Advice: I had an altercation with a homeless person

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I would have called the police. Assault is assault. The next person might not be so lucky to get a drink in thier face. It could be worse.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. I'm from San Francisco and I remember once a mentally ill woman threw a cup of hot coffee on me while i was crossing the street. I was so shocked (it hurt, but luckily I wasn't permanently burned) I didn't know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ 20:39. I never give to homeless people. I spent my childhood in Paris, where there are organized bands of gypsies that force their women to beg on street corners holding dirty babies, and force their kids to pick pockets on the metro. I've got too much experience with that to ever enable any of it. I also do not want to encourage panhandlers begging on the medians, it's extremely dangerous for them, as the risk of car collisions is high.

Instead, I vote for politicians who create programs to develop permanent housing for homeless people, and I donate to women's and children's shelters.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was walking with my son on 14th street to get ice cream but got distracted and soon realized we were turned around. I stopped on a corner - was talking to my son and a homeless guy took a Frappuccino out the garbage and hit me in the face. I was stunned but was scared. We went into Teds bulletin to rinse off and wait a while for the guy to leave. I then just asked a staff to accompany me to the corner to cross the street. Of course this was traumatic but I also had a hard time explaining to my son what happened and how to deal. He is 6. He was nervous, I was nervous.. all my best judgement went out the window. I’ve given homeless people money on occasion - to show my son empathy. I dont think I ever want to do that again. I feel violated.
Im also a bit scared now - is there anything I can do better? Any thing I can teach my son? I also wanted to fight back but something in me said it wasn’t worth it. This is weird to ask for advice — but if you have any that would be great. I’m lucky it was just a drink and not glass or spit or metal.

You should have reported it to police and still can. That is the lesson for your son. Years ago I was flashed in the stacks at old B+ N in Gtown. Staff made a feeble attempt to catch the guy running out of the store. I had a good look at ALL of him and should have reported it then or after. Instead, like many women, I let shock and my namby pamby husband who was there and did nothing take over. Terrible lesson for our daughter. Who knows what the flasher went on to do? Women have been murdered by aggressive crazy homeless on 14th Street. Don't know if you are a man or woman but report it! There will be video footage and you can ID this a**-hat, or mentally ill person, who violated you in front of your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was walking with my son on 14th street to get ice cream but got distracted and soon realized we were turned around. I stopped on a corner - was talking to my son and a homeless guy took a Frappuccino out the garbage and hit me in the face. I was stunned but was scared. We went into Teds bulletin to rinse off and wait a while for the guy to leave. I then just asked a staff to accompany me to the corner to cross the street. Of course this was traumatic but I also had a hard time explaining to my son what happened and how to deal. He is 6. He was nervous, I was nervous.. all my best judgement went out the window. I’ve given homeless people money on occasion - to show my son empathy. I dont think I ever want to do that again. I feel violated.
Im also a bit scared now - is there anything I can do better? Any thing I can teach my son? I also wanted to fight back but something in me said it wasn’t worth it. This is weird to ask for advice — but if you have any that would be great. I’m lucky it was just a drink and not glass or spit or metal.

You should've called the police so they can write down his info such as address and phone number.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was walking with my son on 14th street to get ice cream but got distracted and soon realized we were turned around. I stopped on a corner - was talking to my son and a homeless guy took a Frappuccino out the garbage and hit me in the face. I was stunned but was scared. We went into Teds bulletin to rinse off and wait a while for the guy to leave. I then just asked a staff to accompany me to the corner to cross the street. Of course this was traumatic but I also had a hard time explaining to my son what happened and how to deal. He is 6. He was nervous, I was nervous.. all my best judgement went out the window. I’ve given homeless people money on occasion - to show my son empathy. I dont think I ever want to do that again. I feel violated.
Im also a bit scared now - is there anything I can do better? Any thing I can teach my son? I also wanted to fight back but something in me said it wasn’t worth it. This is weird to ask for advice — but if you have any that would be great. I’m lucky it was just a drink and not glass or spit or metal.

You should have reported it to police and still can. That is the lesson for your son. Years ago I was flashed in the stacks at old B+ N in Gtown. Staff made a feeble attempt to catch the guy running out of the store. I had a good look at ALL of him and should have reported it then or after. Instead, like many women, I let shock and my namby pamby husband who was there and did nothing take over. Terrible lesson for our daughter. Who knows what the flasher went on to do? Women have been murdered by aggressive crazy homeless on 14th Street. Don't know if you are a man or woman but report it! There will be video footage and you can ID this a**-hat, or mentally ill person, who violated you in front of your child.

