Woman hasn't dated for 8 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t press it. If she doesn’t initiate sex within a few months then drop her. She is not into it, and that’s likely why she got left.

Months?

[Anonymous]

Personally, I’d rather be with someone that didn’t go out and bang every dude they went out on a date with after their divorce. Seems the trend leans way more towards that than not having sex. I’m dating a women now that went a little crazy after her divorce, and then gives me the line that she doesn’t have sex with people unless she feels an emotional connection. Ummmm. Ok.

[Anonymous]

Meh. I just don't enjoy sex with other people as much as I enjoy getting myself off.

Sure, partner sex is great, but solo is just as good for me. Especially when toys are involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman I'm dating said she hasn't been with a man in 8 years (late 40s to mid 50s). She's been divorced for 15 years. Is this cause for concern? Do women with healthy sex drives go this long? We fooled around a little and she seemed to enjoy it but she didn't seem especially excited.

How would you feel if you were dating a woman who'd been divorced for 15 years and told you she'd been having regular sex since then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been divorced for 10 years and I've had sex twice in 10 yrs. I enjoy sex but I have to have time for it. With work, kids, and aging parents, I just haven't had time to date. I'm not going to go out to bar on a Tuesday night and try and find some random guy to sleep with. I work from home so no opportunity to meet someone at the office. It's weird to think of sleeping with a dad from my kids school.

I never thought of it as a cause for a concern. I just haven't had time.

There's nothing wrong with your lifestyle or the choices you made. Kudos to you for taking care your family! You sound like a great woman.

That said, people make time for things that are really important to them. I'd assume sex with another person is not that important to you. If I wanted to be with someone for whom frequent, active sex was a priority, your lifestyle would be a red flag. If I was ok with having sex only when life was going well and there's not a whole lot going on, your relatively sexless past probably wouldn't bother me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman I'm dating said she hasn't been with a man in 8 years (late 40s to mid 50s). She's been divorced for 15 years. Is this cause for concern? Do women with healthy sex drives go this long? We fooled around a little and she seemed to enjoy it but she didn't seem especially excited.

OP, I'm curious how this came up - did you ask her Qs and she responded or did she volunteer the info?

If she answered in response to your questions, I'm curious what questions you asked that would elicit this response. Did you ask when she last has sex or did you ask her last serious relationship? Number of partners?

Also curious what you mean by "she didn't seem especially excited" - what kind if response did you expect and not get?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A woman I'm dating said she hasn't been with a man in 8 years (late 40s to mid 50s). She's been divorced for 15 years. Is this cause for concern? Do women with healthy sex drives go this long? We fooled around a little and she seemed to enjoy it but she didn't seem especially excited.

How would you feel if you were dating a woman who'd been divorced for 15 years and told you she'd been having regular sex since then?

This post is the opposite of the other one where a guy was concerned that the woman he is dating had slept with 60+ partners.

I guess there's always something to complain about.

[Anonymous]

You haven't even done it yet and you're already whining??

[Anonymous]

Maybe she wasn't that excited because you aren't that good.

[Anonymous]

I went 7 years without sex and when I finally did have it I didn’t tell the guy as I didn’t feel the need to. Yes, I was nervous but I think most people are nervous the first time they have sex with someone especially when your body is no longer in prime shape. But I did fine and the sex was great.

[Anonymous]

How many of you are women men would want to sleep with?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How many of you are women men would want to sleep with?

Once I started dating after becoming an empty nester I had no problem attracting men, most of whom I had no interest in sleeping with. The ones I did sleep with were very appreciative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t press it. If she doesn’t initiate sex within a few months then drop her. She is not into it, and that’s likely why she got left.

This.

She could be essentially asexual at this point in her life. You have zero obligation toward her.

If you are a huge mismatch, do both of you a favor and get out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Meh. I just don't enjoy sex with other people as much as I enjoy getting myself off.

Sure, partner sex is great, but solo is just as good for me. Especially when toys are involved.

This is not at all uncommon. Very common in fact, especially at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman I'm dating said she hasn't been with a man in 8 years (late 40s to mid 50s). She's been divorced for 15 years. Is this cause for concern? Do women with healthy sex drives go this long? We fooled around a little and she seemed to enjoy it but she didn't seem especially excited.

Dump her she doesn't like sex enough to actually have it. You won't change that. She is a waste of your time.