How to navigate sleeping arrangements for holidays

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter has zero respect for her family. As your eldest she could at least attempt to set a decent example for younger siblings.

Ignore this idiocy, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter has zero respect for her family. As your eldest she could at least attempt to set a decent example for younger siblings.

BINGO

God, what a ridiculous gaggle of pearl-clutching MeeMaws you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your daughter has zero respect for her family. As your eldest she could at least attempt to set a decent example for younger siblings.

I kind of agree. I wouldn’t want an elder sibling having a significant other in their room, unless they were engaged or else above 30. It might be hypocrisy but so be it.

It’s a stupid rule. Not at 29, but 30 is ok!
Not ok for the oldest, but fine for the youngest!

[Anonymous]

Listen if you had an actual guest room to offer him I think I’d feel differently, but a 25 yr old coming to your home and being shown a pullout couch with zero privacy (glass doors), does he have to carry his clothes into a bathroom to change? This is one of those family situations where no one is wrong, but your house your rules, her travel, her choice to stay in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

What is this? Meet the Parents?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's a brat. Your house, your rules.

Which is exactly why she’s not staying there.

[Anonymous]

She is a grown ass adult.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter is an adult; treat her like one. You may not get many visits after this if you continue to act like she's still a teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Listen if you had an actual guest room to offer him I think I’d feel differently, but a 25 yr old coming to your home and being shown a pullout couch with zero privacy (glass doors), does he have to carry his clothes into a bathroom to change? This is one of those family situations where no one is wrong, but your house your rules, her travel, her choice to stay in a hotel.

100% this. You’re not even giving this person a real bed or functional door and you’re shocked they don’t want to stay there? Would YOU want to stay in this room.

Your husband is an ahole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like your daughter came up with the best compromise. Be happy she’s visiting at all.

+1. Good for her. I wouldn’t have dared to do this when I was 23.

Your dh is wrong and I hope he changes his mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Listen if you had an actual guest room to offer him I think I’d feel differently, but a 25 yr old coming to your home and being shown a pullout couch with zero privacy (glass doors), does he have to carry his clothes into a bathroom to change? This is one of those family situations where no one is wrong, but your house your rules, her travel, her choice to stay in a hotel.

100% this. You’re not even giving this person a real bed or functional door and you’re shocked they don’t want to stay there? Would YOU want to stay in this room.

Your husband is an ahole.

Agree. And why do I have the feeling that if the daughter were a son, this wouldn’t be as big of a deal to OP’s husband 🤔.

[Anonymous]

I think your husband is being silly about the separate rooms, but if it's important to him, and you're on board, it's a totally fine policy.

Having done it, though, he has to live with the consequences. I wouldn't travel a great distance to sleep on a pullout couch in the living room either. Totally reasonable for them to stay at a hotel. If your husband thinks he won't see them enough, he's welcome to reconsider his position and let them sleep in the same bed. But he can't have it both ways. Choices have consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seems like your daughter came up with the best compromise. Be happy she’s visiting at all.

+1. Good for her. I wouldn’t have dared to do this when I was 23.

Your dh is wrong and I hope he changes his mind.

Couldn’t agree more. He, and you, should consider how you want to create a mature adult relationship with her in 2024. She sounds successful- good for her

[Anonymous]

I’ll add this is the kernel that starts “why doesn’t my son in law like me?!” Threads haha