Men bringing up sex/sex adjacent things right away?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Today I matched with a pretty cute guy on Hinge and the conversation turned fairly quickly to sexual subjects that I'm not really comfortable with. First it was what I thought was a light hearted joke about him meeting women who wanted to go to sex parties, then next thing he's asking me if I've ever been to one, if I would go to one, and the conversation pivoted and kept coming back to it before he finally told me he dreamed of opening a strip club and I blocked him.

Are some men really so unselfaware that they think this is gonna lead to sex? Is it just a fishing tactic to see who's gonna bite? Was he trying to con me into some kind of Andrew Tate camming business? I dont understand what could make seemingly otherwise intelligent men act like complete doofuses.

Topic and conclusion says "men" but the content is about one person.

Meanwhile, he quickly sussed out the non-match and moved on to greener pastures, while you're still inviting him into your rent-free. Who is the doofus?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today I matched with a pretty cute guy on Hinge and the conversation turned fairly quickly to sexual subjects that I'm not really comfortable with. First it was what I thought was a light hearted joke about him meeting women who wanted to go to sex parties, then next thing he's asking me if I've ever been to one, if I would go to one, and the conversation pivoted and kept coming back to it before he finally told me he dreamed of opening a strip club and I blocked him.

Are some men really so unselfaware that they think this is gonna lead to sex? Is it just a fishing tactic to see who's gonna bite? Was he trying to con me into some kind of Andrew Tate camming business? I dont understand what could make seemingly otherwise intelligent men act like complete doofuses.

Topic and conclusion says "men" but the content is about one person.

Meanwhile, he quickly sussed out the non-match and moved on to greener pastures, while you're still inviting him into your rent-free. Who is the doofus?

He actually didn't, he kept messaging me until I blocked him. Did you not read?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

If you wrote to him as clearly as you wrote the OP, I understand why we wouldn't get the message that you forgot to actually say.

What are you talking about? It was perfectly clear. Reading is fundamental

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't understand why complete strangers that you haven't met in real life aren't what you want them to be?

Curious as to how you got this from OP's statement?

Then you must not read very well. The OP expressed all kinds of expectations concerning a complete stranger she met on line. She asks why that stranger isn't what she wants him to be. In this case, according to OP, he is too sexual for her. She must think there is some rule that people you meet on line have to behave the way OP wants.them to behave. That's an unrealistic expectation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't understand why complete strangers that you haven't met in real life aren't what you want them to be?

Curious as to how you got this from OP's statement?

Then you must not read very well. The OP expressed all kinds of expectations concerning a complete stranger she met on line. She asks why that stranger isn't what she wants him to be. In this case, according to OP, he is too sexual for her. She must think there is some rule that people you meet on line have to behave the way OP wants.them to behave. That's an unrealistic expectation.

Where did she do that? Can you specifically point it out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

Bizarre according to what rule book or promise that was made to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

Bizarre according to what rule book or promise that was made to you?

If you really don’t think sending someone extremely sexual messages within hours of meeting them is bizarre, then that says a lot about you and your social skills

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't understand why complete strangers that you haven't met in real life aren't what you want them to be?

Curious as to how you got this from OP's statement?

Then you must not read very well. The OP expressed all kinds of expectations concerning a complete stranger she met on line. She asks why that stranger isn't what she wants him to be. In this case, according to OP, he is too sexual for her. She must think there is some rule that people you meet on line have to behave the way OP wants.them to behave. That's an unrealistic expectation.

Where did she do that? Can you specifically point it out?

Can you specifically point out where she explains why she thinks a complete stranger she met in a hook up dating app should not be immediately and overtly sexual with a random 403?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

Bizarre according to what rule book or promise that was made to you?

If you really don’t think sending someone extremely sexual messages within hours of meeting them is bizarre, then that says a lot about you and your social skills

No one met anyone. This is all communications on a hook up app. The only thing that is bizarre is messaging someone on a hook up app and being surprised when they talk about sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

Bizarre according to what rule book or promise that was made to you?

If you really don’t think sending someone extremely sexual messages within hours of meeting them is bizarre, then that says a lot about you and your social skills

No one met anyone. This is all communications on a hook up app. The only thing that is bizarre is messaging someone on a hook up app and being surprised when they talk about sex.

If you think Hinge is a hookup app then you must be pretty old. Why even attempt to weigh in about dating matters that are clearly well past your purview and knowledge pool? Just accept your old age and that you have no idea of what the "kids" are up to today!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't understand why complete strangers that you haven't met in real life aren't what you want them to be?

