attention somehow, like while I am in line at the store, places like that, and then make mundane conversation that always ends in a comment about my looks (“You have a pretty smile”, etc.) Or, a variation of cat calling, where random delivery drivers parked across the street where I am walking will wave at me.

I’m a 40yo F fwiw. I haven’t changed anything about myself or my demeanor, and in fact, most days I feel tired and exhausted and drab. Why are they singling me out? I mean, they are clearly going out of their way to get my attention. I’ve never experienced this before, or at least, not since my college years when I was young and cute!

But it’s sort of creepy? when these random men come up to me in public. I’m warring between appreciating the compliments to being annoyed they feel they have the right to comment on my body? Does this even make sense? Am
I insane?

It’s not just you. Highs have suddenly popped up to the 60’s and spring mating season is upon us. Everywhere I go, male birds are trying to mate. Humans are not immune.

Humans are not birds.

Not exactly. You might be interested in the book Wild Connection. It might surprise you!

[Anonymous]

You are a female dog in heat. The boy dogs are waiting their turn. Women hit their sexual peak at 40. If you’re married your husband will be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear, please believe this IS NOT a humble brag, even though it sounds like one! I DO NOT appreciate this weird attention and don’t know what to do about it. I’m here because I want to know how to STOP it!

All of a sudden I’m noticing tons of unsolicited male attention, like out in public from strangers. They’ll get my attention somehow, like while I am in line at the store, places like that, and then make mundane conversation that always ends in a comment about my looks (“You have a pretty smile”, etc.) Or, a variation of cat calling, where random delivery drivers parked across the street where I am walking will wave at me.

I’m a 40yo F fwiw. I haven’t changed anything about myself or my demeanor, and in fact, most days I feel tired and exhausted and drab. Why are they singling me out? I mean, they are clearly going out of their way to get my attention. I’ve never experienced this before, or at least, not since my college years when I was young and cute!

But it’s sort of creepy? when these random men come up to me in public. I’m warring between appreciating the compliments to being annoyed they feel they have the right to comment on my body? Does this even make sense? Am
I insane?

It’s not just you. Highs have suddenly popped up to the 60’s and spring mating season is upon us. Everywhere I go, male birds are trying to mate. Humans are not immune.

Humans are not birds.

Not exactly. You might be interested in the book Wild Connection. It might surprise you!

No thank you.

[Anonymous]

Troll better.

[Anonymous]

WTF? Why do people keep calling troll? What possible point would there be to troll on this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Why do people keep calling troll? What possible point would there be to troll on this?

There are trolls galore started in these threads. I don’t know why they do it , but is happens.

[Anonymous]

Men are also paying more attention to me as I get closer to 40. It’s absolutely weird. I was much prettier and friendlier 15 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Cuz you hot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Why do people keep calling troll? What possible point would there be to troll on this?

There are trolls galore started in these threads. I don’t know why they do it , but is happens.

I think the only troll here, is you.

But let’s say OP is a troll. Ok, fine. How about offering advice to someone who may stumble upon this thread and seek the advice found within. I found DCUM by searching a question into Google.

Facts are facts, and men do bother women in this way. It stands to reason that others may benefit from the advice found here, OP notwithstanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Why do people keep calling troll? What possible point would there be to troll on this?

There are trolls galore started in these threads. I don’t know why they do it , but is happens.

I think the only troll here, is you.

But let’s say OP is a troll. Ok, fine. How about offering advice to someone who may stumble upon this thread and seek the advice found within. I found DCUM by searching a question into Google.

Facts are facts, and men do bother women in this way. It stands to reason that others may benefit from the advice found here, OP notwithstanding.

Seeking advice on reasons why someone would suddenly be getting attention? I’m sure someone is looking for advice on that right now. Sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WTF? Why do people keep calling troll? What possible point would there be to troll on this?

There are trolls galore started in these threads. I don’t know why they do it , but is happens.

I think the only troll here, is you.

But let’s say OP is a troll. Ok, fine. How about offering advice to someone who may stumble upon this thread and seek the advice found within. I found DCUM by searching a question into Google.

Facts are facts, and men do bother women in this way. It stands to reason that others may benefit from the advice found here, OP notwithstanding.

Ah, you’re the troll.

[Anonymous]

I think my early 40s was my peak in terms getting attention. In my 20’s I was very young looking and had no sense of style. In my 30s I spent a lot of time pregnant or recovering. When I hit 40 I got fit, I figured out how to dress and I no longer looked very young. It was only on business trips that the attention was annoying because they weren’t just trying to be fun or flirty. Now the only attention I get is from guys 70+ who might not remember what to do if they got me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I swear, please believe this IS NOT a humble brag, even though it sounds like one! I DO NOT appreciate this weird attention and don’t know what to do about it. I’m here because I want to know how to STOP it!

All of a sudden I’m noticing tons of unsolicited male attention, like out in public from strangers. They’ll get my attention somehow, like while I am in line at the store, places like that, and then make mundane conversation that always ends in a comment about my looks (“You have a pretty smile”, etc.) Or, a variation of cat calling, where random delivery drivers parked across the street where I am walking will wave at me.

I’m a 40yo F fwiw. I haven’t changed anything about myself or my demeanor, and in fact, most days I feel tired and exhausted and drab. Why are they singling me out? I mean, they are clearly going out of their way to get my attention. I’ve never experienced this before, or at least, not since my college years when I was young and cute!

But it’s sort of creepy? when these random men come up to me in public. I’m warring between appreciating the compliments to being annoyed they feel they have the right to comment on my body? Does this even make sense? Am
I insane?

It’s not just you. Highs have suddenly popped up to the 60’s and spring mating season is upon us. Everywhere I go, male birds are trying to mate. Humans are not immune.

This is how it feels! But why me, and most important, how can I get them to stop and leave ME alone?

Wear something that indicates that you are gay/lesbian.

[Anonymous]

When I was about 12 and my mother 42 ish I first took notice of guys checking out my mother. She was, and still is, beautiful but it weirded me out. Years later I heard that her dentist tried to hit on her. Yuck!

[Anonymous]

You are a female dog in heat. The boy dogs are waiting their turn. Women hit their sexual peak at 40. If you’re married your husband will be happy.

Do these men try to stiff your butt?