Daycare put potty training child in a diaper

[Anonymous]

Use pullups with straps on sides

If the child is not ready then the daycare will know

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We've been potty training our now 3 year old. She's doing okay at home, we've been in pants and had some success. We still use pull ups when out but she's good and has more success than accidents.

We send her to pull ups at daycre until she's a little more reliable as per policy requirements. However we've found they've been putting her in diapers throughout the day and it's started to cause huge regression back to limited success at home. How do I challenge daycare about this? Is there a reason they'd be doing this?

She isn't potty trained and she's 3 years old,!

NP. Nothing wrong with that. Mine were not fully trained until a little after 3, but they could all read at 4. I scoff at 5 yos who still can't read. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Pull-ups are diapers with good marketing. But yes, as others have said, send in the ones that open on the side if you actually want your daycare to use them.

Here are more options:
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[Anonymous]

OP here - sorry for the strange reply time, the baby is deciding it's going to be an all nighter. We spoke with them and they said she'd only had about one success a day with them, not what we're seeing at home. They want to keep using diapers until they see more interest from her at daycare. I'm not sure how she will show more interest if she can't independently access the toilet. They didn't say no to pull ups, so we've picked some up linked above, thank you for these! Hopefully we can persuade that this is worth doing. I'm confused if they can velcro them up why they'd still use diapers though? She does so well in them when prompted and out with us and doesn't treat them as a diaper at all so they're very different

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been potty training our now 3 year old. She's doing okay at home, we've been in pants and had some success. We still use pull ups when out but she's good and has more success than accidents.

We send her to pull ups at daycre until she's a little more reliable as per policy requirements. However we've found they've been putting her in diapers throughout the day and it's started to cause huge regression back to limited success at home. How do I challenge daycare about this? Is there a reason they'd be doing this?

Yes. The reason is that they are not the parents of the child. They really are looking at their convenience. They do not give a damn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been potty training our now 3 year old. She's doing okay at home, we've been in pants and had some success. We still use pull ups when out but she's good and has more success than accidents.

We send her to pull ups at daycre until she's a little more reliable as per policy requirements. However we've found they've been putting her in diapers throughout the day and it's started to cause huge regression back to limited success at home. How do I challenge daycare about this? Is there a reason they'd be doing this?

Yes. The reason is that they are not the parents of the child. They really are looking at their convenience. They do not give a damn.

Op here, I did worry this, but I'm not sure how we make their breakthrough. If she's got no consistency she's not going to succeed. And we're out of any leave we can dedicate to just focusing on this for a couple of weeks to make that breakthrough. I'm not sure how we can get this done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been potty training our now 3 year old. She's doing okay at home, we've been in pants and had some success. We still use pull ups when out but she's good and has more success than accidents.

We send her to pull ups at daycre until she's a little more reliable as per policy requirements. However we've found they've been putting her in diapers throughout the day and it's started to cause huge regression back to limited success at home. How do I challenge daycare about this? Is there a reason they'd be doing this?

Yes. The reason is that they are not the parents of the child. They really are looking at their convenience. They do not give a damn.

Op here, I did worry this, but I'm not sure how we make their breakthrough. If she's got no consistency she's not going to succeed. And we're out of any leave we can dedicate to just focusing on this for a couple of weeks to make that breakthrough. I'm not sure how we can get this done.

Yes she will. I worried about this with my first when she didn’t train in a 3 day weekend. I talked to daycare about supporting it and they said effectively that she was too young/they weren’t going to help. Basically they’d let her go if she initiated but that was it. She was in pull-ups but they were effectively treated like diapers. They said I could send her with undies over her pull-ups but what’s the point in that? So I just kept at it on weekends and when she had a whole weekend with not accidents I sent her to daycare in undies. She had a whole week without accidents at daycare, then a week where she had a couple but they didn’t switch her back at that point and had been good ever since. Of course it would easier and quicker if they would really help with training but they don’t always and it doesn’t mean your child won’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been potty training our now 3 year old. She's doing okay at home, we've been in pants and had some success. We still use pull ups when out but she's good and has more success than accidents.

We send her to pull ups at daycre until she's a little more reliable as per policy requirements. However we've found they've been putting her in diapers throughout the day and it's started to cause huge regression back to limited success at home. How do I challenge daycare about this? Is there a reason they'd be doing this?

Yes. The reason is that they are not the parents of the child. They really are looking at their convenience. They do not give a damn.

Op here, I did worry this, but I'm not sure how we make their breakthrough. If she's got no consistency she's not going to succeed. And we're out of any leave we can dedicate to just focusing on this for a couple of weeks to make that breakthrough. I'm not sure how we can get this done.

