Lunch detention for saying "the r word"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

There's no excuse for using hurtful words in any circumstance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Well, it’s not surprising this is your point of you, considering you ended your post with name-calling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're first reaction is to rebuke the punishment instead of talking with your child about how horrible that word is? I really feel for teachers with these kinds of parents.

Exactly what I am thinking. I would be disgusted my child said this and he would would have a lot more punishment at home than one single detention.

Agreed. I can only think of 2 words I'd be more shocked/angry to hear my child using.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Would you feel the same if it was the N word? How about the K word? The R word is the most demeaning word you can say around special need children and it shouldn't be said at all.

[Anonymous]

Can all you snowflakes land on the side of a hill near my house so my kid can go sledding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Would you feel the same if it was the N word? How about the K word? The R word is the most demeaning word you can say around special need children and it shouldn't be said at all.

What’s the K word?

I don’t feel the R word is as bad as N.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Would you feel the same if it was the N word? How about the K word? The R word is the most demeaning word you can say around special need children and it shouldn't be said at all.

What’s the K word?

I don’t feel the R word is as bad as N.

I don’t either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Would you feel the same if it was the N word? How about the K word? The R word is the most demeaning word you can say around special need children and it shouldn't be said at all.

What’s the K word?

I don’t feel the R word is as bad as N.

I don't feel assault is as bad as murder but I think there should be consequences for both.

[Anonymous]

It’s a freaking detention. Here you are calling people snowflakes for being upset about the R word but you’re freaking out about a lunch detention.

[Anonymous]

I'd be horrified if my kid used a slur that's demeaning to people with disabilities. It's not about who he targeted. Be a parent and raise a kind human!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are teachers allowed to give lunch detentions in MS? My child was assigned lunch detention for calling a friend what the teacher referred to as "the r word" in the hallway. The friend wasn't upset by it and the teacher isn't even his. From what I hear on here, there are a lot worse things being said in the hallway all the time.

Sounds like your child learned an important lesson about using inappropriate language. And yes, the "R" word is one of the worst words you can use to describe another person.

I can think of a lot worse but yes - chalk this up to a learning experience for your child.

+1

I am from a different era where the R word was used all the time so personally, I would not give detention for that, just talking to but it is a lesson learned. There are so many worse things that kids are doing so it seems silly for detention for this.

I am also that generation, but that kind of callous estimation doesn't make it OK. The "r" word is worse than "colorful" or crass language because it denigrates other students and is deliberately hurtful to those with special needs. What seems silly to me is to get bent out of shape for lunch detention. Lunch detention will not hurt OP's kid and could make for a good learning moment, though it seems like OP's attitude towards her kid's behavior will undermine this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Why? What's so extreme about a little lunch detention for a prejudiced slur towards the disabled community? If you think lunch detention is extreme, you are the snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The response seems extreme, especially given the circumstance. A warning should have been given instead, or even an RJ chat. People are just over the top sensitive about words in certain areas, creating such delicate snowflakes.

Why? What's so extreme about a little lunch detention for a prejudiced slur towards the disabled community? If you think lunch detention is extreme, you are the snowflake.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

I have a child with special needs, OP.

The lesson here is that when you say something inappropriate, you have a high chance of not getting caught in MCPS. Heck, even teachers say inappropriate things! But when you do, there isn't much you can do to avoid whatever punishment from whichever teacher, since you really did say something inappropriate.

My son with SN was the only one punished one day in 5th grade when a teacher caught his group playing with laptop chargers, because he was the only one not quick enough to move away from the chargers (he has very slow processing speed). It felt very unfair to him at the time, but sometimes this is what happens.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you trying to say that word should be ok because the friend wasn't bother by it???

Yes, and also, I'm guessing, because the person who was the target of the word isn't actually in fact mentally disabled.

Just like how it's okay to call a straight boy a f*g or a white boy a n*****? Or could it be that these words are still unacceptable regardless of the target?