Why are so many people upset by “dog moms”?

[Anonymous]

I admit. I am not an animal person. I wasn’t raised in a home with pets and never had an interest in owning a cat, dog, bird, fish etc.

But I also understand not everyone is me and different things make different people happy. I hate animal abuse and think it’s lovely when someone is a great and loving pet owner.

My sister is one of those people. She and my BIL have two dogs they are crazy about. The dogs are spoiled (but trained well) and make them both so happy. Neither have ever wanted children and are very content with their current life.

And I adore my two children and don’t have any interest in a family pet.

Yet in my Mom group it’s a common topic. The disdain for “Dog Moms”. We do daily morning walks with our young kids/infants and often there is a young woman walking around with her dog in a dog stroller. I’ve seen her physically walk the dog on a leash but the dog seems to be in poor health so often it’s in the stroller. Every. Single. Time. We see her several other moms have to start up the conversation or how much they loathe the term “dog mom”, how this woman isn’t an actual mom and how pathetic it is for people to treat animals like human babies.

But I don’t see the issue? Not everyone wants to be a parent to an actual human child and as a former teacher not everyone should be a parent to an actual human child.

I think it’s great that people can fill the gap of wanting to love and care for something with a dog or cat instead of the incredibly high responsibility of a child.

Does this mentality stem from the notion everyone should have children and those who don’t are secretly unhappy?

It’s a win/win to me.

A dog is loved and pampered by someone who isn’t me. People who probably shouldn’t have children are happy and fulfilled.

The end. All is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I admit. I am not an animal person. I wasn’t raised in a home with pets and never had an interest in owning a cat, dog, bird, fish etc.

But I also understand not everyone is me and different things make different people happy. I hate animal abuse and think it’s lovely when someone is a great and loving pet owner.

My sister is one of those people. She and my BIL have two dogs they are crazy about. The dogs are spoiled (but trained well) and make them both so happy. Neither have ever wanted children and are very content with their current life.

And I adore my two children and don’t have any interest in a family pet.

Yet in my Mom group it’s a common topic. The disdain for “Dog Moms”. We do daily morning walks with our young kids/infants and often there is a young woman walking around with her dog in a dog stroller. I’ve seen her physically walk the dog on a leash but the dog seems to be in poor health so often it’s in the stroller. Every. Single. Time. We see her several other moms have to start up the conversation or how much they loathe the term “dog mom”, how this woman isn’t an actual mom and how pathetic it is for people to treat animals like human babies.

But I don’t see the issue? Not everyone wants to be a parent to an actual human child and as a former teacher not everyone should be a parent to an actual human child.

I think it’s great that people can fill the gap of wanting to love and care for something with a dog or cat instead of the incredibly high responsibility of a child.

Does this mentality stem from the notion everyone should have children and those who don’t are secretly unhappy?

It’s a win/win to me.

A dog is loved and pampered by someone who isn’t me. People who probably shouldn’t have children are happy and fulfilled.

The end. All is good.

Yes

[Anonymous]

Because having a dog is not the same as having a kid.

[Anonymous]

A dog is not the same as a kid. End stop.

It's also annoying when people bring their dogs into inappropriate spaces (airplanes, stores) usually they are badly behaved

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because having a dog is not the same as having a kid.

Correct, you generally have to be able to afford a dog to get one.

[Anonymous]

Of course it’s not.

But what’s the actual issue? Like what harm does it do if someone does not have a human child? What harm does it do for someone to call themselves a dog mom or walk around with their French bulldog in a stroller?

Is it the terminology that’s offensive?

I just don’t see the big deal. I genuinely think there are a LOT of people who should have gotten a dog instead of had a kid. Lower stakes.

[Anonymous]

Because people who advertise that are mentally deficient?

[Anonymous]

I have a dog AND a kid. Dogs are definitely part of the family but I cringe when somebody uses the term ‘dog mom’ for me. On the other end I know several ‘dog moms’ and I feel for many of them taking care of a dog fullfills the ‘motherly instinct’ most women have to care for somebody.
My 2 cents..

[Anonymous]

I guess I see that as a separate issue. Like a hygienic issue more than anything.

[Anonymous]

Ok, and?

You can feel that way but it feels super ableist. Do you generally dislike people who may suffer from mental or cognitive disabilities?

[Anonymous]

But does it harm you when people use the term or just annoy you?

What’s more harmful? What has more consequences?

Someone using the term “dog mom” to self refer or someone who has no business raising human children having a human child?

[Anonymous]

I don’t care about dog moms. But I am sick of dogs and their feces in general. Used to be, kids could sit or roll around in the grass at public parks without the fear of getting poop on them.

I wish we could ban all dogs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess I see that as a separate issue. Like a hygienic issue more than anything.

Maybe then this isn't the thread for you to rail about germs?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like the people you hang out with are just jerks.

[Anonymous]

A dog mom is not an actual mom. It just is not the same, however, that doesn’t mean that a dog mom doesn’t love their dogs deeply and as if the dogs are family. I am both a human child mom and a dog mom.