OP, you already know how to proceed. DTMFA. |
Dig deeper. Trace his money over the years. Track his whereabouts. There might be more lying. |
Not only was he unfaithful to his wife, his friends know about it and embarrassed her in front of them. Don't just shut the f up. |
This. You can't trust him. And he only confessed because you began to smell something fishy. |
What is up with this college friend? What a sh**-stirrer. He is going to need to drop this person immediately. |
Yeah. What a scummy "friend". I don't know if I could ever truly move forward. Easier said than done, I know. What a shock, OP. ![]() |
I call troll because there was no reason for him not to go along and pretend he’d been to that destination prior to the marriage. |
NP, but prior to marrying my husband, we knew all the countries to which the other had traveled. OP has been married 14 years. If my DH suddenly remembered a trip to Mexico he’d never told me about in almost two decades together, I’d think it was suspicious. |
What did she win? A decade of being married to a total douchebag? |
It depends on health of your marriage and if its worthy of forgiveness and moving on. Only you can decide. If you think its strong enough to survive this then he rational and use this information to your advantage for complete transparency. I'll provide ask him to sign a post nup favorable to you and the kids to avoid future occurrences. |
Go along with it? "Ohhhhh yeah, honey, I know we have been together for a decade and a half, but I totally forgot to tell you about the time I went to Mexico." Yeeeeah, that's believable. |
It doesn't matter how long ago this happened or if (and it's a big 'if') there was no other cheating. It is new and shocking to you. What happened wasn't a one time mistake. He did it over and over again. He took her on a trip. His friends knew about it. Wow. I gently suggest you make no major decisions, get a relationship counselor for yourself to help you figure out your feelings and needs. Get some distance from your husband so you can think straight. Focus on yourself. |
If that revelation happened to me I would immediately suspect there were other incidents of cheating also. It is highly unlikely he cheated for six months with an ex GF and then stopped and never cheated again after having totally gotten away with it.
I would not start trying to catch him at it or find evidence however. I would see a counselor for myself and try to figure out whether I wanted to be married to this guy. |
How would she know? |
+1 |