Have you ever fired fake friends?

[Anonymous]

I have eliminated planning things with certain so-called friends when I realized I wasn't getting anything from the relationship, but I did not turn rude to them. Just smiled and moved on, politely declined invitations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP and also I caution you, OP to ignore or unfollow these so called friends on social media.

When I mention that the women tried to compete and vie for attention from the Queen Bee, it was all over Facebook or Instagram or the QB’s blog! Insidious. Pics posted with captions like, “dinner with my favorite people” or “cheers to BFFs” or “she’s my rock” or “Girls Weekend - thanks to Larla for letting us stay in your fab beach house!”

For the love of god. I think we live in the same neighborhood. I think these women are mentally ill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP and also I caution you, OP to ignore or unfollow these so called friends on social media.

When I mention that the women tried to compete and vie for attention from the Queen Bee, it was all over Facebook or Instagram or the QB’s blog! Insidious. Pics posted with captions like, “dinner with my favorite people” or “cheers to BFFs” or “she’s my rock” or “Girls Weekend - thanks to Larla for letting us stay in your fab beach house!”

This sounds exhausting. Sounds like you’re still a little bent over it.

[Anonymous]

If behaving like you feel means to ignore, then go ahead. Polite waves. Very busy bustling around. They’ll just move on. And if you’re really only in touch that’s sporadically, it shouldn’t take long for it to dwindle to nothing

[Anonymous]

Kids are going to college?? Now is your moment to wave and continue driving by. Don’t make it a bigger problem.

[Anonymous]

Where is this neighborhood or are there always situations like this? Deja vu!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP and also I caution you, OP to ignore or unfollow these so called friends on social media.

When I mention that the women tried to compete and vie for attention from the Queen Bee, it was all over Facebook or Instagram or the QB’s blog! Insidious. Pics posted with captions like, “dinner with my favorite people” or “cheers to BFFs” or “she’s my rock” or “Girls Weekend - thanks to Larla for letting us stay in your fab beach house!”

This sounds exhausting. Sounds like you’re still a little bent over it.

I was already in a sorority years ago. Don’t need this as a happily-married DW of 24 years with 3DC, a great career and working towards a graduate degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thinking about doing a serious culling of so called neighborhood friends. I’ve found it mentally draining for years to be friendly with them and now that our kids are going to college, I’m wondering if I can just call time. I mean can I just stop fake smiling when we pass and stop responding to them when they need something, which is basically the only time they text or call. I feel like I’d respect myself more if I just behaved like I felt toward them.

I can’t wait to dump all the fake friendships once my kids are off to college. I have 10 years to go but already think about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP and also I caution you, OP to ignore or unfollow these so called friends on social media.

When I mention that the women tried to compete and vie for attention from the Queen Bee, it was all over Facebook or Instagram or the QB’s blog! Insidious. Pics posted with captions like, “dinner with my favorite people” or “cheers to BFFs” or “she’s my rock” or “Girls Weekend - thanks to Larla for letting us stay in your fab beach house!”

This sounds exhausting. Sounds like you’re still a little bent over it.

+1

“Ride or die!!” Lolz

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Where is this neighborhood or are there always situations like this? Deja vu!

I think it’s in tons of places. There are several neighborhood “friends” who I can’t wait to drop. One I already have, but unfortunately she lives next door so it’s a pain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thinking about doing a serious culling of so called neighborhood friends. I’ve found it mentally draining for years to be friendly with them and now that our kids are going to college, I’m wondering if I can just call time. I mean can I just stop fake smiling when we pass and stop responding to them when they need something, which is basically the only time they text or call. I feel like I’d respect myself more if I just behaved like I felt toward them.

I can’t wait to dump all the fake friendships once my kids are off to college. I have 10 years to go but already think about it.

This blows my mind!

Doesn’t it ever occur to you guys that YOU are being fake yourself. How strange that all of your “friends” are merely tolerating each other with plans to ghost already made but you all just keep up the charade. What a weird culture to want to model for your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thinking about doing a serious culling of so called neighborhood friends. I’ve found it mentally draining for years to be friendly with them and now that our kids are going to college, I’m wondering if I can just call time. I mean can I just stop fake smiling when we pass and stop responding to them when they need something, which is basically the only time they text or call. I feel like I’d respect myself more if I just behaved like I felt toward them.

I can’t wait to dump all the fake friendships once my kids are off to college. I have 10 years to go but already think about it.

This blows my mind!

Doesn’t it ever occur to you guys that YOU are being fake yourself. How strange that all of your “friends” are merely tolerating each other with plans to ghost already made but you all just keep up the charade. What a weird culture to want to model for your children.

I guarantee op actually never does anything for any of her neighbors. I have one of these who makes it sound like she the bridge to everyone in the neighborhood when in fact no. She's a queen bee wanna be. I "fired" her years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are going to college?? Now is your moment to wave and continue driving by. Don’t make it a bigger problem.

Op isn't the type to let it go. She wants a street fight.

[Anonymous]

I think OP is looking for substantive friendships. What is on offer are superficial friendships, transactional if you will. Fundamental mismatch. OP, you don’t need to fire them, just look for real friends. Let the Facebookers and Insta posters keep working on their likes.

[Anonymous]

OP don't waste your time on fake friendships.