DH addiction

[Anonymous]

He can't do it because he is getting old compared to his 30s. The decline comes fast. Wait til your eyes go.
He can still do it fine with porn though. I'd let him be and get me a younger one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Porn is destroying men. It’s a good refuge for men because they don’t have to be judged on their performance. Women, whether they realize it or not, can be incredibly rude toward men who underperform sexually. Men cannot fake an erection. Women can fake moaning and have access to lube if they are dry from being turned off.

There is a lot of truth to this, although I don't think it is "destroying men." That seems like an overstatement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Porn is destroying men. It’s a good refuge for men because they don’t have to be judged on their performance. Women, whether they realize it or not, can be incredibly rude toward men who underperform sexually. Men cannot fake an erection. Women can fake moaning and have access to lube if they are dry from being turned off.

There is a lot of truth to this, although I don't think it is "destroying men." That seems like an overstatement.

Like many things, it's fine in moderation. If one person's drive is higher than the other's it's a good way to make up the difference.

[Anonymous]

Gay porn? It's over. It's not you.

[Anonymous]

he's gay

[Anonymous]

I would divorce over this. There's room for some level of porn in a relationship, but not this. And women are always called prude if they express any concern. I find so-called porn addiction a gross weakness. This would likely be it for me.

OP, at 39 you are young and have time to heal and find someone else if that's what you want to do. Go to therapy and figure out if you can live with your husband even if he breaks the habit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH has a porn addiction. Since COVID, our sex life has been non existent yet DH has been consuming porn almost on a daily basis. This started after he was laid off from his job and became depressed as a result. On his computer I found that he is has been looking at all kind of porn, gay, transgender and fat women porn. Every time we try to have sex he fails to be aroused and doesn’t seem all that exited to have actual real sex. Is his lack of arousal caused by his porn consumption? I don’t think porn can change your sexual orientation. If he stops will our self life returns to normal. I am 39 and he is 45. He will try to stop on his own, if not we may have to look for help for his addiction. He doesn’t consume alcohol or do drugs.

Can he stop using porn completely and only focus on your and your sexual relationship all the energy to just the both of you not any external forces or stimuli?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many men turning while they have willing wives ready to be railed??

+10000 makes no sense!!! MEN try touching YOUR WIVES.

[Anonymous]

Porn is destroying marriages and lives. Don't underestimate it.

Does he WANT to quit OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many men turning while they have willing wives ready to be railed??

Wives don’t communicate their desires about sex or it is a small part of the overall communication and the rest of what they say centers around how badly spouse sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately the dopamine release that men get from watching porn is so high that it will take awhile for everything to be reworked once he stops. Once your DH stops give him space. After awhile he will progressively enjoy the human touch again. Porn should be banned period. It’s very destructive to people. If it were hurting women nearly the same way it’s hurting me I guarantee you we would have had some type of restriction on this filth. Yikes! And sorry. But don’t divorce your hubby over this though. The fact that it’s not a hidden secret is a good first step. Depression can really destroy people. You guys will get through this.

LOL. Women are trafficked, raped, abused, expected to perform painful and degrading sex acts and surgical body modifications are mainstreamed all so that men can have an infinite variety of porn at their fingertips, but it's not being restricted because of . . . misandry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gay porn? It's over. It's not you.

This was the start of how I found out my ex was gay or bi or whatever he was. All started with the death of his dad and puberty for his son. Became wild within a year. At the end he was telling me how great orgies were. I think porn addiction is destroying people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are so many men turning while they have willing wives ready to be railed??

+10000 makes no sense!!! MEN try touching YOUR WIVES.

Haha. Have you read these forums? Wives are all touched out and suffering mental loads and emotional labor whatnot. They don't want to be touched anyway.

[Anonymous]

Careful with the porn/addiction comparisons. Whatever legitimate research there is on this sort of thing is subsumed by people who don't like sexually explicit material for other reasons and are mostly dressing up those reasons in the language of science and addiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately the dopamine release that men get from watching porn is so high that it will take awhile for everything to be reworked once he stops. Once your DH stops give him space. After awhile he will progressively enjoy the human touch again. Porn should be banned period. It’s very destructive to people. If it were hurting women nearly the same way it’s hurting me I guarantee you we would have had some type of restriction on this filth. Yikes! And sorry. But don’t divorce your hubby over this though. The fact that it’s not a hidden secret is a good first step. Depression can really destroy people. You guys will get through this.

LOL. Women are trafficked, raped, abused, expected to perform painful and degrading sex acts and surgical body modifications are mainstreamed all so that men can have an infinite variety of porn at their fingertips, but it's not being restricted because of . . . misandry.

Seriously. Is the PP above fine real. Like seriously? WTF.