How are you ruining your kids

[Anonymous]

when I was a kid we did a lot of vacations around the US doing history things, and we do none of it - not Boston, not Williamsburg, no forts and battlefields.

I found these trips boring but sometimes interesting as a kid.

So instead we do theme parks and entertainment. I feel shallow

[Anonymous]

I don't monitor screen time beyond putting on parental controls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teaching my kids a second language. I really thought I’d be able to teach my kids French since I was a French major in college and lived in France - but it’s just too much work!!

+1 German speaker here (as a second language -- fluent but not native). It's especially discouraging when your kid rebels against the second language. I've mostly given up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:when I was a kid we did a lot of vacations around the US doing history things, and we do none of it - not Boston, not Williamsburg, no forts and battlefields.

I found these trips boring but sometimes interesting as a kid.

So instead we do theme parks and entertainment. I feel shallow

I took my kids to Williamsburg and all we did was Great Wolf Lodge.

I think you and I could be friends!

[Anonymous]

I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.

Ugh parents like you are the worst. This is how we end up with kids shooting up schools. Rules don't apply to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gave them my genes for anxiety. Let them play video games and watch whatever they want on tv. Discipline inconsistently. Allow junk food. Simultaneously hover and ignore. Also, pretty sure I dropped both of them more than once as babies.

Coming to say these EXACT same things! LMAO… great minds…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too much screen time
Not making them do enough chores

I give my youngest way too much screen time and haven't put in any effort to teach her to read (whereas I was tiger mom with our older kids), but ironically, she's easily the smartest at this age.

[Anonymous]

I’m doing a great job and anyone who says otherwise can go f$& themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.

Ugh parents like you are the worst. This is how we end up with kids shooting up schools. Rules don't apply to you.

NP here but I think YOU are the worst for trying to equate eating a granola bar on a train with raising a mass shooter. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

By sending them to public school. Wish we could afford private.

[Anonymous]

I let her watch Doc McStuffins, which is annoying and dumb with a know-it-all main character, which makes my DD act like a know it all, but she loves it and and buys me some peace. Worth it, sorry to get peers who she tries to boss around. We’ll cut her off before it’s too late, hopefully.

I’ve also mostly given up on the picky eating thing. She eats a balanced diet, but definitely only has like 20 foods she’ll eat. Oh well, I’m tired. It will sort itself out.

She’s an only and I sometimes feel this will make her too entitled and not independent enough. I do actually work at addressing those pitfalls but I’m not willing to have another kid so we’ll see!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:when I was a kid we did a lot of vacations around the US doing history things, and we do none of it - not Boston, not Williamsburg, no forts and battlefields.

I found these trips boring but sometimes interesting as a kid. So instead we do theme parks and entertainment. I feel shallow

Ugh, my parents dragged us to museums and historical sites and my mother would stand there reading the notes of every single painting in the museum. My brother and I would literally be waiting in the lobby for over an hour. Hated it. For years after I escaped, I never went to museums. Now as an adult, I go and take my kids, but we keep things moving!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't follow all rules, if they don't work for us. People here are horrified by that, but I don't think it's a big deal. I teach my kids to think critically. For example: there is no eating or drinking on mass transit. But years ago my DD was assigned in the lottery to an elementary school that required us to leave home at 7am to get to her school on time. Not a morning girl, I got her up as late as possible which meant she ate breakfast on the train. Never foods that created crumbs, and she never left trash on the train. So no big deal. People here were HORRIFIED that I wasn't teaching her to follow all rules.

Ugh parents like you are the worst. This is how we end up with kids shooting up schools. Rules don't apply to you.

Ah, there you are! Thanks for playing your role to prove my point!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teaching my kids a second language. I really thought I’d be able to teach my kids French since I was a French major in college and lived in France - but it’s just too much work!!

+1 German speaker here (as a second language -- fluent but not native). It's especially discouraging when your kid rebels against the second language. I've mostly given up.

+2 I was so optimistic about teaching my kids my hard one second language when I was first pregnant. I was so naive. I takes SO MUCH work and I am not remotely fluent enough for that.

Also not modeling good screen habits.