Infantilizing young adult

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't forget the parents who have the tracker set up on their kid's phone. Oh right, that is for safety.

Parents are paying for the car, phone, gas and insurance.

20 years ago, college kids weren’t on their parents health insurance.

Manipulation and control with $$$?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, parent can't access their health information, can't vote for them, can't take driving test for them, ban them from sex, go to jail for their doing so yes young adults are adults for all things which count but parents can use money or prefrontal cortex as a tool of manipulation.

I mean a lot of 21-25 year olds are still on parents’ insurance so actually parents do have access to health information…

My 21 year old is on my insurance, but I cannot see his care or prescriptions. It's entirely self managed.

[Anonymous]

My 19 & 21 year old are on my insurance, we pay for cell phone plan (but not the phone) because it doesn't cost us anything extra, and we pay college tuition.

Outside of that they are on their own. We treat them like adults. When they live with us, they are expected to be respectful of general household hours (no loud noises or friends over during the work week), and pick up after themselves.

I don't involve myself beyond what is needed. However, I agree that as a whole this area (DMV) definitely infantilizes young adults. It's absolutely not that way for the vast majority of the country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't forget the parents who have the tracker set up on their kid's phone. Oh right, that is for safety.

Parents are paying for the car, phone, gas and insurance.

20 years ago, college kids weren’t on their parents health insurance.

Manipulation and control with $$$?

Parents have to have $$$ to be able to control their YA children with it. Besides, most YA children who are thus controlled have successful parents and they too want to grow up to be rich and successful like their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't forget the parents who have the tracker set up on their kid's phone. Oh right, that is for safety.

Parents are paying for the car, phone, gas and insurance.

20 years ago, college kids weren’t on their parents health insurance.

Manipulation and control with $$$?

Parents have to have $$$ to be able to control their YA children with it. Besides, most YA children who are thus controlled have successful parents and they too want to grow up to be rich and successful like their parents.

Well, grow up and grow up to be rich are two entirely different things.

[Anonymous]

Anxious parents want to keep young adults safe in their teen age bedrooms. For that they insist that 25 is the new 16 because they aren't fully developed and living rent free. They want to delay independence that comes with adulthood, no matter its profession, relationship or any other decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anxious parents want to keep young adults safe in their teen age bedrooms. For that they insist that 25 is the new 16 because they aren't fully developed and living rent free. They want to delay independence that comes with adulthood, no matter its profession, relationship or any other decision.

25 really is the new 16

[Anonymous]

Helicopter parents don't want to land so they insist on extending adolescence. We may see a petition for raising voting and driving age to 30.

[Anonymous]

Read the post from today about a father who wants his employed 24 yr old DD making $80,000 a year to pay rent and the mother says NO!

[Anonymous]

Idk if I'm in a bubble or what but it seems parents want to keep their 2+2 family unit intact for as long as they can by postponing steps like leaving home, having a serious romantic relationship, working etc. They keep suggesting staying at home, not taking steps in any romantic relationship, getting more degrees before starting work .... guess unintentionally extending adolescence for keeping birth family their center.

[Anonymous]

Adulthood gives a person a right to be right and a right to be wrong. If they'll stay on a leash and must walk on dictated path then how are they going to become independent?

[Anonymous]

Partly it’s just that people have better/closer relationships with their parents. I’m close with my parents in a reasonably healthy way. Of course if we weren’t as close I would make decisions without their input. But they don’t have any financial control of me and they’re pretty supportive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anxious parents want to keep young adults safe in their teen age bedrooms. For that they insist that 25 is the new 16 because they aren't fully developed and living rent free. They want to delay independence that comes with adulthood, no matter its profession, relationship or any other decision.

25 really is the new 16

I hope this is sarcasm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, parent can't access their health information, can't vote for them, can't take driving test for them, ban them from sex, go to jail for their doing so yes young adults are adults for all things which count but parents can use money or prefrontal cortex as a tool of manipulation.

I mean a lot of 21-25 year olds are still on parents’ insurance so actually parents do have access to health information…

Not if they use school Heath services
Not if they don’t use insurance
Naive much

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 19 & 21 year old are on my insurance, we pay for cell phone plan (but not the phone) because it doesn't cost us anything extra, and we pay college tuition.

Outside of that they are on their own. We treat them like adults. When they live with us, they are expected to be respectful of general household hours (no loud noises or friends over during the work week), and pick up after themselves.

I don't involve myself beyond what is needed. However, I agree that as a whole this area (DMV) definitely infantilizes young adults. It's absolutely not that way for the vast majority of the country.

Yes it is suburbia all over the country is the same