Why are so many people upset by “dog moms”?

[Anonymous]

ya'll worry about the weirdest things. I'm a new dog owner at 52; I have two kids that are young adults. I will never refer to myself as a 'dog mom' but IDGAF if anyone else does.

[Anonymous]

I love dogs, and I think loving, responsible pet owners are cool.

There are some people who are just cool, loving, responsible dog owners…that’s awesome. These people are not who I am talking about when I say what is to follow.

“Dog moms” insert their dogs into every. Conversation. I have a co-worker who knew I was at home taking care of a very sick child. She asked how DD was doing, which was nice. But then after I gave a brief update, she launches into a long soliloquy about “poor Sadie was sick last week, and it’s the absolute worst, I got no sleep, I was just so worried” blah blah blah. Like don’t compare a dog to a kid, don’t compare being a pet owner to being a parent. And if what you actually want to do is talk about yourself and your dog, don’t pretend to care about me or my kid.

It’s annoying. Not everything has to come back to your dog. Not every conversation needs to involve some stupid anecdote about your dog. And no, I don’t insert my kids into every conversation, I don’t shove my phone in people’s face to make them look at my kids, I don’t tell kid anecdotes each and every time I see people, etc.

And I fully recognize that there are some obnoxious parents who do that kind of crap. Whether it’s about animals or kids, that kind of behavior is annoying.

There are dog owners and then there are #dogmoms. Just like there are normal parents and then there are, like, #boymoms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love dogs, and I think loving, responsible pet owners are cool.

There are some people who are just cool, loving, responsible dog owners…that’s awesome. These people are not who I am talking about when I say what is to follow.

“Dog moms” insert their dogs into every. Conversation. I have a co-worker who knew I was at home taking care of a very sick child. She asked how DD was doing, which was nice. But then after I gave a brief update, she launches into a long soliloquy about “poor Sadie was sick last week, and it’s the absolute worst, I got no sleep, I was just so worried” blah blah blah. Like don’t compare a dog to a kid, don’t compare being a pet owner to being a parent. And if what you actually want to do is talk about yourself and your dog, don’t pretend to care about me or my kid.

It’s annoying. Not everything has to come back to your dog. Not every conversation needs to involve some stupid anecdote about your dog. And no, I don’t insert my kids into every conversation, I don’t shove my phone in people’s face to make them look at my kids, I don’t tell kid anecdotes each and every time I see people, etc.

And I fully recognize that there are some obnoxious parents who do that kind of crap. Whether it’s about animals or kids, that kind of behavior is annoying.

There are dog owners and then there are #dogmoms. Just like there are normal parents and then there are, like, #boymoms.

I'm trying to understand how you jumped to the conclusion that she doesen't care. If she didn't care she'd probably just say "oh, ok" and then change the subject. Now I agree that there is no comparison between being a mother and a pet owner, however, I think in her mind she was trying to connect and commiserate with you. I get it, it's not the same but I don't see how this means she doesen't care or had ill intent. And no, I'm not a "dog mom", I've never owned a dog.

[Anonymous]

I’m with you, OP. I love dogs but do not want one in a million years. I don’t care if some people want to spoil their dogs more than I do my actual human kids or call themselves dog moms. If they’re annoying or inconsiderate people, I figure that’s a personality flaw that has nothing to do with their parental (or pet parental) status. They’d undoubtedly be just as annoying if they kept orchids or collected stamps or ran marathons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love dogs, and I think loving, responsible pet owners are cool.

There are some people who are just cool, loving, responsible dog owners…that’s awesome. These people are not who I am talking about when I say what is to follow.

“Dog moms” insert their dogs into every. Conversation. I have a co-worker who knew I was at home taking care of a very sick child. She asked how DD was doing, which was nice. But then after I gave a brief update, she launches into a long soliloquy about “poor Sadie was sick last week, and it’s the absolute worst, I got no sleep, I was just so worried” blah blah blah. Like don’t compare a dog to a kid, don’t compare being a pet owner to being a parent. And if what you actually want to do is talk about yourself and your dog, don’t pretend to care about me or my kid.

It’s annoying. Not everything has to come back to your dog. Not every conversation needs to involve some stupid anecdote about your dog. And no, I don’t insert my kids into every conversation, I don’t shove my phone in people’s face to make them look at my kids, I don’t tell kid anecdotes each and every time I see people, etc.

And I fully recognize that there are some obnoxious parents who do that kind of crap. Whether it’s about animals or kids, that kind of behavior is annoying.

There are dog owners and then there are #dogmoms. Just like there are normal parents and then there are, like, #boymoms.

I'm trying to understand how you jumped to the conclusion that she doesen't care. If she didn't care she'd probably just say "oh, ok" and then change the subject. Now I agree that there is no comparison between being a mother and a pet owner, however, I think in her mind she was trying to connect and commiserate with you. I get it, it's not the same but I don't see how this means she doesen't care or had ill intent. And no, I'm not a "dog mom", I've never owned a dog.

Because she honestly listened to me for 10 seconds, then proceeded to talk for 10 minutes about her damn dog and how wooooorrrriiiiied and sleeeplesss she was when her dog was (mildly) sick. You can tell when people are finding an excuse to talk about themselves, you just can.

[Anonymous]

It’s mostly annoying when dog moms or dads say “it’s like having a child!” (When they do not have kids). It’s like, dude, it is absolutely not and don’t you dare compare having a pet to having a child. The ignorance but pretending to be understanding is the worst part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about dog moms. But I am sick of dogs and their feces in general. Used to be, kids could sit or roll around in the grass at public parks without the fear of getting poop on them.

I wish we could ban all dogs.

Was there ever a time that mankind didn't have dogs in the modern era? When is this used to be?

[Anonymous]

The annoyance usually stems from the dog owner insinuating they understand what it’s like to parent a child because they have a dog.

[Anonymous]

What is wrong with a stroller. We have one for our dog. You sound pretty petty. Part of it is social for her. Our dog gets walked multiple times a day.

[Anonymous]

A dog is far harder than a kid. I had no idea how much work a dog was.

[Anonymous]

I have zero problems with it… If you’re referring to all the memes of guys making fun of dating site profiles were the girl calls herself a dog mom, I can’t say. The only time I roll my eyes is when someone who has a dog says thing indicating they think having a dog is in any way like having a child. Mostly people just kind of feel bad for people who identify as “dog moms”

[Anonymous]

The only time it irritates me is when sister-in-law compares herself being a dog mom to being a real mom. (“yeah it’s so hard when DH is out of town and I’m a single dog mom”). I just want to say, do you hear yourself talking?

[Anonymous]

I have no issue with "dog moms" and am an animal lover -- I have a few friends who have pets and no kids and dote on their pets and I like their pets and am happy for them. I can't imagine the subject of "dog moms" being a hot topic among parents? It's weird. I also know a lot of families with dogs, plus we have a cat who I dote on all the time.

Having said all that, some dog owners are really obnoxious. But it's not universal. There are also some moms of actual children who are very obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

I know someone who is able to sneak a dog on a plane by disguising it as a real baby. Stroller, baby, Bjorn, bonnet, etc..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The annoyance usually stems from the dog owner insinuating they understand what it’s like to parent a child because they have a dog.

Exactly. That’s the only time anyone actually takes issue with the term