DH won't let DS (11) attend camps

[Anonymous]

I agree with your DH re overnight camps. I just learned that the owner and main guy running a residential sports camp I sent my son to two summers ago is in now jail for raping a child. I have been sick for days.

[Anonymous]

I have to admit, these responses make me sad. DS was bound and determined to attend a pre-admissions camp at his dream school before his junior year, and it looks like that won't happen, either. I know I don't have to tell him no now, but it seems like I'm just kicking that down the road.

Thanks.

[Anonymous]

My sons are both in college — one a graduating senior, the other a sophomore. They never went to sleepaway camps, only day camps. They had friends who went to sleepaway. They also had friends who went to Europe for the whole summer. They didn’t get to do that either. They’re fine! They are well adjusted, tons of friends, the whole thing was and is fine, really. Your husband has his own reasons for feeling strongly about protecting your child from something he fears, and it may or may not be rational but I don’t think going to sleepaway camp is a hill to die on if it is going to result in a ton of anxiety and stress for your husband.

I assume he isn’t this way about everything…if there are multiple things like this, that might be a different story

[Anonymous]

At least your DS will be protected from a predator which is much more damaging in the long run than merely not attending some camp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least your DS will be protected from a predator which is much more damaging in the long run than merely not attending some camp.

Therapy, stat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be blunt, his sisters were abused by their priest as children, and he doesn't trust camp staff - any camp staff - won't abuse kids. I'm not sure how to handle this, especially now that DS's peers have been attending overnight camps for several years and DH just flat-out rejected the idea for yet another summer. I understand his concern, but I also want DS to have experiences he can't have on a regular family vacation. We've done a few days camps but DH was super unhappy about those. Advice?

Does he somehow think differently of DS’s teachers?

[Anonymous]

This post needs a trigger warning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, these responses make me sad. DS was bound and determined to attend a pre-admissions camp at his dream school before his junior year, and it looks like that won't happen, either. I know I don't have to tell him no now, but it seems like I'm just kicking that down the road.

Thanks.

These pre-admissions camps mean nothing. Don't worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids ask for lots of things - pets, toys, experiences, etc, but they don't get everything they want. Sleep away camp will be one of those things for your kid. You may not agree with the reasoning, but please present s united front in saying no. Right now it's coming across that you disagree with your spouse.

It’s irrational. What’s her DH going to do when DS wants to play HS sports and go on buses to away meets? Will he be allowed to dorm in college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to admit, these responses make me sad. DS was bound and determined to attend a pre-admissions camp at his dream school before his junior year, and it looks like that won't happen, either. I know I don't have to tell him no now, but it seems like I'm just kicking that down the road.

Thanks.

These pre-admissions camps mean nothing. Don't worry.

Don't be silly. They might not affect admissions, but they allow the child to decide if an elite university is where they want to be and take away some of the shock if they matriculate.

[Anonymous]

Holy helicopter parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids ask for lots of things - pets, toys, experiences, etc, but they don't get everything they want. Sleep away camp will be one of those things for your kid. You may not agree with the reasoning, but please present s united front in saying no. Right now it's coming across that you disagree with your spouse.

It’s irrational. What’s her DH going to do when DS wants to play HS sports and go on buses to away meets? Will he be allowed to dorm in college?

OP here. That's the thing - DH was a high school and college athlete and was away from his parents for meets, 2x a day practices, etc. I just feel like there's a double standard here.

[Anonymous]

OP this will only get worse. He will prohibit your son from going on school trips, dating and so much more.

[Anonymous]

Divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce.