I am hiding from my in laws. Please tell me this is okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so tired from work AND that we had an out of town funeral yesterday with our baby. My husband announced that my in laws would be parking their car at our house before going out of town - and I was under the impression that they were going to wave and be off. They’re in my living room right now and I just can’t: I’m drained, I’m wearing my pajamas, and I just don’t have it in me. Please tell me that’s okay.

BTDT.

You are doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Can you text dh to bring you water and a power bar (or something that would fit in his pocket?)

[Anonymous]

You can't say hi for 10 minutes?

[Anonymous]

OP is a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't have to be "on". Can't you go about your business as usual, as in preparing dinner, tending to the baby? Act normal and show no fear.

This the answer. Why can’t you just go about your business. Go to kitchen get food and return to room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can't say hi for 10 minutes?

She'd have to change out of her jammies. Plus, some people will think if you come out to say hi it means they should stay another two hours. If OP says she's not feeling well and must go rest her MIL might try to insist on making soup and make a big mess in the kitchen. Might ask if she needs to use the bathroom. Might ask a ton of annoying questions and not pick up on signals OP wants to leave.

[Anonymous]

You’re fine! Get some rest.

[Anonymous]

Throw on a robe, go get a snack, say goodnight and do back upstairs with your snack.

They are rude for imposing. DH can entertain them if he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’ve been here for almost an hour now. I’m hungry. I’m thirsty. They didn’t tell us they were visiting. I’m really annoyed.

Grow up.

Found the rude, pushy in-law.

DP here, and I'm not a pushy in-law of anyone yet. But seriously, why can't she just say, Hello! Great to see you. I'm exhausted and am going to grab something to eat then crash, but so happy you're getting to catch up with DH. They might then leave! As is, it is clear you don't want to see them, which is insulting and the fact it they are your DH's parents.

So, yes, grow up.

[Anonymous]

What will you want your future daughter in law or son in law to do? Do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What will you want your future daughter in law or son in law to do? Do that.

NP. I’d never impose like that with a bait-and-switch, but I’d want my DIL with a baby to get as much rest as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’ve been here for almost an hour now. I’m hungry. I’m thirsty. They didn’t tell us they were visiting. I’m really annoyed.

Grow up.

Found the rude, pushy in-law.

Highly unoriginal response.

Don’t like getting called out? Don’t be rude to people then.

[Anonymous]

Did they expect to stay for dinner and did DH handle it? I hope so! Team OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’ve been here for almost an hour now. I’m hungry. I’m thirsty. They didn’t tell us they were visiting. I’m really annoyed.

Grow up.

Found the rude, pushy in-law.

DP here, and I'm not a pushy in-law of anyone yet. But seriously, why can't she just say, Hello! Great to see you. I'm exhausted and am going to grab something to eat then crash, but so happy you're getting to catch up with DH. They might then leave! As is, it is clear you don't want to see them, which is insulting and the fact it they are your DH's parents.

So, yes, grow up.

Team OP here because here’s what my own mom has said about my SIL under similar circumstances: l

“Ashley came down from her room long enough to announce she wasn’t feeling well and then marched right back upstairs. Didn’t even want to speak to us - you know how she is. So rude. She looked just awful, by the way - just wearing some ratty t-shirt and was scowling. She really needs to get back to that hairstylist in town. Her hair has gotten gray. She had dark circles under her eyes, too. I’ll bet she didn’t even use that nail polish set I gave her…”

[Anonymous]

Shelter in place, OP.

I’m PP above w/ Ashley story and fully confess that as a SAHM, I used to routinely hide or flee (even better) if I knew my local MIL was coming by. She’d leave a voicemail saying she was swinging by/was going to be near/hoped I’d be home because she wanted to drop off something one of my DC had left behind…

And I’d grab the kids and literally run to the playground or decide that we were running errands - even if it was going to the car wash!

Don’t give an inch here!