Yes she will. I worried about this with my first when she didn’t train in a 3 day weekend. I talked to daycare about supporting it and they said effectively that she was too young/they weren’t going to help. Basically they’d let her go if she initiated but that was it. She was in pull-ups but they were effectively treated like diapers. They said I could send her with undies over her pull-ups but what’s the point in that? So I just kept at it on weekends and when she had a whole weekend with not accidents I sent her to daycare in undies. She had a whole week without accidents at daycare, then a week where she had a couple but they didn’t switch her back at that point and had been good ever since. Of course it would easier and quicker if they would really help with training but they don’t always and it doesn’t mean your child won’t get it.

Thank you, probably also what I need to hear. It's challenging enough with the baby and getting this done, and my wife is away for an extended period with work so I can't dedicate time around daycare days, just the weekends on this. She's trying really hard but as I know 3 is too old and I should have managed to train her earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We've been potty training our now 3 year old. She's doing okay at home, we've been in pants and had some success. We still use pull ups when out but she's good and has more success than accidents.

We send her to pull ups at daycre until she's a little more reliable as per policy requirements. However we've found they've been putting her in diapers throughout the day and it's started to cause huge regression back to limited success at home. How do I challenge daycare about this? Is there a reason they'd be doing this?

Yes. The reason is that they are not the parents of the child. They really are looking at their convenience. They do not give a damn.

Op here, I did worry this, but I'm not sure how we make their breakthrough. If she's got no consistency she's not going to succeed. And we're out of any leave we can dedicate to just focusing on this for a couple of weeks to make that breakthrough. I'm not sure how we can get this done.

Yes she will. I worried about this with my first when she didn’t train in a 3 day weekend. I talked to daycare about supporting it and they said effectively that she was too young/they weren’t going to help. Basically they’d let her go if she initiated but that was it. She was in pull-ups but they were effectively treated like diapers. They said I could send her with undies over her pull-ups but what’s the point in that? So I just kept at it on weekends and when she had a whole weekend with not accidents I sent her to daycare in undies. She had a whole week without accidents at daycare, then a week where she had a couple but they didn’t switch her back at that point and had been good ever since. Of course it would easier and quicker if they would really help with training but they don’t always and it doesn’t mean your child won’t get it.

Thank you, probably also what I need to hear. It's challenging enough with the baby and getting this done, and my wife is away for an extended period with work so I can't dedicate time around daycare days, just the weekends on this. She's trying really hard but as I know 3 is too old and I should have managed to train her earlier.

PP again. I feel your pain! Both for trying to potty train with a baby to manage and also right now as my younger is at the one-accident-a-day stage and we’re so close to being done. Potty training can be so stressful, especially when you’re solo with two kids! Wishing you luck; I hope it works out soon.

Oh and one thing I’ve go I’ve helpful with training when you have a lot going on at home: choose potty times and set an alarm clock for them. Then you and the child don’t have to constantly remember to be checking in about whether they need to go. On daycare days, I do potty on wake up, after breakfast, home from daycare, before bath, and before bed. On weekends it’s all those times but also set a timer for 8:45, 11:30, [before nap — doesn’t get a timer but is a situational one we do], 15:00 (aka after nap), and 16:45.

[Anonymous]

We ended up changing daycares when our oldest son was 3 and still not potty trained. The original daycare didn’t help much at all with the potty training, but in their defense they were very open and honest about how they weren't going to “lead” on the potty training, it has been 7 years so I cant remember exactly what they said tbh.

Switching daycares ended up being an amazing decision for our family: our son was potty trained within a few months and it ended up being a much better fit for our family for a number of reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - sorry for the strange reply time, the baby is deciding it's going to be an all nighter. We spoke with them and they said she'd only had about one success a day with them, not what we're seeing at home. They want to keep using diapers until they see more interest from her at daycare. I'm not sure how she will show more interest if she can't independently access the toilet. They didn't say no to pull ups, so we've picked some up linked above, thank you for these! Hopefully we can persuade that this is worth doing. I'm confused if they can velcro them up why they'd still use diapers though? She does so well in them when prompted and out with us and doesn't treat them as a diaper at all so they're very different

Is she telling them that she has to go unprompted? Is she showing any signs that she’s ready for potty training such as telling them that her diaper is wet or soiled? Does she have the skills to pull her pants down and back up on her own?

Pull-ups with the fastener sides are what we require at our daycare, but they are glorified diapers with less absorbency. Potty training at home is completely different than potty training at a daycare where she has so many distractions. She is having fun, playing, she does not want to leave an activity to go to the bathroom. Whereas at home, when you prompt her, she’s obviously going to go and it’s much easier for one on one training than group training.

In another comment, you mentioned that you feel the pressure to potty train her because she’s three years old. Who is pressuring you? You shouldn’t force potty training on her if she is not ready because you feel pressured. Believe me, when kids are ready, you will know and potty training will be much easier whether they are 18 months or four years old. I have potty trained as early as 16 months and also worked with kids as old as four. When kids are ready, they’re ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - sorry for the strange reply time, the baby is deciding it's going to be an all nighter. We spoke with them and they said she'd only had about one success a day with them, not what we're seeing at home. They want to keep using diapers until they see more interest from her at daycare. I'm not sure how she will show more interest if she can't independently access the toilet. They didn't say no to pull ups, so we've picked some up linked above, thank you for these! Hopefully we can persuade that this is worth doing. I'm confused if they can velcro them up why they'd still use diapers though? She does so well in them when prompted and out with us and doesn't treat them as a diaper at all so they're very different

Is she telling them that she has to go unprompted? Is she showing any signs that she’s ready for potty training such as telling them that her diaper is wet or soiled? Does she have the skills to pull her pants down and back up on her own?

