Is $500 the new standard gift for a wedding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good grief, what a bunch of cheap misers.

$50 for a wedding? No wonder why you don't get invited anywhere. That's like a bowl of chipotle these days.

Do you know how snotty and privileged you sound? And out of touch.

What would you expect your servant, I mean your house cleaner, to give if she went to a wedding? Do you really see her giving $500?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

Your privilege is showing.

More than privilege. More like an obnoxious and condescending person who can't hide his/her true self.

[Anonymous]

The responses on these threads get tiresome, especially those calling others cheap or claiming you should cover the cost of your plate. The amount one gives should be based on the gifters budget and relationship. Obviously the area of the country and cultural norms also play a role. It’s tacky to invite people expecting a minimum amount. A gift isn’t an admission ticket. We received mostly $75-$100 gifts in the 90s. Our nephew is getting married soon and is from an affluent family so I don’t want to look cheap but DH’s travel expenses alone will be over $1000. We have 2 kids in college and lots of expenses so it’s a lot just for DH to attend so we probably will give $200. I hope we aren’t judged for that.

[Anonymous]

Umm no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

We were grateful for family who spent $40 on a single plate for us. You're horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

Your privilege is showing.

What privilege? I rent, don’t own a car and earn five figures. But wedding are important and I save up and sacrifice other things for that.

Your life sounds boring.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The responses on these threads get tiresome, especially those calling others cheap or claiming you should cover the cost of your plate. The amount one gives should be based on the gifters budget and relationship. Obviously the area of the country and cultural norms also play a role. It’s tacky to invite people expecting a minimum amount. A gift isn’t an admission ticket. We received mostly $75-$100 gifts in the 90s. Our nephew is getting married soon and is from an affluent family so I don’t want to look cheap but DH’s travel expenses alone will be over $1000. We have 2 kids in college and lots of expenses so it’s a lot just for DH to attend so we probably will give $200. I hope we aren’t judged for that.

You won’t be. I would have preferred no wedding and no gifts but my parents and DH’s parents insisted. Yuck. Nobody cares about weddings except the parents.

[Anonymous]

We gave $1000 dollars to DH's nephew and had to buy clothing, book round trip flights, 3 hotel rooms and a rental car for our family.

[Anonymous]

Imho $250 is good enough if two people are attending one event. You can always do more depending on your budget or relations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never given only $100 to a wedding, and the first one I went to was in the mid 90’s. $100 would have seemed like an insult- I’d have been embarrassed to give that little.

You are seriously out of touch. I could not have afforded more than $100 back then, and even now it’s not nothing for my family. If you would judge a friend for the amount of a gift then good riddance. I hate to be unkind on here but posts like yours disgust me.

Yes to all of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should give 300

No, I *should* drink less, eat more vegetables, and stop swearing so much.

But there is no *should* when it comes to gifts. Gifts are entirely optional and 100% at the discretion of the giver.

I've been to many weddings -- from simple backyard affairs to four-day $500K extravaganzas. The amount spent on the event, the amount I spent to dress/get there has nothing to do with how much I give the couple. Our relationship is the only thing that matters.

And this thread just reminded me that the couple who hosted the four-day extravaganza still hasn't sent a thank you note. That factors into future gifts.

Did you send a thank you note for the extravaganza?

Stop. Guests don't send thank you notes for weddings. But the married couple absolutely need to send thank you notes to their guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m being invited to a destination wedding this summer in another continent and just traveling there will cost over $2000. This is out of control

Then don’t go.

[Anonymous]

Yes. 500-1000

[Anonymous]

Americans are really unwise with their money, often taking on debt to fund weddings (and now it sounds like to fund generous wedding gifts.) Heck, folks take on unmanageable debt every year for Christmas presents. Everyone should scale back just a bit.

[Anonymous]

I just get something off the registry and typically in the $50-$100 range. If it's a very close friend or family member I will spend a bit more.

Why are you sweating over this topic or are you just stirring up another troll thread.