Being Identified on DCUM

[Anonymous]

You know who you are!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP.
OP, you are on here - so what's the big deal?
Aren't most of the posts asking for help, advice about parenting, etc?

OP again. I'm referring to when they are talking poorly about someone and sharing specific details. It's like they have an experience and run to DCUM thinking they will be anonymous or "there is no way the friend is also on DCUM and will see my post."

A couple times I have posted not-very-specific things on here knowing that the person I'm talking about is on DCUM and would likely see it. But I'm careful. Plausible deniability always. You want to frame it so that if they were to bring it up, they would look insane.

NP. I love this. Please, please, please post a link or two?!

No way! Merely posting a link would be too revealing. I do enjoy baiting a certain person on here though. It surprisingly easy -- she almost always bites.

What topics make her bite? Is that in the politics forum?

[Anonymous]

We're NIH folk. Are you aware that it's a vast campus with thousands of employees? We have friends at the State department, the World Bank, etc... and I can cite their experiences knowing that no one will ever identify them, because there are also thousands of employees there with kids and suburban lives.

And even if the story you are referring to is so incredibly specific that the author would be identifiable... look at the number of views, then consider that even if one of the stakeholders is on DCUM regularly, they could EASILY miss that particular post!

You are missing a sense of proportionality and statistics in your reasoning, OP. It will lead you into error in other areas of your life, so watch out.

[Anonymous]

I learned about this site when a fellow parent at my kid’s school asked if I’d posted something here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP.
OP, you are on here - so what's the big deal?
Aren't most of the posts asking for help, advice about parenting, etc?

OP again. I'm referring to when they are talking poorly about someone and sharing specific details. It's like they have an experience and run to DCUM thinking they will be anonymous or "there is no way the friend is also on DCUM and will see my post."

A couple times I have posted not-very-specific things on here knowing that the person I'm talking about is on DCUM and would likely see it. But I'm careful. Plausible deniability always. You want to frame it so that if they were to bring it up, they would look insane.

NP. I love this. Please, please, please post a link or two?!

No way! Merely posting a link would be too revealing. I do enjoy baiting a certain person on here though. It surprisingly easy -- she almost always bites.

Was she awful to you? Because you just sound mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’d be surprised how universal some stories are. I

Yes! I always encounter posts I could have written down to specific details. It almost makes me want to ask for it to be deleted in case someone think I posted it. Sometimes people respond to my posts that I must be speaking about such and such organization or school that I have nothing to do with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP.
OP, you are on here - so what's the big deal?
Aren't most of the posts asking for help, advice about parenting, etc?

OP again. I'm referring to when they are talking poorly about someone and sharing specific details. It's like they have an experience and run to DCUM thinking they will be anonymous or "there is no way the friend is also on DCUM and will see my post."

A couple times I have posted not-very-specific things on here knowing that the person I'm talking about is on DCUM and would likely see it. But I'm careful. Plausible deniability always. You want to frame it so that if they were to bring it up, they would look insane.

NP. I love this. Please, please, please post a link or two?!

No way! Merely posting a link would be too revealing. I do enjoy baiting a certain person on here though. It surprisingly easy -- she almost always bites.

You are likely baiting completely different people each time assuming they are one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP.
OP, you are on here - so what's the big deal?
Aren't most of the posts asking for help, advice about parenting, etc?

OP again. I'm referring to when they are talking poorly about someone and sharing specific details. It's like they have an experience and run to DCUM thinking they will be anonymous or "there is no way the friend is also on DCUM and will see my post."

A couple times I have posted not-very-specific things on here knowing that the person I'm talking about is on DCUM and would likely see it. But I'm careful. Plausible deniability always. You want to frame it so that if they were to bring it up, they would look insane.

NP. I love this. Please, please, please post a link or two?!

No way! Merely posting a link would be too revealing. I do enjoy baiting a certain person on here though. It surprisingly easy -- she almost always bites.

Was she awful to you? Because you just sound mean.

She was awful to me but the beauty of it is that if she developed some empathy and the ability to not have to be right about every single thing, she wouldn't take the bait on these. I'll admit I am being a little bit mean because I'm definitely posting things I know will push her buttons, but the only reason she has those buttons to push is that she has a history of being quite selfish and unkind and she HATES being called out on it.

I'm having a little bit of fun at her expense, yes, but she could stop being the butt of this joke anytime she wants by just developing a little self-awareness and having a bit more empathy for other people. Who knows, maybe I'm helping her

[Anonymous]

I just don't care that much. I don't think I'm that interesting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP.
OP, you are on here - so what's the big deal?
Aren't most of the posts asking for help, advice about parenting, etc?

