“Contradicting” husband in public
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Anonymous
| Lol @ barmaid. Who says that? Is it 1850? |
Anonymous
People who get in trouble for contradicting their husbands, I guess. |
Anonymous
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I would be annoyed if my SO tried to control my interactions like this, HOWEVER, I wouldn't be so irate. Sounds like it is a mix between this and his sensitivity about drinking.
From now on just let him make a fool of himself and seem rude. It is on him, not you. And watch his drinking. |
Anonymous
OP. I barely drink at all. |
Anonymous
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My spouse challenging me in public about what I am doing in the midst of interactions would get old very fast.
Just let it go OP. You dont' need to police or control or direct his interactions. If you have an issue with someone, raise it later in a non confrontational way when in private. Unless someone says something that is blatantly disrespectful, I wouldn't jump in. |
Anonymous
NP Why is he so sensitive to ordinary questions? Why is his ego so fragile? |
Anonymous
NP. I’m not sure I understand why OP needed to say anything in the middle of these conversations. It seems unnecessary. |
Anonymous
| who says barmaid? |
Anonymous
Yes to this. OP you sound like you love to micromanage his every interaction in public and then when called on it, act like an abuse victim. He is a grown man that is allowed to order a drink with a bartender (not barmaid, jesus). He is a responsible man to make sure his bill is paid before leaving a performance. He does not require your permission or help with any of these actions unless asked. And he certainly does not need to be scolded in public by a nag. |
Anonymous
+1 OP sounds annoying and controlling. Husband sounds over it. |
Anonymous
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I’m trying to switch the genders in my mind so I am not falling into genders stereotypes.
- the interaction with the person at the bar - saying they were too busy sounded like a correction of behavior. It really didn’t need to be said - the person at the bar is an adult that can speak for themselves. Your spouse is an adult that can decide if the service is so slow they would rather try a different bartender or give up or if they are willing to wait. - The interaction at the performance was odd - without understanding the tone/body language and if this was one of those, we are really fighting about something else, but this is the trigger, hard to say what happened - He should not be “yelling at you” regardless - he has the right to stand up for himself in how he wants to be treated and you have the same right and both should be able to be done without yelling. |
Anonymous
It does sound like you monitor. And my guess is like many men, his frustrations grew over time and he’s finally reached his threshold of tolerance for it without saying something. So there are likely behavioral issues for both of you to work on. |
Anonymous
| 💩 |
Anonymous
| Alcohol access is the common thread here. He has some tension about it. |
Anonymous
Yes. |