You meet someone you like through OLD. How soon would you consider sleeping with them?

[Anonymous]

Two to three months and only after we have agreed to be exclusive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well it was about 4-5 hours into the first date for me.

Nasty

Not in the least.

[Anonymous]

Date 1-3, maybe 5th date at most.

[Anonymous]

If I knew from the get go that the person was definitely not relationship material yet I was physically attracted probably right away.

But if I liked them + saw some potential in a future w/them maybe after ten dates.

[Anonymous]

I used to wait a few months and that served me well in the past but I last dated 12 years ago and hope never to again.

It wasn’t some random thing I came up with, it just seemed like it took that long to get to know someone well enough that I felt comfortable.

I’m a high drive, adventurous woman and waiting helped me weed out partners that were only or mainly interested in sex. I could tell compatibility fairly well even from a make out session.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If I knew from the get go that the person was definitely not relationship material yet I was physically attracted probably right away.

But if I liked them + saw some potential in a future w/them maybe after ten dates.

Let me guess your longest relationship was 3 dates.

[Anonymous]

Every woman who opened her legs for me on the first date ended up being a mutual on demand hookup. If I like a woman I won't sleep with her on the first date cause I don't want to blow up my chances at a potential relationship. I don't know what happened to women now though so many are ready to hook up by the second date. They are sadly promiscuous just like men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two to three months and only after we have agreed to be exclusive

+1 45 yo male

[Anonymous]

How soon…?
If the date goes well and she’s down for it, the first date!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every woman who opened her legs for me on the first date ended up being a mutual on demand hookup. If I like a woman I won't sleep with her on the first date cause I don't want to blow up my chances at a potential relationship. I don't know what happened to women now though so many are ready to hook up by the second date. They are sadly promiscuous just like men.

Not all women are like that: to me it’s couple months. If he’s only a sexual draw/no personality match or only a good person/no sexual attraction I don’t see them after 3 dates. But if all elements for a relationship seem present, I try to see him for 5-6 dates (about a month), ask about recent std testing, if he plans to sleep with others in parallel etc. I also don’t understand why can’t people just use toys to address the physical itch. It’s not just STDs but new partner often brings really painful UTIs for women. Things shake up during sex and I need to adjust physically to him. Would be too much trouble for a casual one off ONS. But that’s me - maybe other women are not as intimately sensitive to carousel of partners

[Anonymous]

It depends on a lot of factors. Looking for a hookup and to scratch an itch? First date. Like someone and want to see if it goes somewhere? Dates 3-4. Like someone as a person, not attracted to them but hoping that attraction grows over time? 7 dates-never.

I know one woman who wouldn’t sleep with someone until they were both exclusive and had both been tested. She was very attractive so men cooperated. There are no rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends on a lot of factors. Looking for a hookup and to scratch an itch? First date. Like someone and want to see if it goes somewhere? Dates 3-4. Like someone as a person, not attracted to them but hoping that attraction grows over time? 7 dates-never.

I know one woman who wouldn’t sleep with someone until they were both exclusive and had both been tested. She was very attractive so men cooperated. There are no rules.

All of that but don’t necessarily agree that 7 dates means no attraction. It depends on the intensity when it starts, eg how often people really see each other. 3-4 dates could be within 2 weeks with first really just being a coffee date. I usually do have at least a make out session on date 4, but not actual intercourse as he’s not tested yet for std at that time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every woman who opened her legs for me on the first date ended up being a mutual on demand hookup. If I like a woman I won't sleep with her on the first date cause I don't want to blow up my chances at a potential relationship. I don't know what happened to women now though so many are ready to hook up by the second date. They are sadly promiscuous just like men.

The way you talk about women is disgusting.

[Anonymous]

30 minutes.

[Anonymous]

Well for me as a guy I’ve had women I met sleep with me the first night multiple times, the second date too.

Most by the third.

If you’re a good looking guy with a good job and stay in shape it’s like shooting fish in a barrel honestly. Lots of thirsty single moms.

If I want something serious - finding her online is not where I look. Every single woman I met online is smash and pass only.