Sister on and off drugs at college

[Anonymous]

You can’t help your sister beyond finding her a therapist to treat her trauma.

If you give her some names and chooses not to get help you can cut her off. That’s basically all you can do.

You can give your dad names of therapists to help him understand he is enabling her.

You basically say. “I love you and when you are clean you are welcome in my life”. Then you step away.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

You’re gonna need to cite that.

Also, nope. In many cases addiction is caused by low serotonin, which fuels anxiety and depression and a need to medicate those, not to mention low serotonin fuels a need for stimulus and risk-taking.

You’re obviously not a therapist and your advice based on your feels is potentially very damaging if anybody takes it seriously. In this case, you might be urging OP to seek inappropriate treatment for her sister—trauma therapy instead of appropriate meds for anxiety and depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

You’re gonna need to cite that.

Also, nope. In many cases addiction is caused by low serotonin, which fuels anxiety and depression and a need to medicate those, not to mention low serotonin fuels a need for stimulus and risk-taking.

You’re obviously not a therapist and your advice based on your feels is potentially very damaging if anybody takes it seriously. In this case, you might be urging OP to seek inappropriate treatment for her sister—trauma therapy instead of appropriate meds for anxiety and depression.

What happens 1st, trauma, then low serotonin or cortisol addiction, then anxiety/depression and anger outbursts. Then shame… then addiction.


https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=trauma+addiction+relationship&hl=en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

What do you think is causing anxiety and depression.

About 70% of addicted adults have trauma in their past.

Just playing the odds.

[Anonymous]

OP, if your sister will agree to treatment, please seek out a licensed therapist and maybe also an addiction specialist who can provide appropriate diagnosis and treatment. Please ignore the dangerous advice to seek out only trauma therapy. There are many potential causes of addiction, and correctly identifying the cause(s) and appropriate treatment will be key for recovery.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/drug-addiction/symptoms-causes/syc-20365112

From the Mayo Clinic:

Risk factors

Family history of addiction. Drug addiction is more common in some families and likely involves an increased risk based on genes. If you have a blood relative, such as a parent or sibling, with alcohol or drug addiction, you're at greater risk of developing a drug addiction.

Mental health disorder. If you have a mental health disorder such as depression, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) or post-traumatic stress disorder, you're more likely to become addicted to drugs. Using drugs can become a way of coping with painful feelings, such as anxiety, depression and loneliness, and can make these problems even worse.

Peer pressure. Peer pressure is a strong factor in starting to use and misuse drugs, particularly for young people.

Lack of family involvement. Difficult family situations or lack of a bond with your parents or siblings may increase the risk of addiction, as can a lack of parental supervision.

Early use. Using drugs at an early age can cause changes in the developing brain and increase the likelihood of progressing to drug addiction.

Taking a highly addictive drug. Some drugs, such as stimulants, cocaine or opioid painkillers, may result in faster development of addiction than other drugs. Smoking or injecting drugs can increase the potential for addiction. Taking drugs considered less addicting — so-called "light drugs" — can start you on a pathway of drug use and addiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

What do you think is causing anxiety and depression.

About 70% of addicted adults have trauma in their past.

Just playing the odds.

Anxiety and depression are very often genetic. They run in families, and certainly in DH’s. If you don’t even know this much, you have no business giving advice over the internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

What do you think is causing anxiety and depression.

About 70% of addicted adults have trauma in their past.

Just playing the odds.

Cite for that 70% figure? Oh wait, you pulled it out of your butt.

You’re playing a dangerous game with strangers’ lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

What do you think is causing anxiety and depression.

About 70% of addicted adults have trauma in their past.

Just playing the odds.

Anxiety and depression are very often genetic. They run in families, and certainly in DH’s. If you don’t even know this much, you have no business giving advice over the internet.

But you can diagnose her with anxiety and depression?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

What do you think is causing anxiety and depression.

About 70% of addicted adults have trauma in their past.

Just playing the odds.

Cite for that 70% figure? Oh wait, you pulled it out of your butt.

You’re playing a dangerous game with strangers’ lives.

https://imprintnews.org/child-trauma-2/when-trauma-slips-into-addiction/32462

https://www.gatewayfoundation.org/addiction-blog/trauma-and-addiction/

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3051362/

https://www.silvermistrecovery.com/2018/09/2019-guide-the-link-between-childhood-trauma-and/

https://www.nctsn.org/sites/default/files/resources/making_the_connection_trauma_substance_abuse.pdf

https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/addiction-brain

https://www.scranton.edu/faculty/morgan/PDF/Thoughts%20on%20the%20Interaction%20of%20Trauma,%20Addiction,%20and%20Spirituality.pdf

[Anonymous]

To all the family members that are clearly hurt by the fact that most addiction is a result of trauma, I’m sorry if that fact hurt.

I’m not saying you caused the trauma or that you should have prevented it. It’s just such a clear fact and correlation when you look at the science.

I suggest a therapist who does DBT and EMDR to treat the trauma, this also treats the anxiety and depression. Then you can treat the addiction.

Most people won’t admit to the trauma because of the shame.

Best of luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

What do you think is causing anxiety and depression.

About 70% of addicted adults have trauma in their past.

Just playing the odds.

Anxiety and depression are very often genetic. They run in families, and certainly in DH’s. If you don’t even know this much, you have no business giving advice over the internet.

But you can diagnose her with anxiety and depression?

Of course not. I’m not diagnosing her with anything. I want a professional to do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Where is your mother? Also, what happened to your sister, what pain is she trying to numb with the drugs?

“Blame the parents for everything” pp has entered the room. Because it’s never normal teenage social anxiety leading to experimentation leading to much more.

She’s not blaming the parents but she most likely was raped at some point.

Get help for projecting horrible things onto anonymous people on the interwebs.

Statistics is your friend.

There is a huge chance she has trauma. Addiction is a disease in response to something underlying, perhaps she is bipolar or schizophrenic but my $ is on trauma.

You, my lady, are the one projecting.

Oh good. Pp has diagnosed a complete stranger and recommended trauma therapy. Ruling out so many other causes, like untreated depression and anxiety or bad choice of friends.

DCUM never fails to disappoint.

What do you think is causing anxiety and depression.

About 70% of addicted adults have trauma in their past.

Just playing the odds.

Anxiety and depression are very often genetic. They run in families, and certainly in DH’s. If you don’t even know this much, you have no business giving advice over the internet.

But you can diagnose her with anxiety and depression?

Of course not. I’m not diagnosing her with anything. I want a professional to do that.

Great but find one that specializes in trauma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To all the family members that are clearly hurt by the fact that most addiction is a result of trauma, I’m sorry if that fact hurt.

I’m not saying you caused the trauma or that you should have prevented it. It’s just such a clear fact and correlation when you look at the science.

I suggest a therapist who does DBT and EMDR to treat the trauma, this also treats the anxiety and depression. Then you can treat the addiction.

Most people won’t admit to the trauma because of the shame.

Best of luck.

OP, please ignore this absolute a$$hole and get a professional diagnosis.