Is $500 the new standard gift for a wedding?

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not. In my early 30s friend group we all do about $150 for each others weddings. I’ve spent a little more on my closest friends/family but not over $200.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I spend $50 on a gift and move on with life. If that is a problem for the hosts too bad. I only spent more for a good friend.

I’m the same most of the time. I’ll send more for people I’m very close to, but a cousin, coworker, etc.? $50-100 max is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

You are seriously out of touch. I could not have afforded more than $100 back then, and even now it’s not nothing for my family. If you would judge a friend for the amount of a gift then good riddance. I hate to be unkind on here but posts like yours disgust me.

Well said.

Agreed. This is not supposed to be a profit-making endeavor. Folks should give within their means. Couples should not host showy, expensive weddings as substitutes for signalling the depth of their love or their status in the world. This is not a paid performance.

Sickening to think that guests might be invited for financial reasons and not because the couple wanted them their to celebrate their union.

Yes, weddings are expensive, but maybe don't get married until you can afford it, or scale it down to a level that's within your means. Don't invite me thinking that I have some sort of financial stake in your production.

[Anonymous]

I don’t go to weddings because I don’t want to pay for the travel, clothes, and gifts. I don’t plan on getting married or having kids, so I’m not going to find your lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

*fund

[Anonymous]

I can’t afford $500 and I have a comfortable income. I also have kids I’m putting through college, and a disabled spouse. My $100 gift remains unchanged by inflation.

[Anonymous]

There is no way I am giving $500 as a wedding gift. $150 is my limit including the bridal shower gift.

[Anonymous]

Good grief, what a bunch of cheap misers.

$50 for a wedding? No wonder why you don't get invited anywhere. That's like a bowl of chipotle these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good grief, what a bunch of cheap misers.

$50 for a wedding? No wonder why you don't get invited anywhere. That's like a bowl of chipotle these days.

And I give it to you with love. Enjoy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should give 300

Should? 😳

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

Your privilege is showing.

What privilege? I rent, don’t own a car and earn five figures. But wedding are important and I save up and sacrifice other things for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

Your privilege is showing.

So what? Are wealthy people supposed to pretend they're poor?

[Anonymous]

LOL - I wish! Getting married this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

Your privilege is showing.

If you can afford to host a wedding…

[Anonymous]

Wedding gift amounts are cultural and regional. The posters who are saying they give more might be higher income but they also just might be from a community where that is expected.

I hate figuring out how much I’m supposed to spend, I wish they would publish their expectations lol.