Single parent by choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone is going to actually "outsource child raising". If they are going to raise their child, with the support of a live in nanny to provide coverage when they work, that's totally fine.

Their work demands long hours and global travel for their public health research projects.

I'm changing my answer. It's not fair if you work all the time and travel without your kid. If you have a 9-5 or similar, it's fine. But you can't have the nanny in the role of nanny plus parent, which is what will happen if you're literally never around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you guys assume it’s a woman?

Sounds like a man

A woman would probably have titled it Single Mom by choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone is going to actually "outsource child raising". If they are going to raise their child, with the support of a live in nanny to provide coverage when they work, that's totally fine.

Their work demands long hours and global travel for their public health research projects.

I'm changing my answer. It's not fair if you work all the time and travel without your kid. If you have a 9-5 or similar, it's fine. But you can't have the nanny in the role of nanny plus parent, which is what will happen if you're literally never around.

My husband seriously considered doing this, but then we got married. Hope that happens for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone is going to actually "outsource child raising". If they are going to raise their child, with the support of a live in nanny to provide coverage when they work, that's totally fine.

Their work demands long hours and global travel for their public health research projects.

Would this child be genetically related?

[Anonymous]

Take your kid and the nanny with you around the world, like the rock stars do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone is going to actually "outsource child raising". If they are going to raise their child, with the support of a live in nanny to provide coverage when they work, that's totally fine.

Their work demands long hours and global travel for their public health research projects.

I did this. I traveled for work before (global health as well) but changed careers for a a domestic focused job and had a kid on my own. For me, I didnt have enough money for a travel nanny too- but if you did, you could make it work until the kid was in school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone is going to actually "outsource child raising". If they are going to raise their child, with the support of a live in nanny to provide coverage when they work, that's totally fine.

Their work demands long hours and global travel for their public health research projects.

Then…no. Most spbc I know step back from work in one way or another. You can’t outsource a child. It’s cruel.

Yeah, I don't get it. Why have a child then if you don't want to actually parent?

[Anonymous]

It is an inevitability that the child will grow up and resent the choice not to provide for another loving parent.
Look to Section 8 Housing and you will find many such families.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you can find a partner to do it with you?

[Anonymous]

Unless you have a strong local family support network no imo.
There’s no guarantee how long a Nanny will stay with you. So you will be working long hours and presumably want some sort of social life even if it’s limited. Then the primary caregiver can be gone in a matter of days and you need a new one. How long will that one last before you need another……
I am not a single parent bif my spouse works evenings 4-midnight. The monotony of solo parenting every single night is exhausting. I love my kid but it’s mentally draining.

[Anonymous]

What’s your plan for providing positive male role models? Kids of both genders needs role models in their lives. We are a 2 mom family and did a lot of research on this before adopting. Wd are lucky to have a strong family support network of people who love our child. Our child’s Godparent is still her strongest male role model too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you guys assume it’s a woman?

Because men don't suddenly become infertile

[Anonymous]

Each child deserves 2 parents. I k so it always doesn't work out but I think thats the right intention to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Each child deserves 2 parents. I k so it always doesn't work out but I think thats the right intention to have.

Two is not a magic number. It’s the village you build that matters.

[Anonymous]

A friend of mine did it! I wouldn’t wait.