OP again. I'm referring to when they are talking poorly about someone and sharing specific details. It's like they have an experience and run to DCUM thinking they will be anonymous or "there is no way the friend is also on DCUM and will see my post."

A couple times I have posted not-very-specific things on here knowing that the person I'm talking about is on DCUM and would likely see it. But I'm careful. Plausible deniability always. You want to frame it so that if they were to bring it up, they would look insane.

NP. I love this. Please, please, please post a link or two?!

No way! Merely posting a link would be too revealing. I do enjoy baiting a certain person on here though. It surprisingly easy -- she almost always bites.

Was she awful to you? Because you just sound mean.

She was awful to me but the beauty of it is that if she developed some empathy and the ability to not have to be right about every single thing, she wouldn't take the bait on these. I'll admit I am being a little bit mean because I'm definitely posting things I know will push her buttons, but the only reason she has those buttons to push is that she has a history of being quite selfish and unkind and she HATES being called out on it.

I'm having a little bit of fun at her expense, yes, but she could stop being the butt of this joke anytime she wants by just developing a little self-awareness and having a bit more empathy for other people. Who knows, maybe I'm helping her

Well, I only hope that someone is helping you, because you sound batsh*t crazy, especially the part where you think you are baiting a specific person who is responding to all your posts! Does she sometimes post “this” as a response? Because if so, I can totally see how you are identifying her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP.
OP, you are on here - so what's the big deal?
Aren't most of the posts asking for help, advice about parenting, etc?

OP again. I'm referring to when they are talking poorly about someone and sharing specific details. It's like they have an experience and run to DCUM thinking they will be anonymous or "there is no way the friend is also on DCUM and will see my post."

A couple times I have posted not-very-specific things on here knowing that the person I'm talking about is on DCUM and would likely see it. But I'm careful. Plausible deniability always. You want to frame it so that if they were to bring it up, they would look insane.

NP. I love this. Please, please, please post a link or two?!

No way! Merely posting a link would be too revealing. I do enjoy baiting a certain person on here though. It surprisingly easy -- she almost always bites.

You are likely baiting completely different people each time assuming they are one.

And it’s still trolling which ruins the threads. Just yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with PP.
OP, you are on here - so what's the big deal?
Aren't most of the posts asking for help, advice about parenting, etc?

OP again. I'm referring to when they are talking poorly about someone and sharing specific details. It's like they have an experience and run to DCUM thinking they will be anonymous or "there is no way the friend is also on DCUM and will see my post."

A couple times I have posted not-very-specific things on here knowing that the person I'm talking about is on DCUM and would likely see it. But I'm careful. Plausible deniability always. You want to frame it so that if they were to bring it up, they would look insane.

NP. I love this. Please, please, please post a link or two?!

No way! Merely posting a link would be too revealing. I do enjoy baiting a certain person on here though. It surprisingly easy -- she almost always bites.

Was she awful to you? Because you just sound mean.

She was awful to me but the beauty of it is that if she developed some empathy and the ability to not have to be right about every single thing, she wouldn't take the bait on these. I'll admit I am being a little bit mean because I'm definitely posting things I know will push her buttons, but the only reason she has those buttons to push is that she has a history of being quite selfish and unkind and she HATES being called out on it.

I'm having a little bit of fun at her expense, yes, but she could stop being the butt of this joke anytime she wants by just developing a little self-awareness and having a bit more empathy for other people. Who knows, maybe I'm helping her

Well, I only hope that someone is helping you, because you sound batsh*t crazy, especially the part where you think you are baiting a specific person who is responding to all your posts! Does she sometimes post “this” as a response? Because if so, I can totally see how you are identifying her.

Or….(*gasps*)….am I the person you are baiting and my post made it totally clear to you that it’s working?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’d be surprised how universal some stories are. I

This, I’ve seen my own experiences practically verbatim posted by others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’d be surprised how universal some stories are. I

This, I’ve seen my own experiences practically verbatim posted by others.

Correct. I just shared (again) my son's diagnoses in the special needs forum, the long list of them, what we did with the school, and how we managed our strategy for college admissions, and I'm always surprised at the number of posts who reply saying their kid has the same list of diagnoses, and who are living a similar experience.

[Anonymous]

When people post about north arlington neighborhoods, schools, and swim teams/clubs and name them specifically they are very easily identifiable. It's not that big of a place. It's strange to me! I am careful not to give revealing details even though I don't live in Arlington anymore.