Feeling terrible about being a “geriatric” mother

[Anonymous]

Get over it, OP. Had my kids at 36 and 39, am currently 46 and there is nothing geriatric about me. In fact, the 35 year old moms all think I'm 2-3 years older than them, not 10 years.

[Anonymous]

That's a normal/average age in DC. I had my child in my 20s and people here thought I was a freak.

[Anonymous]

Had mine at 39. Honestly not even sure what you’re so upset about. I’m guessing you’re actually upset about other things? Like the miscarriages? I think the therapy suggestion is a good one.

Best wishes OP.

[Anonymous]

This has got to be a troll post.

All I ever read on DCUM is complainers.

--single mom by choice, kids at 39 and 43

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has got to be a troll post.

All I ever read on DCUM is complainers.

--single mom by choice, kids at 39 and 43

Rolling my eyes at this post. What makes OP a troll? No one cares about you, SMBC.

[Anonymous]

Aw, OP. I was a geriatric mom - it's certainly not ideal, IMO, as I am very tired and I worry that my kids will have kids when they are older, and I won't be able to be the hands on grandma that my own mom was!

But what is the alternative? Not having kids at all? That's not what I wanted either so...

Falls down to it is what it is.

Good luck with TTC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get over it, OP. Had my kids at 36 and 39, am currently 46 and there is nothing geriatric about me. In fact, the 35 year old moms all think I'm 2-3 years older than them, not 10 years.

Wait till you are 56, and you might understand! Sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get over it, OP. Had my kids at 36 and 39, am currently 46 and there is nothing geriatric about me. In fact, the 35 year old moms all think I'm 2-3 years older than them, not 10 years.

Wait till you are 56, and you might understand! Sorry!

Why are you sorry? I’m not. I’d rather be an older mom than a judgmental b- like you!

[Anonymous]

Don’t be stupid. Do you really think of us who had kids when we were older WANTED to? Do you think I actively WAITED until I was 30 to meet my husband? I mean WTF is the problem with all these ladies who had their babies in their 20s and why are they such A-HOLES about other people’s life situations? Why would you float and brag about being younger and more active? Does that REALLY make you feel that much better about yourselves? Does it make you feel amazing to make someone else feel bad? The younger moms on this board can be such jerks!!!

[Anonymous]

Now I’m waiting for some little wench to come on here and say “oooh struck a nerve didn’t I?” F- off.

[Anonymous]

I had my only child at 45, after a long struggle with infertility. I try not to waste time with what-ifs and focus on being fully present in the time I do have. OP, If you haven’t already I’d suggest seeing an RE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now I’m waiting for some little wench to come on here and say “oooh struck a nerve didn’t I?” F- off.

Or Brunch Granny.

[Anonymous]

I am 50 with a 10yo. She is adopted, what exactly is your concern?

[Anonymous]

Op, I hadn’t even met my yet when I was 36. I ended up having kids at 41 and 44. It’s ten years later and we’re all doin great. Life is inherently imperfect. It doesn’t always go the way we want it to. And that’s okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Don’t be stupid. Do you really think of us who had kids when we were older WANTED to? Do you think I actively WAITED until I was 30 to meet my husband? I mean WTF is the problem with all these ladies who had their babies in their 20s and why are they such A-HOLES about other people’s life situations? Why would you float and brag about being younger and more active? Does that REALLY make you feel that much better about yourselves? Does it make you feel amazing to make someone else feel bad? The younger moms on this board can be such jerks!!!

It has to be insecurity, right? As someone who has kids in her mid 30’s, I can’t imagine coming on here and bashing people who were fortunate enough to get married and have kids before me, but it seems to be open season here on people who do the reverse.