Don’t ask me to call you

[Anonymous]

When you’re the one who wants to talk to me!! It’s so entitled. There’s a dad in my child’s friend group who does this all the time. Maybe it’s just a verbal tic, but if YOU want to talk to me, then you should call me or ask when a good time is for you to call. Do not order me to call you.
Ex- planned outing with teen boys. Son asks friend if he’s free that day. Friend says my dad said your mom should call him with details. I’m sure in a day or so, he’ll email or text and say- can you call me to talk about this activity.

Same rules apply at work. Person who wants to talk doesn’t ask the other person to call / send calendar invite unless the initiator is higher up the food chain.

[Anonymous]

Wut

[Anonymous]

yeah I agree OP--the whole "call me" is super entitled. Just call me or text me directly if you need to connect. The person with the questions should be taking the initiative--hey, do you have a min for me to give you a quick call to discuss the details about such and such activity? ugh. I also cannot stand "call me" without any context. okay--call you about what exactly? I hear you OP.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

[Anonymous]

“Call me” means they are not interested

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Call me” means they are not interested

Sure it may, but actually it means that I’m not going to call since I’m not the one who wants or needs to have the conversation. He may not really want to either, but that’s not my problem then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

+1
My pet peeve is when I send you a text and you call me in response. Contact me back in the medium in which I contacted you.

[Anonymous]

Imagine having such a charmed life that THIS is what gets you upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't know, I like the idea that if they ask me to call, I can control when I call instead of waiting around for them to call me. And once I call and leave a message I've done my part and I don't care if I miss their call back.

If he were to say, I’d like to chat with some questions about planned activity, I’ll give you a call, then I would respond- sounds great, tomorrow afternoon around 4 works well for me or some such.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine having such a charmed life that THIS is what gets you upset.

No one is claiming that this is the end of the world. Just a pet peeve. If you only want to talk about serious issues, then go over to the Politics forum.

[Anonymous]

I think the opposite. I would much rather talk to you on my own schedule. Don't cold call me! Ask me to call when I have a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you’re the one who wants to talk to me!! It’s so entitled. There’s a dad in my child’s friend group who does this all the time. Maybe it’s just a verbal tic, but if YOU want to talk to me, then you should call me or ask when a good time is for you to call. Do not order me to call you.
Ex- planned outing with teen boys. Son asks friend if he’s free that day. Friend says my dad said your mom should call him with details. I’m sure in a day or so, he’ll email or text and say- can you call me to talk about this activity.

Same rules apply at work. Person who wants to talk doesn’t ask the other person to call / send calendar invite unless the initiator is higher up the food chain.

I don't think this is odd. Your son issued an invitation and the dad is asking for the invitation to come directly from "the source". Maybe he feels like calling and saying "Josh says Nathan invited him to X" feels too much like inviting his kid?

I agree with your work point, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine having such a charmed life that THIS is what gets you upset.

Yeah unless you’re dying of cancer or your family has been ripped from you in a war torn country or you’re starving to death, don’t complain about anything. Ever.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather you not call at all.

Text does just fine. If it's a long thought, send an email I guess.