Pull-ups with the fastener sides are what we require at our daycare, but they are glorified diapers with less absorbency. Potty training at home is completely different than potty training at a daycare where she has so many distractions. She is having fun, playing, she does not want to leave an activity to go to the bathroom. Whereas at home, when you prompt her, she’s obviously going to go and it’s much easier for one on one training than group training.

In another comment, you mentioned that you feel the pressure to potty train her because she’s three years old. Who is pressuring you? You shouldn’t force potty training on her if she is not ready because you feel pressured. Believe me, when kids are ready, you will know and potty training will be much easier whether they are 18 months or four years old. I have potty trained as early as 16 months and also worked with kids as old as four. When kids are ready, they’re ready.

OP here-Daycare are great and not pressuring at all, she doesn't ask to go in daycare but has gone successfully when they take them at breaks in schedule. She's 50-50 at prompting at home so still has occasional accidents but is better. I'm not sure if it's because she's happy to tell me immediately

I'm feeling pressure from other parent and family. I was always told this should have been completed by 3 at the latest and I know I need to be teaching her this skill

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - sorry for the strange reply time, the baby is deciding it's going to be an all nighter. We spoke with them and they said she'd only had about one success a day with them, not what we're seeing at home. They want to keep using diapers until they see more interest from her at daycare. I'm not sure how she will show more interest if she can't independently access the toilet. They didn't say no to pull ups, so we've picked some up linked above, thank you for these! Hopefully we can persuade that this is worth doing. I'm confused if they can velcro them up why they'd still use diapers though? She does so well in them when prompted and out with us and doesn't treat them as a diaper at all so they're very different

Is she telling them that she has to go unprompted? Is she showing any signs that she’s ready for potty training such as telling them that her diaper is wet or soiled? Does she have the skills to pull her pants down and back up on her own?

Pull-ups with the fastener sides are what we require at our daycare, but they are glorified diapers with less absorbency. Potty training at home is completely different than potty training at a daycare where she has so many distractions. She is having fun, playing, she does not want to leave an activity to go to the bathroom. Whereas at home, when you prompt her, she’s obviously going to go and it’s much easier for one on one training than group training.

In another comment, you mentioned that you feel the pressure to potty train her because she’s three years old. Who is pressuring you? You shouldn’t force potty training on her if she is not ready because you feel pressured. Believe me, when kids are ready, you will know and potty training will be much easier whether they are 18 months or four years old. I have potty trained as early as 16 months and also worked with kids as old as four. When kids are ready, they’re ready.

OP here-Daycare are great and not pressuring at all, she doesn't ask to go in daycare but has gone successfully when they take them at breaks in schedule. She's 50-50 at prompting at home so still has occasional accidents but is better. I'm not sure if it's because she's happy to tell me immediately

I'm feeling pressure from other parent and family. I was always told this should have been completed by 3 at the latest and I know I need to be teaching her this skill

I’m sorry you’re feeling pressured. It’s unfair to your daughter because from what you write. It doesn’t sound like she’s ready. Some kids are done by three but lots of kids are not done by three (I am currently potty training a 18 month old and a 3 1/2-year-old. The 3 1/2 yo was nowhere near ready at 18 months. He is only ready now and that’s perfectly OK.)

At home, you can teach her how to pull her pants down and pull them back up. You can also just stick her underwear at home and see how she does. Maybe during a break see if you have any success with the three day potty training method. She’ll still need to wear pull-ups at school, but it will give you an idea on whether or not, she can grasp the concept of identifying, the urge to go and making it to the potty. But the biggest thing you can do to help is teaching her to pull her pants and pull up/underwear up and down on her own.

[Anonymous]

Forget about the pull ups. It just adds confusion. I would pull her out for a few days and do the no pants method starting Saturday and Sunday then switch to underwear only mon and Tuesday. If it works send her to school in underwear only and ask them to remind her to go. If it doesn’t work go back to fdiapers and try again in a month. has she ever pooped at home in the potty?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Forget about the pull ups. It just adds confusion. I would pull her out for a few days and do the no pants method starting Saturday and Sunday then switch to underwear only mon and Tuesday. If it works send her to school in underwear only and ask them to remind her to go. If it doesn’t work go back to fdiapers and try again in a month. has she ever pooped at home in the potty?

I am the daycare person from above and I would not accept her an underwear. She would immediately go into pull-ups or diapers until she can be accident free for 2 weeks. That means urine and bm.