They lie or really don't know where their kids zone to?

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Anonymous wrote:What a weird thread. At this time in the year the year before my son went to k I had no idea where he was going. It was going to be whatever school the neighborhood was zoned to.

I guess I'm in the minority, but I do think this is weird, OP. My DD is also in her last (pre-k) year at a private daycare, and we do casually discuss (like at bday parties) where our kids are going to school next year. I know which kids in the class will be at my DD's school next year. It's nice to try to foster those friendships. And this is in an area where all the ES schools are great and similar. But very few folks go private where I am, so maybe that is the difference.

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Anonymous wrote:If they have always planned to do private school they may genuinely have never looked into or paid attention to which public they are zoned for. I don’t find this hard to believe at all.

I highly doubt people who put their kids in daycare are going to do private school.

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Anonymous wrote:If they have always planned to do private school they may genuinely have never looked into or paid attention to which public they are zoned for. I don’t find this hard to believe at all.

I highly doubt people who put their kids in daycare are going to do private school.

I don't live in the area but I have multiple friends and acquaintances who did this. Definitely some sahms who sent kids to private when they were school age but a good amount of families with 2 working parents did daycare then private. It doesn’t seem unusual to me at all.

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I would think they don't want to have the school conversation with you because they think you'll recruit them, or they'll feel judged, or it'll be boring.

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I say "i don't know' if I don't want to answer the question, like the person is meddling or is annoying.

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Anonymous wrote:I would think they don't want to have the school conversation with you because they think you'll recruit them, or they'll feel judged, or it'll be boring.

You guys, OP isn't asking this question because she wants to discuss caliber of schools or pyramids or anything. She is just wondering whether her kid will have some familiar faces next year in K. Maybe she would like to initiate a playdate or playground meet up or something with those families. That would actually be . . . friendly (the horror!). There are a lot of meddling questions out there where I feign ignorance. This is totally innocuous.

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In DC it’s pretty common in that everyone expects to lottery (sometimes every year) so who cares what the zoned school is?

We did—enough to move.

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Stop being a nosy loser, OP. Do you really walk around thinking people owe you an explanation?

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I bought a house knowing the elementary school was right down the street and my future kids could walk there. That was it. Didn’t really care about anything else. If I had not literally been able to see the school 5 houses away, I have no idea when I would have figured out what school we were zoned to. But probably not until elementary was close.

And school ratings are BS. I just recently looked and my kids go to schools that are rated a 4 on great schools. They are having wonderful school experiences. They are rich, white kids. The main problem at most schools with low ratings is equity — which I fully believe is a problem we need to solve. But agonizing over the ratings of schools for my kids (with their particular demographic) is silly.

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My kids aren't in public school yet and we always forget what district we are. We did check out the schools when we bought and know they're good, but our district boundaries are so bizarre and the schools all have similar names like Prairie Grove, Prairie Hills, Hillside, and Indian Grove so I can never remember the correct names or which one is our's. Guess I should learn as my oldest will be in K next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bought a house knowing the elementary school was right down the street and my future kids could walk there. That was it. Didn’t really care about anything else. If I had not literally been able to see the school 5 houses away, I have no idea when I would have figured out what school we were zoned to. But probably not until elementary was close.

And school ratings are BS. I just recently looked and my kids go to schools that are rated a 4 on great schools. They are having wonderful school experiences. They are rich, white kids. The main problem at most schools with low ratings is equity — which I fully believe is a problem we need to solve. But agonizing over the ratings of schools for my kids (with their particular demographic) is silly.

What makes you think OP is agonizing, or even thinking at all, about ratings?
A lot of people with pre-k age kids have older kids who are already in ES. Unless they went private, obviously those families know their pre-k kid's future school. Do the families that purported not to know have older siblings? if so, they know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If they have always planned to do private school they may genuinely have never looked into or paid attention to which public they are zoned for. I don’t find this hard to believe at all.

I highly doubt people who put their kids in daycare are going to do private school.

Uh why?

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Anonymous wrote:Stop being a nosy loser, OP. Do you really walk around thinking people owe you an explanation?

I have 3 kids. 2 were in daycare. I think everyone knew what elementary they were zoned for. Most people lived relatively close to the daycare. We would sometimes sign up for sports and summer camps together even if we were zoned for different elementary. In that area, all the elementary were similar so it was a casual conversation.

I would think if you live in a diverse SES neighborhood or lots of kids go private, maybe people genuinely don’t know and expect to go private or they don’t want to tell you for whatever reason.

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They may not want to say if they are zoned for a bad school? Shrug.

I had a neighbor who didn’t know for sure. They went private.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If they have always planned to do private school they may genuinely have never looked into or paid attention to which public they are zoned for. I don’t find this hard to believe at all.

I highly doubt people who put their kids in daycare are going to do private school.

Daycare is private school.