I lost a valuable ring and feel sick over it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I lost my platinum wedding band many years ago. Searched everywhere, including my car, my pockets, under the bed. Everywhere. I was convinced that it must have dropped from my lap after I putting lotion on, I must have gotten distracted and forgot to put it back on, stood up and it was gone. About 10 years later I pulled out an old vintage Coach handbag that I haven't used in many years, and inside was my wedding band! Not sure how it ended up there except that like I said I must have been putting lotion on, I put it in my bag for safe keeping, got distracted...you get the idea.

Good luck in finding it OP!

This! I very nearly lost my engagement ring earlier this year doing the exact same thing, and very recently removed a gold solitaire necklace that I love while in the road so I could put sunscreen on my neck (because I’m old now)…necklace is no longer in bag. I hope I’ll be lucky like you and some of the other PPs!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:A home health care aide stole a diamond necklace from my mom that also had significant sentimental value. She died a couple of years ago but remembering that necklace still hits me sometimes out of the blue.

My mom had her diamond tennis bracelet stolen by staff on her memory care unit. You aren’t advised to wear things of value but It was a comfort to her bc it was a bracelet she wore everyday. I don’t care about the value but It burns me up when she expresses sadness that it’s gone and since she has dementia, we relive the same conversation and same sad feelings daily.

I hope you find your ring, OP.

Both these remind me of the movie “I care a lot” on Netflix

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it helps, some people believe a lost item sacrifices itself for you to prevent you harm. Seems silly but has helped me stomach losing the diamond charm my dad gave me!

PP who lost the bracelet my parents gave me on my wedding day and I LOVE THIS! Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it helps, some people believe a lost item sacrifices itself for you to prevent you harm. Seems silly but has helped me stomach losing the diamond charm my dad gave me!

I've never heard anyone else but my mum/grandmum say this before- and I totally agree. I think it's a way of coming to peace with it as it's just a material object in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it helps, some people believe a lost item sacrifices itself for you to prevent you harm. Seems silly but has helped me stomach losing the diamond charm my dad gave me!

Yup, there’s an old Arabic saying for lost and broken items- “it took the evil with it.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it helps, some people believe a lost item sacrifices itself for you to prevent you harm. Seems silly but has helped me stomach losing the diamond charm my dad gave me!

Holy moly. Really? I have never lost so much jewelry this past year than ever before, including my engagement stone and a ruby stud.

Hugs OP and everyone who has been in this boat. I allowed myself to mope/grieve, especially over my engagement stone.

[Anonymous]

I lost my wedding ring on a run- I thought I put it in a secured zippered pocket but that pocket had a hole I didn’t know about ☹️

[Anonymous]

I came home from the bar hammered one night in my 20s and the next morning I couldn’t find thousands of dollars worth of my David Yurman bracelets. I tore the house apart and hours later it finally dawned on me…yep, the freezer. Best place in the drunk mind to store your jewelry for safe keeping.

I know this probably won’t help you, but I hope it at least gives you a good laugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If it helps, some people believe a lost item sacrifices itself for you to prevent you harm. Seems silly but has helped me stomach losing the diamond charm my dad gave me!

Yup, there’s an old Arabic saying for lost and broken items- “it took the evil with it.”

yup- im Pakistani and my great aunt would say that a small loss wards off a potential larger loss.

[Anonymous]

I lost a sentimental item that didn't cost a lot but was made by a family member. It disappeared in a move. Idk if we left it in the apartment or it didn't make its way out of the moving truck but it's gone. I feel awful about it still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A home health care aide stole a diamond necklace from my mom that also had significant sentimental value. She died a couple of years ago but remembering that necklace still hits me sometimes out of the blue.

My mom had her diamond tennis bracelet stolen by staff on her memory care unit. You aren’t advised to wear things of value but It was a comfort to her bc it was a bracelet she wore everyday. I don’t care about the value but It burns me up when she expresses sadness that it’s gone and since she has dementia, we relive the same conversation and same sad feelings daily.

I hope you find your ring, OP.

Both these remind me of the movie “I care a lot” on Netflix

I’m the poster above with the mom who has dementia and I’ve never seen this movie.

To another pp - trying to find a CZ replacement is definitely worth a try, thank you for the suggestion. I did look on eBay after it was stolen and found one very very similar (could’ve been it - I sent to my sister and we were both 😳) but it was expensive and I couldn’t stomach buying it to have it stolen again. Fwiw we moved her from the place where the theft happened. Thank you for the suggestion.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who teaches Kindergarten. One of her students tried to show her a pretty rainbow rock on the playground, but she got caught up getting some other kids who were fighting sorted out.

Later she realized her diamond was missing from her ring, and if she had taken two seconds to look at the “rainbow rock,” it would have been found!

[Anonymous]

imagine your beloved things as having a beautiful adventure! They have free will and walked away. We cant take them with us when they die. Enjoy them while we have them, then Let them go!

I have lost many things:
A gold bracelet from my aunt i foolishly wore at the gym
An amethyst ring my mom had made for me
My first pair of skis

[Anonymous]

Did you try calling the olaces you went?
My mom lost her engagement ring which had both the grandmother’s diamonds in it. It fell out of her lap when she got out of a car at the mall. (She had taken it off in the car to put on hand cream and forgot it was in her lap but realized what she had done many hours later.). We called mall security hours later and they reported that a woman had found it but didn’t trust mall security so left her name and phone number. We collected it from her, she declined a reward, and we donated money in her honor to the food bank.

FWIW, we did all say the Tony Tony look around prayer and also a rosary.

This sounds like a lie but it was Christmas week and so I joked that this was our one Christmas miracle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To help you get over it (if you don't find it): try and think that this ring was always meant to be in your possession for a limited period of time. Look back at the times you enjoyed this ring = it has served the purpose it always meant to have.

I read something similar in a Buddhist book once, along the lines of “If a cup breaks, remind yourself that it was always going to break someday. In the future it is already broken.” I’ve found that thought very comforting whenever I break or lose something meaningful to me.

But I hear you, OP. In my case, it was the ring my mother made with her (tiny) engagement diamond after my parents’ divorce. She passed it on to me when I was in college, and I wore it for 10 years. It was stylish, but even more precious was the meaning it had about my mom creating a new future for herself. It was stolen from my car while we were on a walk on a beach. I had actually decided at the last moment to take it off “so nothing would happen to it,” and apparently the thieves saw me take it off and put it in the car.