Freaked out by text conversation with stranger that may or may not know my bf
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Last night I had a weird text conversation and it has me feeling freaked out. My boyfriend is on a no contact order. He assaulted me 3 weeks ago. He is an alcoholic. I am in counseling, but I'm having a hard time dealing with everything. Throughout the relationship he would go from sweet to mean and verbally abusive. The physical abuse was not as frequent.
There was a text that came up on his phone a few months back. He was passed out drunk. The person wrote "Did you end up going out last night? And then sent a separate text with a kiss face emoji. I asked him who that was. He said "I don't know, this used to be someone else's number so it's probably someone trying to text the person who used to have this number." I didn't really believe him. I wanted to ask this person who they were for a while. Last night I text them and said "How do you know Jake?" They wrote "Idk who you are" I said "I'm his girlfriend" Them: No, I'm his girlfriend. Me: Funny (at this point I thought it might be one of his guy friends) They said: You asked Me: Is this (name of one of his friends)? Them: Night I then sent a text of their texts they sent and said "You sent these and I just wanted to know how you know him. You're not his girlfriend but nice try." They said: Neither are you Me: Oh? Them: You coo coo cachoo girlfriend! Me: Oh really? Maybe because he hit me in the head. I don't know who you are but I just wanted to know how you knew him because you sent those texts. And if you do know him, that's really low of you to say. You don't know me or the situation or what has happened. Maybe this is just a wrong number and a mistake. I apologize. My question is, based on this conversation, do you think it sounds like they actually know him? I tried to find out who this number belongs to and it comes back to someone who I know he doesn't know and it says they're like 60 years old. I know you will say that I shouldn't be wasting my time with this, but I could never believe half the things he said. And I finally just wanted to see who this person was. Please don't be too harsh. I'm going through a very difficult time with all of this. He's got two pending charges. I wrote here before that I feel guilt for going to the police. |
Anonymous
| Why would you even tug at that thread? He’s a piece of shit, abusive and apparently also a cheater…dump his ass and forget him. |
Anonymous
| I advise you to delete the number, delete your ex’s number, and stop all contact with both of them. It sounds so difficult but you can do it. It is not okay or safe for you to stay with someone physically harmful and it will be easier to move on after you stop all contact. |
Anonymous
| Let it go. Any part of his life should no longer be your concern |
Anonymous
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I would stay out of this other persons hair if there is a pending legal case and stop giving your very personal information to strangers. Don’t tell someone whose identity you don’t even know that your bf assaulted you. I really hope you pressed *69 before texting them.
It could be anyone. Just a rando pulling your leg. |
Anonymous
It makes me feel like I am just so forgettable. He is on a dating site 3 weeks after assaulting me and has 2 pending charges (a gross misdeanor and a felony). I feel like used up trash. I am so depressed. The part where they wrote "Neither are you" really bothers me. That freaked me out. And then being called coo coo. I've never felt so low. |
Anonymous
You can take comfort knowing that this other person can’t spell cuckoo, and is dating a felon that you dumped 🙏 |
Anonymous
| Your BF is on a no-contact order? How is he still your BF and why do you even bother to entertain that mess? You need therapy. |
Anonymous
You mean *67? Can you even do that with a text? They called me "coo coo" so I said what I said because they clearly don't know the situation and my boyfriend is lying to people about what actually happened. The case is because the state is going after him in order to protect me, so I don't see why I can't state my truth. |
Anonymous
| Lady, you have far bigger issues than this stranger. Why are you fighting them for the dubious distinction of being his current gf? Why haven't you dumped him already??? |
Anonymous
I'm very aware that I'm broken. Thank you. I am in therapy. It isn't helping. I'm at my lowest point and everything feels over. |
Anonymous
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Why is OP reading her ex-BF's texts?
He should get a restraining order on OP, double the chances of these two staying away from each other. P |
Anonymous
| I assume this is a troll, but I’m bored so I’m gonna just roll with it |
Anonymous
What? No. It came up on his phone screen when he was passed out. He needs to get a restraining order on me? I'm going through trauma right now. I reported my boyfriend to the police and that is traumatic in itself. I've gone through four years of verbal and physical abuse. You really have no idea how damaging what you're saying is. |
Anonymous
| He's your ex-boyfriend. Not your boyfriend. Don't text people he knows. This relationship is over. |