So I’m a woman. Is it too late to report this? I’m 100% sure if I went down 14th he would be there.

[Anonymous]

Don’t ever give money to homeless people. You are asking to be assaulted. Ask me how I know.

[Anonymous]

I think it is a learning experience for your child that homeless people who are loitering on streets are often mentally ill or using drugs and should be avoided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because one person who may or may not have been homeless you no longer want to give money to homeless people? Weird logic.

Nobody stopped you from doing good. Start from yourself.

[Anonymous]

I stay far away from homeless people. I have a friend who was punched in the stomach while walking down the street. I was spat upon with a luggy. I don't give money or go anywhere near homeless people. Many of them are mentally ill and unpredictable. No. I am not politically correct. However, I value my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was walking with my son on 14th street to get ice cream but got distracted and soon realized we were turned around. I stopped on a corner - was talking to my son and a homeless guy took a Frappuccino out the garbage and hit me in the face. I was stunned but was scared. We went into Teds bulletin to rinse off and wait a while for the guy to leave. I then just asked a staff to accompany me to the corner to cross the street. Of course this was traumatic but I also had a hard time explaining to my son what happened and how to deal. He is 6. He was nervous, I was nervous.. all my best judgement went out the window. I’ve given homeless people money on occasion - to show my son empathy. I dont think I ever want to do that again. I feel violated.
Im also a bit scared now - is there anything I can do better? Any thing I can teach my son? I also wanted to fight back but something in me said it wasn’t worth it. This is weird to ask for advice — but if you have any that would be great. I’m lucky it was just a drink and not glass or spit or metal.

You should have reported it to police and still can. That is the lesson for your son. Years ago I was flashed in the stacks at old B+ N in Gtown. Staff made a feeble attempt to catch the guy running out of the store. I had a good look at ALL of him and should have reported it then or after. Instead, like many women, I let shock and my namby pamby husband who was there and did nothing take over. Terrible lesson for our daughter. Who knows what the flasher went on to do? Women have been murdered by aggressive crazy homeless on 14th Street. Don't know if you are a man or woman but report it! There will be video footage and you can ID this a**-hat, or mentally ill person, who violated you in front of your child.

So I’m a woman. Is it too late to report this? I’m 100% sure if I went down 14th he would be there.

Please report him and ask people in your neighborhood to report him (NextDoor). I am sure he is bullying/assaulting a lot of other women.

[Anonymous]

I was spit on by a homeless lady years ago (during the Obama administration!) and it was terrible and clear we had a problem with mentally ill homeless then. It has only gotten worse and the reason for this problem is that mentally ill people are left on the streets to their devices. This isn’t a DC politician problem but a problem created by Ronald Reagan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was spit on by a homeless lady years ago (during the Obama administration!) and it was terrible and clear we had a problem with mentally ill homeless then. It has only gotten worse and the reason for this problem is that mentally ill people are left on the streets to their devices. This isn’t a DC politician problem but a problem created by Ronald Reagan.

Plenty of mentally ill people don't assault others. These are bullies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was spit on by a homeless lady years ago (during the Obama administration!) and it was terrible and clear we had a problem with mentally ill homeless then. It has only gotten worse and the reason for this problem is that mentally ill people are left on the streets to their devices. This isn’t a DC politician problem but a problem created by Ronald Reagan.

Plenty of mentally ill people don't assault others. These are bullies.

These mentally ill people, peaceful or not, should not be living on the streets. Reagan did cause this. The problem lies in the fact that these sick people cannot be forced into hospitals even by loving family members who want them safe and clean. No one deserves to live like this.

[Anonymous]

This could have been my brother, OP. He’s mentally ill and on the street. My family will gladly pay for his treatment and life in a hospital but federal law says he can’t be held against his will. And yes, for that you can thank the Republicans and Ronald Reagan. He can’t be forced to stay on his meds and he can’t be forced to even stay in a shelter. We’ve tried paying for apartments for him but he won’t stay in them because he thinks the government is trying to poison him or we’re trying to suffocate him or any number of crazy ideas.

Interestingly, when our grandmother developed Alzheimer’s we could get her into a locked memory center where she was safe and clean and fed. Why can’t we do this with mentally ill family members?