Curious as to how you got this from OP's statement?

Then you must not read very well. The OP expressed all kinds of expectations concerning a complete stranger she met on line. She asks why that stranger isn't what she wants him to be. In this case, according to OP, he is too sexual for her. She must think there is some rule that people you meet on line have to behave the way OP wants.them to behave. That's an unrealistic expectation.

Where did she do that? Can you specifically point it out?

Can you specifically point out where she explains why she thinks a complete stranger she met in a hook up dating app should not be immediately and overtly sexual with a random 403?

Oh God, found the loser perennially online Andrew Tate fan incel. No serious man uses the phrase 403. Try getting offline and getting a real life outside OnlyFans, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Today I matched with a pretty cute guy on Hinge and the conversation turned fairly quickly to sexual subjects that I'm not really comfortable with. First it was what I thought was a light hearted joke about him meeting women who wanted to go to sex parties, then next thing he's asking me if I've ever been to one, if I would go to one, and the conversation pivoted and kept coming back to it before he finally told me he dreamed of opening a strip club and I blocked him.

Are some men really so unselfaware that they think this is gonna lead to sex? Is it just a fishing tactic to see who's gonna bite? Was he trying to con me into some kind of Andrew Tate camming business? I dont understand what could make seemingly otherwise intelligent men act like complete doofuses.

He was trying to find someone who is open to those type of things. You are not. Good. Both of you will not waste time and move on to someone new.

This is correct. I was approached in the same manner by someone two years ago. It was clear what she wanted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s possibly some sort of mental illness or intoxication, or someone just getting off on writing that stuff to you.

In answer to your question about the effectiveness of his methods - well, he got a little gratification out of sending you those messages.

Which is what I find strange because I just deflected each time, didn't really get offended nor delve too deep into it. It honestly seems like a waste of time for him, and especially because he's a relatively good looking guy (and his profile linked to his instagram so I know it was really him). Why is an attractive man with a six pack and a pretty face that could have plenty of dates and probably find sex easily if he just played his cards right wasting his time messaging some woman who's barely responding to his sexual innuendos and then blocks him? It just seems odd and pointless.

He doesn’t just want sex based on his messages, he wants someone who is pretty kinky/dirty. That’s not you, and you both figured that out quickly.

But he didn't figure it out? He kept pressing me even though I made it clear and verbally told him. It's just bizarre.

Bizarre according to what rule book or promise that was made to you?

If you really don’t think sending someone extremely sexual messages within hours of meeting them is bizarre, then that says a lot about you and your social skills

No one met anyone. This is all communications on a hook up app. The only thing that is bizarre is messaging someone on a hook up app and being surprised when they talk about sex.

If you think Hinge is a hookup app then you must be pretty old. Why even attempt to weigh in about dating matters that are clearly well past your purview and knowledge pool? Just accept your old age and that you have no idea of what the "kids" are up to today!

You are obviously wrong since the same exact highly desirable man that OP is obsessed with was using hinge as a....sexual hook up app.

Your level of delusion suggests medication may be warranted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't understand why complete strangers that you haven't met in real life aren't what you want them to be?

Curious as to how you got this from OP's statement?

Then you must not read very well. The OP expressed all kinds of expectations concerning a complete stranger she met on line. She asks why that stranger isn't what she wants him to be. In this case, according to OP, he is too sexual for her. She must think there is some rule that people you meet on line have to behave the way OP wants.them to behave. That's an unrealistic expectation.

Where did she do that? Can you specifically point it out?

Can you specifically point out where she explains why she thinks a complete stranger she met in a hook up dating app should not be immediately and overtly sexual with a random 403?

Oh God, found the loser perennially online Andrew Tate fan incel. No serious man uses the phrase 403. Try getting offline and getting a real life outside OnlyFans, pp.

Shouldn't that have been directed to OP? Isn't she the one in desperate need of getting off the hookup apps if she doesn't like what she finds there, and you know, trying to actually meet a real live man in real life?

[Anonymous]

I know a guy when he traveled for work would just go up to woman and say “I am not interested in wasting your time or my time do you want to go back to my hotel and F?”

A few thought it was funny and would laugh and go about their evening, some would be disgusted walk away and call him a jerk. Every once in a while he would get slapped. But 1 in 15-20 would say yes.