Same college, same sorority, many of my prettiest sorority sisters did not marry well. Who did?

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Anonymous wrote:Thai is literally the reason people send their kids to private schools op to mingle with other rich kids.

Only a handful are married to men they went to high school with.

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Anonymous wrote:Thai is literally the reason people send their kids to private schools op to mingle with other rich kids.

Only a handful are married to men they went to high school with.

You don’t get it. I went to a private school in DC. We hung out with kids from other DC private schools. I cannot think of one public school kid we hung out with with the exception of summer swim team. So you meet other private school friends, visit them in college, meet their private school college friends, go to the same county clubs and beaches, and ski resorts, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:There were about 160 sisters in my sorority over 20 years ago. Looking back, while some of the prettiest classic beauty sisters married well, frankly, many of them did not. They frequently complain about finances, many are on second marriages, and some are single divorcees dating much older men. A handful never married and have no children – they seem to have successful careers. With the benefit of hindsight, who seems to have married the best? As crazy as this probably sounds, I double-checked this on Facebook last night and literally all of my sisters who went to ritzy private day schools and boarding schools married well. Literally 100%. All of them are married to either successful MDs, law partners, business executives, or entrepreneurs. No divorces. All of them have children. They live in elegant homes, especially for our age range, in premier neighborhoods. And for the sake of total honestly, these sisters were and are largely average appearance-wise. I am not saying that to be cruel or out of jealously, I was also average if not below average for our chapter, and I went to public school.

Is there something to this?

You do not know what is going on is someone else’s marriage or their finances.

Actually I do. I am in iMessage group chats with dozens of sisters. We get together all the time. We talk on the phone and FaceTime. If anything, we all know too much about each other's marriages, careers, and personal lives!

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Anonymous wrote:Thai is literally the reason people send their kids to private schools op to mingle with other rich kids.

Only a handful are married to men they went to high school with.

You don’t get it. I went to a private school in DC. We hung out with kids from other DC private schools. I cannot think of one public school kid we hung out with with the exception of summer swim team. So you meet other private school friends, visit them in college, meet their private school college friends, go to the same county clubs and beaches, and ski resorts, etc.

I see. So it's not just the immediate alumni network of the prep school, it's also friends of friends from that alumni network paying dating, social and even career dividends?

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People like you and people like me clearly have very different definitions of "marrying well"...

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Anonymous wrote:There were about 160 sisters in my sorority over 20 years ago. Looking back, while some of the prettiest classic beauty sisters married well, frankly, many of them did not. They frequently complain about finances, many are on second marriages, and some are single divorcees dating much older men. A handful never married and have no children – they seem to have successful careers. With the benefit of hindsight, who seems to have married the best? As crazy as this probably sounds, I double-checked this on Facebook last night and literally all of my sisters who went to ritzy private day schools and boarding schools married well. Literally 100%. All of them are married to either successful MDs, law partners, business executives, or entrepreneurs. No divorces. All of them have children. They live in elegant homes, especially for our age range, in premier neighborhoods. And for the sake of total honestly, these sisters were and are largely average appearance-wise. I am not saying that to be cruel or out of jealously, I was also average if not below average for our chapter, and I went to public school.

Is there something to this?

You do not know what is going on is someone else’s marriage or their finances.

Actually I do. I am in iMessage group chats with dozens of sisters. We get together all the time. We talk on the phone and FaceTime. If anything, we all know too much about each other's marriages, careers, and personal lives!

That's ... sad and invasive.

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Anonymous wrote:You are surprised that people with money marry people with money?

+1. Is this really the first time you've noticed this, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:You are surprised that people with money marry people with money?

It is THE most shocking observation!

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry, I didn't realize the purpose of sororities was to ensure its members married well. What millenia are we in?

Hi, OP here. I didn't say that there was a purpose? I rushed just to have fun and because everyone in my dorms seemed to be rushing (my parents were not ever involved in it or anything). In retrospect it just provides a data set of 160 close peers to compare to over 20 years later.

