Freaked out by text conversation with stranger that may or may not know my bf

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is OP reading her ex-BF's texts?

He should get a restraining order on OP, double the chances of these two staying away from each other. P

What? No. It came up on his phone screen when he was passed out.
He needs to get a restraining order on me? I'm going through trauma right now. I reported my boyfriend to the police and that is traumatic in itself. I've gone through four years of verbal and physical abuse. You really have no idea how damaging what you're saying is.

You need to stop fighting everyone and channel your anger at your bf instead. That's the first step to healing yourself. Instead you're picking fights with strangers and trying to hold onto your claim as his gf. SMH.

Well I live in the house we share together and we have animals together... so yeah, we're still connected. You don't know the whole story just from a brief post. I'm not fighting other people. That text was not a fight. Anger isn't going to heal me either.

Does he own the house or do you? OP, you sound extremely immature and have too many excuses.

[Anonymous]

Stop texting people who texted your ex-bf. Maybe he was seeing someone else while he was seeing you and maybe he wasn't. It doesn't matter. He's proven he's untrustworthy and unkind already--he assaulted you!

Get an STD test, block his number and whatever number you've been texting, keep going to therapy, and move on from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you even tug at that thread? He’s a piece of shit, abusive and apparently also a cheater…dump his ass and forget him.

It makes me feel like I am just so forgettable. He is on a dating site 3 weeks after assaulting me and has 2 pending charges (a gross misdeanor and a felony).
I feel like used up trash. I am so depressed.

The part where they wrote "Neither are you" really bothers me. That freaked me out. And then being called coo coo.
I've never felt so low.

I am really sorry that this has happened and that you feel this way. You are not trash and deep down I think you know that. That's why you called the police and why there is a no contact order.

Please go find domestic violence resources and get some therapy and support. It's crucial that you make a clean break here. And texting and being taunted by randos is not going to help. good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you even tug at that thread? He’s a piece of shit, abusive and apparently also a cheater…dump his ass and forget him.

It makes me feel like I am just so forgettable. He is on a dating site 3 weeks after assaulting me and has 2 pending charges (a gross misdeanor and a felony).
I feel like used up trash. I am so depressed.

The part where they wrote "Neither are you" really bothers me. That freaked me out. And then being called coo coo.
I've never felt so low.

How do you know he is on a dating site? I suspect you are spending FAR too much time stalking him and his contacts online when you should be focusing on moving on with your life. Why does any of this matter at this time? He is your ex.

[Anonymous]

Op, you need to treat your dependency on your ex like an addiction. You need to take it one day at a time of no contact with him or any of his contacts. Every day that you don't have any contact think of as a win. You are not trash. You are broken and you need to develop self worth. That takes time and energy.

I agree with the PP who said you're trying to control things that are out of your control because your life is spiraling.

You need to see this no contact order as a gift. It is giving you the space you need to develop and work on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Let's work on you. Boyfriend, et al., needs to be in the history book. It really does not matter who was texting or even why. What matters is your interest and the fact that you think other people would care.

You need some help here. Get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you even tug at that thread? He’s a piece of shit, abusive and apparently also a cheater…dump his ass and forget him.

This

why would you even engage?

[Anonymous]

stop calling him your boyfriend

[Anonymous]

I am so glad middle school is over for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you even tug at that thread? He’s a piece of shit, abusive and apparently also a cheater…dump his ass and forget him.

It makes me feel like I am just so forgettable. He is on a dating site 3 weeks after assaulting me and has 2 pending charges (a gross misdemeanor and a felony).
I feel like used up trash. I am so depressed.

The part where they wrote "Neither are you" really bothers me. That freaked me out. And then being called coo coo.
I've never felt so low.

You cut off all contacts with him and you will not be low, forgettable, used up trash etc. If you don't cut all contacts with him then you will remain the victim. This is entirely your choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:stop calling him your boyfriend

seriously!

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend? Do you mean your EX-boyfriend? Get help.