I lost a valuable ring and feel sick over it

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My aunt had a precious, heirloom ring turn up after she thought it was lost for a year--it was in a deep pocket of one of her travel bags. Another friend found her engagement ring years after losing it when the dryer repair man came over.

Good luck, but don't let it take too much of your time, mental energy, or emotional health! No object is worth your time or your peace of mind or your health. Understand and accept that things get lost. Maybe you'll find it someday, maybe not. Things get lost, and it's OK.

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Anonymous wrote:It was a beautiful art deco ring. It cost about $2k. I kept it in the same spot all the time. I wore it out on Thursday. Last night, I couldn't find it. I have turned my whole house upside down. I feel so upset. Anyone BTDT? Advice? I'm just so sad.

Oh no! I totally understand. I lost my wedding rings and a pair of diamond earrings with enormous sentimental value a few years ago. It all eventually turned up in a most unexpected place. I hope this happens with you. I know exactly the feeling you are feeeling.

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DCUM readers love to help people find their lost items. I'll start: What were you wearing the night you went out?

[Anonymous]

Have you checked behind furniture including the underside of drawers? Don't ask me
how but once I had an earring fall underneath a dresser drawer.

Have you taken out the trash since you lost the ring? I would go through the trash as part of my search (seriously, I have accidentally thrown the weirdest things out before).

Did you wear a different bag or jacket than usual and have you checked the pockets?

Do you remember taking it off when you got home?

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Anonymous wrote:A home health care aide stole a diamond necklace from my mom that also had significant sentimental value. She died a couple of years ago but remembering that necklace still hits me sometimes out of the blue.

My mom had her diamond tennis bracelet stolen by staff on her memory care unit. You aren’t advised to wear things of value but It was a comfort to her bc it was a bracelet she wore everyday. I don’t care about the value but It burns me up when she expresses sadness that it’s gone and since she has dementia, we relive the same conversation and same sad feelings daily.

I hope you find your ring, OP.

I'm so sorry, PP. Is there any way you can buy her a CZ bracelet that would prevent her from having that same sad moment every day?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A home health care aide stole a diamond necklace from my mom that also had significant sentimental value. She died a couple of years ago but remembering that necklace still hits me sometimes out of the blue.

My mom had her diamond tennis bracelet stolen by staff on her memory care unit. You aren’t advised to wear things of value but It was a comfort to her bc it was a bracelet she wore everyday. I don’t care about the value but It burns me up when she expresses sadness that it’s gone and since she has dementia, we relive the same conversation and same sad feelings daily.

I hope you find your ring, OP.

I'm so sorry, PP. Is there any way you can buy her a CZ bracelet that would prevent her from having that same sad moment every day?

NP. It would just get stolen again. My aunt had home health aides who would openly take items out of her house and she was too afraid to say anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My aunt had a precious, heirloom ring turn up after she thought it was lost for a year--it was in a deep pocket of one of her travel bags. Another friend found her engagement ring years after losing it when the dryer repair man came over.

Good luck, but don't let it take too much of your time, mental energy, or emotional health! No object is worth your time or your peace of mind or your health. Understand and accept that things get lost. Maybe you'll find it someday, maybe not. Things get lost, and it's OK.

I found a necklace this way too. Stuff gets in there and doesn't necessarily clank around, so you don't realize it.

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I lost the ring my husband gave me on our wedding night. Stupidest thing ever.

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My mom lost the ring she had made out of the gold and gems from her own wedding set and my grandmother's wedding set. She had it insured but it was really irreplaceable. It's still hard to think about! I have tried to search for it on estate sale sites in case it turned up somehow but no luck.

I hope you find your ring, OP!

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If it helps, some people believe a lost item sacrifices itself for you to prevent you harm. Seems silly but has helped me stomach losing the diamond charm my dad gave me!

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Anonymous wrote:To help you get over it (if you don't find it): try and think that this ring was always meant to be in your possession for a limited period of time. Look back at the times you enjoyed this ring = it has served the purpose it always meant to have.

I had a beautiful piece of glass art that I loved for years. One night a heavy picture frame fell on it and smashed it. I was so upset about it but this is exactly the attitude that helped me get over it.

[Anonymous]

I lost a ring, a family heirloom that had belonged to a famous woman 100 years ago (and somehow wound up in my family's possession). No clue where it went. Breaks my heart.

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I'm so sorry OP. I have a ton of valuable jewelry and, although they are insured, they are not very easily replaceable.

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Anonymous wrote:Pray to St. Anthony.

St[b]. Anthony, St. Anthony, please look around. My fabulous deco ring is lost and must be found.

If it’s in your house, you’ll find it…unless your cleaning service stole it.

Did you check your purse, your pockets, your coat, your bedside table, bathroom, kitchen sink, etc.?

Not Catholic. doesn't work. If it did, why would they post here?

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OP I lost my platinum wedding band many years ago. Searched everywhere, including my car, my pockets, under the bed. Everywhere. I was convinced that it must have dropped from my lap after I putting lotion on, I must have gotten distracted and forgot to put it back on, stood up and it was gone. About 10 years later I pulled out an old vintage Coach handbag that I haven't used in many years, and inside was my wedding band! Not sure how it ended up there except that like I said I must have been putting lotion on, I put it in my bag for safe keeping, got distracted...you get the idea.

Good luck in finding it OP!