Maybe go back to college to learn how statistics actually work....And take a psychology course while you're there; you might benefit from some insight into why a supposedly grown woman would waste a nanosecond searching online for the "data" you seem to have amassed in such strange detail about people you haven't seen in decades.

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You are in your 40s and just now realizing this is how the world works? Also, law partners and MDs are not the truly wealthy and likely did not come from a great deal of wealth.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thai is literally the reason people send their kids to private schools op to mingle with other rich kids.

Only a handful are married to men they went to high school with.

You don’t get it. I went to a private school in DC. We hung out with kids from other DC private schools. I cannot think of one public school kid we hung out with with the exception of summer swim team. So you meet other private school friends, visit them in college, meet their private school college friends, go to the same county clubs and beaches, and ski resorts, etc.

I see. So it's not just the immediate alumni network of the prep school, it's also friends of friends from that alumni network paying dating, social and even career dividends?

Yep!!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There were about 160 sisters in my sorority over 20 years ago. Looking back, while some of the prettiest classic beauty sisters married well, frankly, many of them did not. They frequently complain about finances, many are on second marriages, and some are single divorcees dating much older men. A handful never married and have no children – they seem to have successful careers. With the benefit of hindsight, who seems to have married the best? As crazy as this probably sounds, I double-checked this on Facebook last night and literally all of my sisters who went to ritzy private day schools and boarding schools married well. Literally 100%. All of them are married to either successful MDs, law partners, business executives, or entrepreneurs. No divorces. All of them have children. They live in elegant homes, especially for our age range, in premier neighborhoods. And for the sake of total honestly, these sisters were and are largely average appearance-wise. I am not saying that to be cruel or out of jealously, I was also average if not below average for our chapter, and I went to public school.

Is there something to this?

You do not know what is going on is someone else’s marriage or their finances.

Actually I do. I am in iMessage group chats with dozens of sisters. We get together all the time. We talk on the phone and FaceTime. If anything, we all know too much about each other's marriages, careers, and personal lives!

Some friends outside your "sister" circle could do you a world of good, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Thai is literally the reason people send their kids to private schools op to mingle with other rich kids.

Only a handful are married to men they went to high school with.

You don’t get it. I went to a private school in DC. We hung out with kids from other DC private schools. I cannot think of one public school kid we hung out with with the exception of summer swim team. So you meet other private school friends, visit them in college, meet their private school college friends, go to the same county clubs and beaches, and ski resorts, etc.

I see. So it's not just the immediate alumni network of the prep school, it's also friends of friends from that alumni network paying dating, social and even career dividends?

Yes. Also knowing the right things - knowing what to eat, how to dress, what to listen to, where to eat in Paris or wherever, etc. Cultivating the right taste (not hoity toity Emily Gilmore taste but young rich person taste), etc. Knowing how to fit in.

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Anonymous wrote:You are surprised that people with money marry people with money?

+1. Is this really the first time you've noticed this, OP?

None of my public school sorority sisters grew up deprived. Public or prep high school, all of us were more or less from the same cluster of affluent towns. Of course if you force me to think, I guess I understand the richest tend to marry rich, but I've never seen such a close controlled data set where it's literally 100% of the private/prep school women married well and it's so hit and miss with their prettier public school peers. I was shocked last night as I was clicking through Facebook friends, so I thought I'd share. I did not know this was so obvious and common.

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Anonymous wrote:You are in your 40s and just now realizing this is how the world works? Also, law partners and MDs are not the truly wealthy and likely did not come from a great deal of wealth.

DP. Every MD I know is STILL paying off at least some med school debt, even into their 40s, but I guess OP assumes they all had rich parents to pay for undergrad plus med school, and they make a fortune. Not necessarily true on either count. But that's the real world, not a curated online life on FB or wherever OP gets her so-called research.