Don’t ask me to call you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

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My pet peeve is when I send you a text and you call me in response. Contact me back in the medium in which I contacted you.

Guilty! I often start texting back and then realize it's easier to talk it out so I call and it is cleared up in a couple of minutes. I know who is socially anxious about talking so I stick to texts with those people.

[Anonymous]

It puts the responsibility on the other person, which is subtly obnoxious. It would be better if he just texted you to ask for the details. Then you could reply when you're available rather than getting handed the task of coordinating a call.

[Anonymous]

Agreed. Never send the text or email "can you please call me" unless someone is in the hospital or something. It's so rude. Have had a handful of coworkers like this and my mom does it sometimes. Just call. I will answer my phone unless I am in the middle of something where I can't, in which case either leave a voicemail or send a text and I will call you back.

I also hate when someone is supposed to call you for something but doesn't and then you call them and they say "oh I was going to call you but I didn't know when would be a good time." Again, just call. If it is not a good time, I won't answer. This is how phones work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

This works if they say something like "hey can you give me a call when you're free?" or "I wanted to talk about the dinner plans -- can you call when you have a chance?"

But what some people will do is say "please call me" or "can you call me please." It comes off like an order and also is so free of context that it makes me think something's wrong and that I need to drop what I'm doing to call them. My parents will do this and I'll worry that one of them is hurt or someone died or something horrible happened, and I'll rush to call them and they'll be like "we hadn't chatted in a while and I was wondering what you were thinking about for the 4th of July this year." It's sooooo annoying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

+1
My pet peeve is when I send you a text and you call me in response. Contact me back in the medium in which I contacted you.

No. Sometimes the medium you chose is not appropriate for the conversation. I will contact you back in the manner I see fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the opposite. I would much rather talk to you on my own schedule. Don't cold call me! Ask me to call when I have a chance.

I prefer to answer my phone on my own schedule. I don't stress about cold calls because if my phone rings when I'm busy, I just don't answer it. Also with caller idea, it's very easy to pick and choose what calls to answer based on my priorities. Like during the workday I pick up most calls from colleagues, but I will let my mom roll to voicemail and call her back in the evening. But if I take the day off the opposite is true. I'm in control even though people are calling me without warning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

+1
My pet peeve is when I send you a text and you call me in response. Contact me back in the medium in which I contacted you.

Always this. Same in response to work emails. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

YES so agree with this. it's a power move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the opposite. I would much rather talk to you on my own schedule. Don't cold call me! Ask me to call when I have a chance.

Yeah, same here. I much prefer this.

[Anonymous]

I mean your son issued the invitation so I think you are responsible for reaching out to the other parent? It’s still rude for him to tell you to call though.

[Anonymous]

Unless your name is Blonde or Carly Rae I am not calling you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

+1
My pet peeve is when I send you a text and you call me in response. Contact me back in the medium in which I contacted you.

Some people don't like to text also sometimes there needs to be more info exchanged than can reasonably be done in a text.

[Anonymous]

If your child invited another child to an activity, rules are you should call with the details. Not the other say around. If other parent invited your son, that other parent should call you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean your son issued the invitation so I think you are responsible for reaching out to the other parent? It’s still rude for him to tell you to call though.

I mean maybe? These are teens, and it’s for an activity that they’ve all done together annually for many years now. Somehow, the moms have all been able to discuss via text but this dude needs someone to call him. Why doesn’t he email or text and ask his questions first?

[Anonymous]

I think the perfect solution is for one or the other person to say "Hey text me when you have a minute to talk about _______ and I'll call you." That way if they do text you and you are busy you can reschedule the call then with a response text.