Why doesn’t DH’s family support DD’s fundraiser?

[Anonymous]

My sister and I both have kids and we agreed early on that we would never ask one another to give to any of our kids' fundraisers. Best decision ever. I do not want to be bothered nor does she or our parents.

OP, you seem to be putting a lot of significance on whether your family members donate to your kid's school fundraiser. Really think about what you are doing? It just seems so ridiculous of you and honestly very unfair to do to your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I donate 100% of the time when kids ask me. I never donate to a kid fundraiser if the ask is from a parent. Even if it is my own nieces and nephews. It’s not your kid’s fundraiser if you are the solicitor.

This.

Separately, we wouldn't ask family to support $5 raffle tickets for our kids' school. Not their rodeo. I'd make the donation myself if it was important to contribute something.

[Anonymous]

Why should they?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate fundraisers that highlight wealth disparities among students. It's really gross to give prizes to kids whose families/friends can afford to donate and I'm surprised you would even participate. Just give directly to the PTA. If I were a grandparent, I'd decline buying a ticket but offer a donation. Elementary aged kids are certsinly old enough to understand why fundraisers that have a financial barrier to participation are just wrong.

Buying a raffle ticket is a donation. And you might win the raffle. But it's the same thing.

[Anonymous]

We don't participate in the fundraiser for our kids' public school. They came home a few weeks ago showing me the prizes they could win and I explained to them that we wouldn't ask family member for donations so that we can get cheap plastic toys.

We do support fundraisers for the girl scouts and boy scouts. My daughter personally asks family members to buy cookies and keeps track of who ordered what.

However I will buy wrapping paper from the school bc I use it.

[Anonymous]

Most foreigners hate fundraisers fwiw

[Anonymous]

I’d never ask my family or my husband’s family to buy those raffle tickets.

[Anonymous]

Stop begging your relatives for money. It's tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate fundraisers that highlight wealth disparities among students. It's really gross to give prizes to kids whose families/friends can afford to donate and I'm surprised you would even participate. Just give directly to the PTA. If I were a grandparent, I'd decline buying a ticket but offer a donation. Elementary aged kids are certsinly old enough to understand why fundraisers that have a financial barrier to participation are just wrong.

Absolutely this and no way am I donating just to help a kid get a prize. Would much rather just spend money on them directly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is in 2nd grade and her school has an annual raffle fundraiser. People donate amazing prizes, but tickets are only $5 each and the 5 kids that sell the most tickets won a prices, as does the class that sells the most.

Every year I send an email and text to my extended family and DH’s which includes his parents, two aunts and uncles and his sister. And every year my parents and siblings each spend at least $50 buying tickets.

However, no one in DH’s family has ever bought an single ticket and I can’t understand why. They are all very financially secure so why not support their granddaughter? I made DH ask them the second year and they said they would do it but then never did.

Is this odd that not a single person in his family is willing to contribute just $5?

You are kidding right???

[Anonymous]

Don't worry about it.

We gave money to our niece's fundraiser and her parents didn't say a word of gratitude toward us. It was a lot more than $5.

I'm not the gratitude police, but that's just rude. They could have at least sent a text saying thanks.

So I'm not likely to give again. They can say what they want to about it.

[Anonymous]

I would donate once but I certainly wouldn’t do it year after year, nor would I ask a family to give more than once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I donate 100% of the time when kids ask me. I never donate to a kid fundraiser if the ask is from a parent. Even if it is my own nieces and nephews. It’s not your kid’s fundraiser if you are the solicitor.

This, plus the child should be sending a thank you note to donors.

[Anonymous]

Stop bothering your family with this nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate fundraisers that highlight wealth disparities among students.

this, one hundred percent!