Freaked out by text conversation with stranger that may or may not know my bf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is OP reading her ex-BF's texts?

He should get a restraining order on OP, double the chances of these two staying away from each other. P

What? No. It came up on his phone screen when he was passed out.
He needs to get a restraining order on me? I'm going through trauma right now. I reported my boyfriend to the police and that is traumatic in itself. I've gone through four years of verbal and physical abuse. You really have no idea how damaging what you're saying is.

You need to stop fighting everyone and channel your anger at your bf instead. That's the first step to healing yourself. Instead you're picking fights with strangers and trying to hold onto your claim as his gf. SMH.

[Anonymous]

He's an ex for a reason OP. Does he sound like a total POS and does he probably have at least one other girlfriend, if not more? Yes OP.

Block that number and virtually and physically block all these people. No good is going to come from knowing who this is. I would advise that you get tested for any sexually transmitted diseases, because it's highly likely your ex was hitting you and cheating at the same time.

[Anonymous]

You are truly dumb. I can't even.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is OP reading her ex-BF's texts?

He should get a restraining order on OP, double the chances of these two staying away from each other. P

What? No. It came up on his phone screen when he was passed out.
He needs to get a restraining order on me? I'm going through trauma right now. I reported my boyfriend to the police and that is traumatic in itself. I've gone through four years of verbal and physical abuse. You really have no idea how damaging what you're saying is.

You need to stop fighting everyone and channel your anger at your bf instead. That's the first step to healing yourself. Instead you're picking fights with strangers and trying to hold onto your claim as his gf. SMH.

Well I live in the house we share together and we have animals together... so yeah, we're still connected. You don't know the whole story just from a brief post. I'm not fighting other people. That text was not a fight. Anger isn't going to heal me either.

[Anonymous]

LOL, also OP of the cat thread here: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1138444.page

Someone writing their own fiction today?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lady, you have far bigger issues than this stranger. Why are you fighting them for the dubious distinction of being his current gf? Why haven't you dumped him already???

This! WTAF?!?! Why are you still calling him your boyfriend. OP, I strongly, strongly encourage you to find a therapist. I am guessing money is tight. There are free and sliding scale options. Can you contact a domestic abuse hotline to get some ideas on that?

[Anonymous]

Ummm why are you calling him your boyfriend and not your ex-boyfriend??? Dump this guy if you haven’t already, pronto!

[Anonymous]

He is terrible. In addition to abuser he is also a cheater. And it doesn't matter because you are free. Work on yourself. I get that you are low and having a hard time, but figure out a way that builds you up and leaves all this nonsense in the past.

And by that I mean - go to therapy. If that's not available read a self help book. Talk to a friend. Call a domestic violence abuse helpline when you are feeling weak or low. Volunteer yourself at a women's shelter. Or an animal shelter - anything that gets you out of your head. Go to church. Start running. Meet new people. Get out of the house. Volunteer. Paint draw read sing. Something that gets you out of your head and not dwelling. Put yourself on a schedule, fill that schedule up, get outside as much as possible, help others as much as possible, go to bed tired, get up the next day and fill your day all over again. You need to get this out of your brain.

[Anonymous]

You should not care about the contacts of an abusive alcoholic.

You should also not mess with getting word to him indirectly, if you want to stay safe and for him to respect the court order.

I suggest you reach out to female friends or family for support. Definitely enter counselling. And try very hard to get healthy, which means not caring what this person does as long as it is far away from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is OP reading her ex-BF's texts?

He should get a restraining order on OP, double the chances of these two staying away from each other. P

What? No. It came up on his phone screen when he was passed out.
He needs to get a restraining order on me? I'm going through trauma right now. I reported my boyfriend to the police and that is traumatic in itself. I've gone through four years of verbal and physical abuse. You really have no idea how damaging what you're saying is.

You need to stop fighting everyone and channel your anger at your bf instead. That's the first step to healing yourself. Instead you're picking fights with strangers and trying to hold onto your claim as his gf. SMH.

Well I live in the house we share together and we have animals together... so yeah, we're still connected. You don't know the whole story just from a brief post. I'm not fighting other people. That text was not a fight. Anger isn't going to heal me either.

OP, it's time to split with this guy, which means getting out of the house you share together when the lease ends or selling the house. It also means one of you gets custody of the pets or split them up.

You are fighting whoever your boyfriend's other girlfriend is, and now you are fighting people who are responding here.

I have a friend just like this and her cheating abusive ex did the same thing. Now she is bankrupt and spending money taking care of all the pets they adopted trying to mend their relationship. Get out ASAP OP..

[Anonymous]

So the messages came up on your bf’s phone and three weeks later you have the number and messages and texted this person back from your own phone?

[Anonymous]

Why are you contacting your ex-bf's contacts? No contact orders go both ways. You're not supposed to be stalking him and asking who people are in his life wtf. And you're bothered that he's on dating sites more than him beating on you and focused on a foster cat and social media postings. IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS WHO THAT PERSON IS OR WAS TO THE PERSON THAT ABUSED YOU. YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO ANSWERS.

I say this with as much grace as I can - you are hyperfixated on things that you don't control because your life is spiraling. You need therapy and you need to put down your phone. Touch grass. Spend time with those that actually like you. And if you're in the medical profession as you claim - you need to really take some time so this doesn't affect patient care.

[Anonymous]

He's cheating clearly.

The 60 who the number belongs to is likely the parent of the 20-30yo with the phone number.

[Anonymous]

Why are you still calling him
Your boyfriend?
You called the police for a no contact order but you’re still living with him?
Why haven’t you moved out?

If this is not a troll, op you really need to get it together. Move out today for starters, start referring to him as your ex boyfriend, and move on. Stay off his phone and out of his life, who cares what this loser is doing or who he is talking to from Here on out.

[Anonymous]

If you stay with this guy, you will be “coo coo.” The only thing that’s going to make you feel better is moving on and putting him and his other girlfriends in your past.