Visiting family member doesn’t mask on trip here

[Anonymous]

How rude of her! Sent her to a hotel. I guess she came more for a social visit then actually helping a sick family member.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone. I asked her to be sure to be extra careful on the trip because of covid, though I didn’t use the word “mask,” and she said, “I will!” I guess I should have specified. (Sister is 39, by the way.) The rest of us are masking religiously at the hospital, as is required, and when we we go anywhere in public. Social engagements have been curtailed to reduce exposure. I know there’s always risk and all, but I’m just really upset that my spouse almost died and my sister couldn’t bother to mask up. Oh, well. 11:12, you make a good point, and I do want to avoid making her a target unfairly. We’ll mask in the house for now.

The point of masking is to not catch Covid? So test her! Use a couple of different brands, if you’re in the clear and still have doubts then you can mask around her home. Test again. But the point is not masking but not catching Covid. If she doesn’t have Covid, you are free and clear. I’m sorry and hope your husband is ok.

[Anonymous]

Testing is your friend in this case.

Agree you should have specifically asked visitors to mask for a certain period before visiting. This wasn’t something you should have assumed.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am keeping good thoughts for your husband and you during this crazy time!

[Anonymous]

Op it’s much more likely that you all will pick up covid from the hospital unless you are wearing n95 masks there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op it’s much more likely that you all will pick up covid from the hospital unless you are wearing n95 masks there.

We definitely are!

[Anonymous]

I get that it is scary having a spouse in the ICU so you are focusing on things that you can control like masking yourself and asking your sister to mask up, but if you really assess it all honestly and scientifically it doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone. I asked her to be sure to be extra careful on the trip because of covid, though I didn’t use the word “mask,” and she said, “I will!” I guess I should have specified. (Sister is 39, by the way.) The rest of us are masking religiously at the hospital, as is required, and when we we go anywhere in public. Social engagements have been curtailed to reduce exposure. I know there’s always risk and all, but I’m just really upset that my spouse almost died and my sister couldn’t bother to mask up. Oh, well. 11:12, you make a good point, and I do want to avoid making her a target unfairly. We’ll mask in the house for now.

Well then, you have learned your sister is a big jerk. To act like she would do something she clearly had no intention of doing is obnoxious. Of course “be careful due to Covid” means “wear a damn mask on the plane.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get that it is scary having a spouse in the ICU so you are focusing on things that you can control like masking yourself and asking your sister to mask up, but if you really assess it all honestly and scientifically it doesn’t matter.

That is so far from true that the word “false” almost doesn’t fully cover it.

[Anonymous]

Fauci isnt even masking anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, everyone. I asked her to be sure to be extra careful on the trip because of covid, though I didn’t use the word “mask,” and she said, “I will!” I guess I should have specified. (Sister is 39, by the way.) The rest of us are masking religiously at the hospital, as is required, and when we we go anywhere in public. Social engagements have been curtailed to reduce exposure. I know there’s always risk and all, but I’m just really upset that my spouse almost died and my sister couldn’t bother to mask up. Oh, well. 11:12, you make a good point, and I do want to avoid making her a target unfairly. We’ll mask in the house for now.

Well then, you have learned your sister is a big jerk. To act like she would do something she clearly had no intention of doing is obnoxious. Of course “be careful due to Covid” means “wear a damn mask on the plane.”

Agreed. It's one thing if sister was never told or asked to do this, but it's another to hear it, agree, and then just not do it. She's a jerk. She should have just stayed home since now her presence will just bring more stress to everyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody is masking. If you wanted her to, it was absolutely on you to tell her that.

Tons of people are masking. Last Sunday I was at the birthday party and almost all the little kids were masked as were half the adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With a spouse in the ICU, I'd stick her in a hotel for a couple of days.

. This. How selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody is masking. If you wanted her to, it was absolutely on you to tell her that.

A lot of people are masking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody is masking. If you wanted her to, it was absolutely on you to tell her that.

Normally I'd agree with you, but sister is coming to help out family while BIL in ICU. I would think it is pretty obvious she needs to take extra precautions. At this point, I would rely on testing, and if you want either have her mask or you mask although that may be a little excessive.