What personal battle are you currently fighting?

[Anonymous]

Single, early turning into mid 40s, obviously never going to have a spouse/kid by this point, pretty much given up on dating. Lived/worked overseas for a long time and moved back just before COVID, and never really managed to make friends outside work. Father has Parkinsons and is declining, mother is also aging. I spend much of my free time helping them out, which means I have no real life outside work and my parents. Which in turn means once they are no longer around, there's not really going to be anyone important in my life save a nephew as my sibling and I do not and have never gotten along.

Career is going extremely well. Otherwise future is going to be a comfortable but likely very quiet life with no real friends and the occasional visit from nephew. But I don't have the personality that thinks in terms of fighting personal battles. I just get on with it. Then eventually I'll die and will be forgotten.

[Anonymous]

Mine is so small compared to others: breakup.
I had never loved anyone before even though I was married and have two kids.
Started to think a really good fit doesn't even exist.
I wish I could control my sadness and disappointment. I'm too old for such strong feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife died without warning. Our children are heartbroken missing their mom, I am still in shock praying I can keep it together.

My condolences, PP. I hope you are able to lean on friends and family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single, early turning into mid 40s, obviously never going to have a spouse/kid by this point, pretty much given up on dating. Lived/worked overseas for a long time and moved back just before COVID, and never really managed to make friends outside work. Father has Parkinsons and is declining, mother is also aging. I spend much of my free time helping them out, which means I have no real life outside work and my parents. Which in turn means once they are no longer around, there's not really going to be anyone important in my life save a nephew as my sibling and I do not and have never gotten along.

Career is going extremely well. Otherwise future is going to be a comfortable but likely very quiet life with no real friends and the occasional visit from nephew. But I don't have the personality that thinks in terms of fighting personal battles. I just get on with it. Then eventually I'll die and will be forgotten.

This is me, except with no career. My parents are doing okay but getting old.
Doesn't feel like much of a life, but it could be so much worse and I feel terrible feeling sorry for myself.

[Anonymous]

I am not a good partner.

[Anonymous]

Teen diagnosed with ADHD, starting meds, not sure what to expect. Feeling badly it wasn’t identified earlier in life as there have been many struggles and extreme anxiety and depression. Feeling like I failed at parenting.

Praying for all you facing challenges and loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:25 year marriage is millimeters from falling over the rail.
Expenses are skyrocketing and income has never been lower.
Assets are not selling.
There’s a pressure in my chest that will occasionally radiate into my left arm.
I have a molar that needs to come out and I can’t afford to do so.

I really hope you can get seen for those, PP. How come assets are not selling?

[Anonymous]

Uncomfortable with the amount of alcohol I drink (3/4 - 1 1/4 bottle 4-6 nights per week) but can't seem to stop. It affects other things in my life (energy and makes it harder to lose the weight I need to).

[Anonymous]

Divorcing (a positive in many ways but still new and stressful), estranged from my parents, in a new state far from family and friends and homesick. But I have a good job, my health, kids are healthy, and love.

[Anonymous]

I am still rocked to my core as my husband passed away last November. When it happened, I felt like someone had gut punched me and dropped me to the ground.12 months later amd I feel the same.

My world was taken from me. I do try to be strong for my (now adult) kids. But I am such a fraud. I'm hardly happy. I feel like I am in a fog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Uncomfortable with the amount of alcohol I drink (3/4 - 1 1/4 bottle 4-6 nights per week) but can't seem to stop. It affects other things in my life (energy and makes it harder to lose the weight I need to).

I'm sorry. This was me a few years ago and sadly it progressed until it was two bottles a night pretty much every night before I went to vodka. But I stopped 14 months ago. You can do it too. Just keep trying. Try reading. Try Annie Grace. Try AA. Try podcasts. Try Reframe (that's what worked for me). Just keep trying until it sticks.

[Anonymous]

Just a note of appreciation to those who respond, offering support and kindness to those who open up here.
I hope you receive the support you need when facing challenges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Uncomfortable with the amount of alcohol I drink (3/4 - 1 1/4 bottle 4-6 nights per week) but can't seem to stop. It affects other things in my life (energy and makes it harder to lose the weight I need to).

I'm sorry. This was me a few years ago and sadly it progressed until it was two bottles a night pretty much every night before I went to vodka. But I stopped 14 months ago. You can do it too. Just keep trying. Try reading. Try Annie Grace. Try AA. Try podcasts. Try Reframe (that's what worked for me). Just keep trying until it sticks.

I liked the book "This Naked Mind". Reddit also has a very supportive group called stopdrinking.

[Anonymous]

Had miracle identical twins after 3 losses and was so, so happy. I felt like I was living my dream. Then the delays started to manifest and they just stopped progressing in their development, and they were diagnosed w profound autism. I am crushed.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for the thread. I am wishing everyone strength and courage.

I am grateful that my husband and I are healthy. We love and enjoy each other.
And, we are both feeling crappy in our jobs so we’re both low every single day.