S/O. Why did a nanny candidate decline your offer?

[Anonymous]

Our child had more special needs than she was comfortable with.

[Anonymous]

I heard this third hand so I don’t know if it’s true but one nanny we were very interested in hiring turned us down because we had too many photographs of ourselves (DH and I) in the house. She told a friend who told a friend (who told me) that she was afraid we were narcissists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I heard this third hand so I don’t know if it’s true but one nanny we were very interested in hiring turned us down because we had too many photographs of ourselves (DH and I) in the house. She told a friend who told a friend (who told me) that she was afraid we were narcissists.

Good point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I heard this third hand so I don’t know if it’s true but one nanny we were very interested in hiring turned us down because we had too many photographs of ourselves (DH and I) in the house. She told a friend who told a friend (who told me) that she was afraid we were narcissists.

there’s a fine line. I’m equally suspicious of people who don’t have any or anything recent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is actually kinda funny:

I really loved this one candidate and had her come over to interview and meet the baby and DH. And our old dog. She came in and was really lovely. DH then fell down the entire flight of stairs and cracked his head on the hall table. He was bleeding profusely and needed stitches. The commotion caused our port old dog to poop himself right next to DH! I quickly called my MIL who lives just across the street and she ran over still wearing the pajamas. My FIL then followed with possibly the world’s largest first aid kit and started asking DH questions to test if he had brain injuries. The lovely nanny just stood there holding the baby for me.

The nanny was pretty horrified. I get it! I would have been too! She politely declined a rescheduled interview saying the commute was longer than she anticipated,

I’m sorry, but your description of the situation had me laughing. How could she not stay with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is actually kinda funny:

I really loved this one candidate and had her come over to interview and meet the baby and DH. And our old dog. She came in and was really lovely. DH then fell down the entire flight of stairs and cracked his head on the hall table. He was bleeding profusely and needed stitches. The commotion caused our port old dog to poop himself right next to DH! I quickly called my MIL who lives just across the street and she ran over still wearing the pajamas. My FIL then followed with possibly the world’s largest first aid kit and started asking DH questions to test if he had brain injuries. The lovely nanny just stood there holding the baby for me.

The nanny was pretty horrified. I get it! I would have been too! She politely declined a rescheduled interview saying the commute was longer than she anticipated,

I’m sorry, but your description of the situation had me laughing. How could she not stay with you?

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I heard this third hand so I don’t know if it’s true but one nanny we were very interested in hiring turned us down because we had too many photographs of ourselves (DH and I) in the house. She told a friend who told a friend (who told me) that she was afraid we were narcissists.

Observant nanny! How many photographs of yourselves do you have out in the common areas? I’m assuming she didn’t go into your bedroom.

[Anonymous]

If your child decides to throw a major temper tantrum during an in-person interview, that alone can turn off many prospective Nannies.

Especially if the parents simply say, “Oh little Johnny never acts up like this” or “Oh no! He missed his nap today and…..”

[Anonymous]

She did not want me direct breastfeeding the baby during the day. And she was not excited about starting with my 3 year old who had never been in childcare before.

[Anonymous]

She was ultra cautious and didn’t like that I let my kids take some risks at the playground

[Anonymous]

Nanny of 25 years here. I’ve stayed several years at all my positions, this is why I decline after a trial:

- work at home parents
- too high profile of a celebrity = extra work/drama
- unrealistic expectations
- wanting a nanny to be your childcare provider plus ‘light’ housekeeping, plus meal prep, plus cooking, plus groceries, plus errands, plus teach your kids a foreign language plus plus plus
- families who want you to work non stop and won’t let you just sit for 20 mins during nap time in a 12 hr day to recharge
- micromanaging through the cameras
- when they complained about former nannies or had high turnover

[Anonymous]

*paying taxes.
*requesting a background check.
*requesting to not take our infant out.

[Anonymous]

I’ve declined offer twice due to:

—Family won’t reimburse mileage, they thought the rate of$28 would cover gasoline. They wanted me to drive the kid up and down the street, activities, malls.
—No Health Care stipend
—“Light housekeeping” that included parents laundry and cook DM steak and broccoli.
—Grandma visits a few times weekly.
—No workers comp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I heard this third hand so I don’t know if it’s true but one nanny we were very interested in hiring turned us down because we had too many photographs of ourselves (DH and I) in the house. She told a friend who told a friend (who told me) that she was afraid we were narcissists.

there’s a fine line. I’m equally suspicious of people who don’t have any or anything recent.

Bizarre. We don’t keep any photos of ourselves, new or old, on display in public areas of the house. I don’t really think it says anything about us except that we just don’t take many photos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I heard this third hand so I don’t know if it’s true but one nanny we were very interested in hiring turned us down because we had too many photographs of ourselves (DH and I) in the house. She told a friend who told a friend (who told me) that she was afraid we were narcissists.

there’s a fine line. I’m equally suspicious of people who don’t have any or anything recent.

Bizarre. We don’t keep any photos of ourselves, new or old, on display in public areas of the house. I don’t really think it says anything about us except that we just don’t take many photos.

Same.