Odd that I don't want a wedding?

[Anonymous]

Of course it's not odd. Plenty of people elope.

[Anonymous]

As usual, ignore the judgemental aholes.

If you don't like expensive elaborate events, it's cool. Casual weddings are great. Wedding is for declaring you commitment in front of the people who matter and will support your marriage for them decades ahead.

Your wedding still projects your marriage. if you don't even want a cadre of important family and friends gathered together for a blessing and a meal, does that match the life you want for your future?

[Anonymous]

Don’t do it if you don’t want to. Go on a nice honeymoon or use the money for a down payment. Even small weddings can be expensive—a work acquaintance had makeup artist, two dresses, two pairs of shoes, for a group of about 25. Lots of family drama too. Seemed exhausting to me, but then, I was married decades ago. However, I think my larger wedding was simpler.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you’re Not Like Other Girls!

Notice how there is a word, “elope,” and we all know what it means. So it’s a common enough practice that you didn’t have to explain it to us. Do you get it?

[Anonymous]

We got married at the Justice of the Peace's office and have no regrets 20 years later. Do what makes you happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do it if you don’t want to. Go on a nice honeymoon or use the money for a down payment. Even small weddings can be expensive—a work acquaintance had makeup artist, two dresses, two pairs of shoes, for a group of about 25. Lots of family drama too. Seemed exhausting to me, but then, I was married decades ago. However, I think my larger wedding was simpler.

Well those are all choices. I had no professional hair, no professional makeup, no professional florist, no specialty cake, no DJ (no dance floor). Just great food and cake provided by the venue (a restaurant), open bar, a homemade dress, and a judge.

[Anonymous]

If you want to elope or go to the JP, do it. Just don’t throw a big party later and invite me to CELEBRATE! If you don’t want to include me at your wedding, I am skipping your gift grab. JMHO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As mentioned in the title, is it odd that I don't want a wedding? The idea of even a small wedding with just family isn't appealing with the planning and booking involved in picking a city, venue, food, accommodations, dress, hair, make-up, photographer, etc. I think I would rather elope.

Every smart person thinks like you. Its wedding industry which propagates it. Yes, having a wedding was a way to let people know but now one can just announce on social media, no need to serve seven course meal. Celebrity who throw lavish wedding every time they fall in "love" and marry again, really ruined it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want to elope or go to the JP, do it. Just don’t throw a big party later and invite me to CELEBRATE! If you don’t want to include me at your wedding, I am skipping your gift grab. JMHO.

+1 I hate this. What’s the point of skipping a wedding just to have a wedding without the ceremony?? After all, that’s what a wedding is. A party to celebrate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want to elope or go to the JP, do it. Just don’t throw a big party later and invite me to CELEBRATE! If you don’t want to include me at your wedding, I am skipping your gift grab. JMHO.

+1 I hate this. What’s the point of skipping a wedding just to have a wedding without the ceremony?? After all, that’s what a wedding is. A party to celebrate.

The word you’re looking for is “reception”. The wedding is the ceremony, not the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you’re Not Like Other Girls!

Notice how there is a word, “elope,” and we all know what it means. So it’s a common enough practice that you didn’t have to explain it to us. Do you get it?

Didn’t you already post this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want to elope or go to the JP, do it. Just don’t throw a big party later and invite me to CELEBRATE! If you don’t want to include me at your wedding, I am skipping your gift grab. JMHO.

+1 I hate this. What’s the point of skipping a wedding just to have a wedding without the ceremony?? After all, that’s what a wedding is. A party to celebrate.

The word you’re looking for is “reception”. The wedding is the ceremony, not the party.

A traditional American wedding is a ceremony + reception. A reception alone is not magically not a wedding and it’s annoying to have your gift grab reception after having your elopement ceremony. That’s a “regrets” for me.

[Anonymous]

OP, skip the big wedding. You can do a Justice of the peace ceremony and then go out to dinner with whoever is around. Have someone take some nice photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As mentioned in the title, is it odd that I don't want a wedding? The idea of even a small wedding with just family isn't appealing with the planning and booking involved in picking a city, venue, food, accommodations, dress, hair, make-up, photographer, etc. I think I would rather elope.

Every smart person thinks like you. Its wedding industry which propagates it. Yes, having a wedding was a way to let people know but now one can just announce on social media, no need to serve seven course meal. Celebrity who throw lavish wedding every time they fall in "love" and marry again, really ruined it.

I don't want a big wedding either but I think this is unfair. It's significant in many religions and cultures and it's something that is supposed to happen only once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you want to elope or go to the JP, do it. Just don’t throw a big party later and invite me to CELEBRATE! If you don’t want to include me at your wedding, I am skipping your gift grab. JMHO.

+1 I hate this. What’s the point of skipping a wedding just to have a wedding without the ceremony?? After all, that’s what a wedding is. A party to celebrate.

The word you’re looking for is “reception”. The wedding is the ceremony, not the party.

A traditional American wedding is a ceremony + reception. A reception alone is not magically not a wedding and it’s annoying to have your gift grab reception after having your elopement ceremony. That’s a “regrets” for me.

No one is confusing a reception with a wedding ceremony except for you.