Why are so many people upset by “dog moms”?

[Anonymous]

Not sure why it posted this way, but I am replying to 15:53.

[Anonymous]

Ah, yes…the quarterly whining of insecure DCUM moms. I always enjoy this.

Here, let me get under your skin a little bit more. There absolutely are similarities between raising a puppy and raising a child. They are not identical experiences, but there are similarities. Some things are harder with puppies (puppies are mobile right away), while some things are easier with puppies (you can leave puppies alone right away).

The only reason a mother would be bothered by someone else treating their dog as a child—whatever that might mean to you—is insecurity. If you are truly happy with your choices to parent children, this wouldn’t be a blip on your radar.

(Also, 16:47 PP, not all parents birth their children.)

I can’t wait for the Mother’s Day version of this post. 😆😆

[dog-owning NP who doesn’t use the expression dog mom, but who recognizes and respects different choices]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kenneling/boarding children for travel is frowned upon.

That and the whole gestating giving birth thing. How was that with a puppy?

I’d rather have owners treating dogs like children than not. Leaving a dog home alone all day while everyone is at work/school, kenneling while on vacation, etc seems so cruel to me.

[Anonymous]

Blame the veterinarians. Every time I bring my dog to the vet they refer to me as mom. I’ve never referred to my dog as my child or thought of myself as her mother but the veterinarian does.

[Anonymous]

You know all about dogs, but left out the obvious thing why some people don't like them or the owners.
I grew up on far with all kinds of animals. I don't want the abused either, but not need to kiss some of them more and let other suffer.
I want the dog moms to work fall all animals since they seem to have the time.
Abuse and dog moms are like two extremes- neither is necessary.

[Anonymous]

Never heard this term before, but I recognize the behavior. I have a childhood friend whose husband posts incredibly cringey things on Facebook including Mother's Day gifts "from the dog" to my friend. That's grounds for divorce in my book.

[Anonymous]

I do think it's weird when people do all the same things with their pets that they'd do with their kids. Not cart an ill dog around in a stroller, but maybe big birthday parties for the dog, do professional photoshoots with the dog, lengthy odes to the dog on social media for the birthdays, calling the pets their children, etc., all in a very earnest, non-ironic way.

I am all for women being child-free by choice; in fact I sort of envy the gumption that those women have to defy expectations. I don't know why I think dog moms are weird but it has nothing to do with their choice to have or not have kids.

[Anonymous]

I have a human child and two cats, and if any of my friends want time to refer to their pets as their children because that makes them happy, then by all means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kenneling/boarding children for travel is frowned upon.

That and the whole gestating giving birth thing. How was that with a puppy?

I’d rather have owners treating dogs like children than not. Leaving a dog home alone all day while everyone is at work/school, kenneling while on vacation, etc seems so cruel to me.

Agree.

Dogs are pack animals, therefore, they should not be left alone for long periods and they should not be separated from their pack/family.

[Anonymous]

Wait. If you see a child free (as in human child free) woman who dotes on her dog like a child, likely because she wants a child but doesn’t have one and may never get one, you’d begrudge her the ability to call herself a “dog mom” if that fulfills a need for her? A need she may never get to fulfill but that you do get to fulfill? That’s really crappy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A dog is far harder than a kid. I had no idea how much work a dog was.

Dogs are dependent upon humans; kids become independent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait. If you see a child free (as in human child free) woman who dotes on her dog like a child, likely because she wants a child but doesn’t have one and may never get one, you’d begrudge her the ability to call herself a “dog mom” if that fulfills a need for her? A need she may never get to fulfill but that you do get to fulfill? That’s really crappy.

I don't know who you're talking to, but not me. I just think it's weird when people elevate their dogs to the status of humans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes…the quarterly whining of insecure DCUM moms. I always enjoy this.

Here, let me get under your skin a little bit more. There absolutely are similarities between raising a puppy and raising a child. They are not identical experiences, but there are similarities. Some things are harder with puppies (puppies are mobile right away), while some things are easier with puppies (you can leave puppies alone right away).

The only reason a mother would be bothered by someone else treating their dog as a child—whatever that might mean to you—is insecurity. If you are truly happy with your choices to parent children, this wouldn’t be a blip on your radar.

(Also, 16:47 PP, not all parents birth their children.)

I can’t wait for the Mother’s Day version of this post. 😆😆

[dog-owning NP who doesn’t use the expression dog mom, but who recognizes and respects different choices]

LMAO can you please explain what insecurity could possibly exist? “I am unable to be a dog mom as well, insecurity?” “I wouldn’t be able to take care of a dog as well as I take care of a child, insecurity?” “This person takes care of a dog better than I take care of a child, insecurity?”

All of these seem nonsensical, so please, explain yourself.

[Anonymous]

Also, let’s be real PP - the vast, vast majority of parents birth their child. And it is a long, generally arduous and potentially life threatening process that cannot be compared to anything a “dog parent” could possibly do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah, yes…the quarterly whining of insecure DCUM moms. I always enjoy this.

Here, let me get under your skin a little bit more. There absolutely are similarities between raising a puppy and raising a child. They are not identical experiences, but there are similarities. Some things are harder with puppies (puppies are mobile right away), while some things are easier with puppies (you can leave puppies alone right away).

The only reason a mother would be bothered by someone else treating their dog as a child—whatever that might mean to you—is insecurity. If you are truly happy with your choices to parent children, this wouldn’t be a blip on your radar.

(Also, 16:47 PP, not all parents birth their children.)

I can’t wait for the Mother’s Day version of this post. 😆😆

[dog-owning NP who doesn’t use the expression dog mom, but who recognizes and respects different choices]

LMAO can you please explain what insecurity could possibly exist? “I am unable to be a dog mom as well, insecurity?” “I wouldn’t be able to take care of a dog as well as I take care of a child, insecurity?” “This person takes care of a dog better than I take care of a child, insecurity?”

All of these seem nonsensical, so please, explain yourself.

I said insecure, not jealous.

Well-adjusted, secure people aren’t bothered by such minutiae in someone else’s life that has literally no affect on yours. I think some—not all—mothers are insecure about the choices they made. Raising children is difficult, and some of you have a constant need for recognition and approval. So much so that you get bothered by dog-owning women getting the same.

If you don’t believe me, just wait for the, “Mother’s Day is my day!!” posts from women complaining about dog-owning women receiving the same good-will message. That’s nothing but insecurity.

It’s, of course, fine to think it’s silly to call yourself a dog mom (Hell, I don’t do it!), but the complaining about it you guys do is really telling.

[PP]